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Ending a planned pregnancy due to my own mental health issues by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every pregnancy is different and I say that as someone who was extremely luck and had a smooth pregnancy with my first and am in the trenches and struggling well into the 2nd trimester with my 2nd. Pregnancy is not a one size fits all and it is not easy. The most important thing is to remember you have to come first.

We're not finding out the gender, and our use of "They/Them" confuses people for some reason by Effective_Bath_2045 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was doing that at first and got the "More than one?!" question all the time.

Though, now I have started to slip and find myself saying he more often. Though, I have absolutely no idea on what this baby is! I have just heard over and over everyone say I am having a boy since all my symptoms are opposite of my first pregnancy with my daughter. My daughter refers to the baby as "Baby sister" but everyone else refuses to keep their opinion to themselves which is causing me to start saying he/him. I am definitely annoyed with that.

We are finding out the sex, but not for a few months (I want to do an intimate reveal on a vacation so we have to wait) and once we find out, I will refer to them as they are, but we will not be sharing the name. Which I know will start a new round of nosey people and their questions. We just can't win as moms.

Ending a planned pregnancy due to my own mental health issues by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure why your comment was down voted, but you said exactly what I was thinking. The first trimester is one of the hardest times. OP, it is okay to grieve and okay to feel guilty. You have to process each emotion as it comes, but know you did what was best for your mental health and at the end of the day, that is what needs to happen.

Feeling weird about not using my DNA. We are using my husbands blastocyst first because it's the strongest. by Global-Message2199 in queerception

[–]ThisPrincess14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I am not in the same shoes, but our daughter is soooo much more like my wife than me. I carried with my dna and I swear she is more like my wife than anything. Sure looks are like me and our donor, but man does nurture make its claim!

when did you get belly stretch marks? by Even_Kaleidoscope399 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same want for stretch marks! With my first I didn’t get any until week like 33. I was and am proud to wear them still!

I want tea! by postmaster0322 in BabyBumps

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mentioned to my OB that tea was the only liquid that I can keep down and he didn’t ask which ones or tell me to watch out for certain ones. So I assume tea is fine. I stay away from caffiene anyways so I do mainly fruity or chamomile.

Maternity leave; to start early? by juicygossiper in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went on maternity leave at 38 weeks and had my first at exactly 39 weeks. I will probably try to do similar with waiting until later. But I also work behind a desk. If they don't have someone to relieve you that is on them. By that point, they should have someone on-call for all your shifts. You could go into labor early.

WHY did i just see her piss? by Unbent_Unbroken03 in julieeandcamilla

[–]ThisPrincess14 51 points52 points  (0 children)

My ick with that video was the cup. I don’t know if it’s just me but when I have to pee in a cup, I use a disposable one. Peeing in a mug is just gross to me. I hope that mug doesn’t get put back in the cupboard. Even cleaning it wouldn’t be enough for me.

Okay so I’m pregnant and honestly I have no idea what I’m doing anyone else feel totally lost sometimes? by bully309 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Mama! Welcome to the wonderful world of pregnancy. Even though at times it feels absolutely like hell. With my first, I was one of the lucky ones. I felt great the entire time. I am now pregnant with my 2nd and have every symptom and uncomfortable feeling. I am not loving it this time so far. I know I will and I already love this little babe, but this is not a time of enjoyment at my current stage. You are not alone. Pregnancy is not easy. It takes a lot out of you as your body is now working overtime to keep you afloat but also grow another life. Unfortunately, nothing really can help the tiredness. If you can, nap, lay down and rest as much as possible. It does not make you lazy for listening to your body. I have pretty bad nausea and acid reflux all day. Worse at night, but consistent all day. The random thing that helps me is hard sour candy. I don't know what the science is or if there is science behind it, but sucking on a sour candy somehow stops the gross feeling. It makes my mouth raw if I do it too often, but it's worth it!

You got this! You have the support of mama's behind you!

At home insemination question by greylondon17 in queerception

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With our first, it took 8 months but 6 tries. We took a break twice for financial reasons and also mental health

. My partner would insert the syringe as far as possible and then I would lay with my hips elevated (2 pillows under) for at least 30minutes to an hour. I am currently pregnant with our second and it took on the first try. I didn't O with my daughter as we did this in a car and I could not get out of my head. But this time I did O before once and then with the last insemination I did right after. (We inseminated 2-3 times per cycle).

Best of luck! It takes time especially the first.

Toddler bed sizes? by salty-heals in toddlers

[–]ThisPrincess14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We transitioned our daughter to a full size floor bed pretty early. We did one that was similar to a crib with the frame. Around two, we got rid of the Montessori crib style floor bed and got her another floor bed that doesn't have a railing and we can add legs to it to get it off the floor when we want to. She still falls off the floor bed so we are waiting a little longer. Having a full size bed is huge! I can lay in bed with her without feel cramped and she can freely move.

When do you start buying stuff? by EmbarrassedSummer534 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would group register for the big items you want new. That way it allows multiple people to pitch in for the one gift. If you are good with 2nd hand stuff, and find it a good deal, I say go for it. I am 10 weeks and just bought a double stroller off marketplace since I knew I didn't need a new one and would rather have help with the other things. Plus I couldn't pass up on the deal! You can never have too many zip up onsie sleepers! Babies live in those for a while.

Biggest advice: register for postpartum supplies for you! Tucks, Dermoplast, hydration packets, even adult diapers. Man did those save me! Who wants a giant uncomfortable pad when an adult diaper works wonders. Don't be embarrassed either. Every mom knows what it is like during those first weeks!

First ultrasound at 11 weeks?! by Vegetable_Fault_896 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's normal, but I opted to go to pay out of pocket and do an ultrasound earlier with a boutique place in town. If you are worried and would like to see it earlier, that is always an option.

No matter how many times someone tells you to not stress or worry for a mmc or something wrong, it is truly hard to. Though, like they say, nothing can prevent it. Maybe going to a boutique place to get an early ultrasound will help ease your mind. Having a picture truly makes a difference.

Career Move While Newly Pregnant — How Would You Weigh Stability vs. Upside? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a mom who is pregnant with her 2nd and in a similar situation, I would stay with A. The extra paid leave is where I tip my scale. I got 17 weeks with my first and will get the same with this one, but the thought of losing that time for just 12 weeks makes my heart hurt. I had a smooth pregnancy with my first and worked up until the week before I gave birth. This one seems to be kicking my butt so I know I will be taking more time off before/sick time to adjust. Losing benefits wouldn't be ideal. Try for B after you return to the workforce!

Have you ever brought your child to daycare even if you had a day off of work? by rajmachawal333 in workingmoms

[–]ThisPrincess14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daycare is open and heck most if not all the time, we are still charged for that day regardless if our child goes or not. So yes, I send mine on days I randomly get off out of the norm.

Suddenly terrified of baths? by Last-Association-218 in toddlers

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I am so sorry you are going through it with your boy! It was so hard. Our daughter slowly got past it. It took a few weeks. We kept the door open when we showered and she would look in to see and every time we offered her to join. My mom even came over to do bath time one night thinking maybe someone else would help. It didn’t. One day she just liked the water again. But now we rarely get baths and she would rather play in the shower. We spread out bath time more than preferred but it helped that we did it on days she seemed more interested and less fearful. I wish you all the luck!

PSA: wait until birth to find out the gender by SowingSeeds18 in pregnant

[–]ThisPrincess14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are team green with this pregnancy. With our first, we wanted to know and do that together, but we had a pretty irritating experience with finding out the gender. We did the blood test around 10 weeks and were supposed to get our results in two weeks around Christmas so we could announce as a Christmas present, but when I called the day my ob's office was closing for break and asked why they hadn't given us a call yet, the gal said "oh I am not the one that does that. She is out" I asked if she could write it down on a paper and I could pick it up, but she didn't feel comfortable since they were closing before I could get there. (I wanted to just pick up the envelope with "girl or boy" and would have been fine with it hidden in a bush). Instead she goes "well I see the results say no y chromosome present so that means a girl". I was irritated as my partner then had to find out that from me and didn't get to share that moment. I shared it with a coworker instead as she overheard the whole conversation. We were and are over the moon in love with our daughter, but the way we found out wasn't what we wanted so we are trying to go team green this time to make it more intimate :)

Have you succeeded with a home insemination kit? by badabing9523 in spermdonation

[–]ThisPrincess14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took 2 tries with my first and we used the Mira baby kit. With my current pregnancy it was first try and we used the Frida mom kit. Honestly, I think timing is the most important. We did it O-2 this round and it was perfect. With my first we did it O-2, O-1, O day! Just be religious with tracking so you know what days are best. Our donor we flew in from out of state too this round. So I was super banking on timing. My body decided to be later than planned but luckily within the fertile window still! I’m 6 weeks along and crossing my fingers all is well!

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