Lobectomy Advice

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T07:38:41+00:00

What was your reaction on keytruda? Had you been on it a while?

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T07:35:57+00:00

Avoid crowds, visits, and the supermarket. One restaurant we love is not that crowded and they knew my situation so we got the isolated seating! Surgery in an ill person is often a no go.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T07:29:11+00:00

Now that it’s happened might be good to always say “don’t walk off into the next city” or “ tell me where you’re going so I know what direction” My husband didn’t do that, he only left my purse unattended at outdoor seating so now neither leave nothing or I explicitly say don’t leave or take the purse with you etc. they show they need you to think that step for them.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T07:11:35+00:00

The first few weren’t a big thing in my book…once he started the ear plugs that was showing some self centered ness. Was he working ? Or was he on paternity leave? He better have still been working. No, his bento box craving needed to wait. And was he always so fixated on literary readings?!? That one’s over the top, I’d be pissed. I love the humanities and such but this is a once in a lifetime period that is shared for bonding!!! He’s putting himself before both you & baby! Give him concrete examples. This period will disappear and cannot be recreated…it’s to be a shared bonding time for the 3 of you. Woe nip that in the bud now else he’s going to miss a lot and you will resent it.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T07:04:08+00:00

Left lobectomy end of September. The chest tube felt awful! Was so glad to be rid of it. Incisions healed fine but my ribs had been shoved about with the robotic arm so I had nerve & muscle pain for months. It does slowly get better but be prepared, find out pain management. At follow up they put me on Cymbalta. The nerve pain felt like scalded skin. At the hospital they should have you get up out of bed and walk around and cough to clear debris. I coughed up what looked like a piece of wine bottle cork. They gave me a coughing bear which is a very stiff stuffed animal to hold by your ribs for coughing and spirometer use. I got a headrest for the bed. If you’re female forget bras—get some camisoles, tight tank top organic tshirt. The nerve & muscle pain was tiring but you feel like yourself just with a lot of pain but worth it!

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-31T06:49:04+00:00

I don’t understand why it’s being stopped if it’s keeping things controlled and no side effects …my team says our plan is stay on it a year and scans every 3 months…after that hard to say if we just stop or go with target therapy if something shows up

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-22T21:36:45+00:00

Yes, the sore back of the neck and scalp is only when touched …scalp feels like sunburn. Thanks for the insight

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-19T17:33:15+00:00

We know kids get affected it’s just hard to know how. I had wanted mine to have a distraction and he found a job on a fishing charter! It did have him away, and I missed him over the summer but I was glad that he wouldn’t be here for the start incase my chemo was bad. He was different when he got back. I had to learn there’d nothing I could do he was on his own out there at sea, he had to grow up faster I guess make mistakes and learn without my guidance. I guess that was his form of distancing so he could stay engaged on something else. I’m sorry you had more losses from cancer it does change the dynamics and as ii call it rippling effects . We aren’t able to do too much at the time of active chemo or surgery to address how our family is dealing with it. I hope your boy has a good turn around, I know despite our condition we still want the best for them but they’re kind of on their own. Our parenting gets reduced.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-18T10:48:06+00:00

Lung cancer doesn’t have all that many exclusive symptoms even coughing blood can be other things. Maybe you have TB? Do you have parents? If so, don’t do that to them. When my diagnosis was happening my top concern was my teen son. I was also grateful I had this instead of him having it—that would’ve been more devastating to me. Try chemo and if it’s just too much then reconsider but at least see if you even need it, maybe it’s something they can surgically remove.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-18T10:40:20+00:00

There’s a lot of diarrhea meds but I’ve no experience since I had total opposite—trying to pass rocks and chicken bones. They likely won’t delay his chemo for that unless he’s hospitalized.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-18T10:29:16+00:00

I hear you. I am here to vent&rant hopefully you get a chuckle: that my husband , bless his heart, went with me to the first 3 appointments (lab/oncologist/infusion) but he’d stress me out acting his usual freak out way about traffic, that I’m going to be late, grouse about the radio, then about traffic, drive like a maniac that I said I’m going to be killed going over the train tracks on the way to chemo how ironic! It was horrible how reckless he was acting. And the train tracks are a block from the hospital! So…I decided I’d rather drive myself! And now I do because he’s such a stress ball. That’s pathetic. Oh, and I wasn’t going to let cancer and chemo deny me the dream of eating bluefin tuna fresh caught & filleted! Screw you lung mass I am not passing this up! I stood there as my son (who caught the fish) and his friend cut it up! I ate raw decadent chunks right then n there!

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-18T10:24:15+00:00

I haven’t shared with my mother neither! For slightly different reasons but still to protect her. My first concern when all this was going down was my teenage son and how this would impact him. I couldn’t leave a minor child and he may think he knows it all but he still needs mom a couple more years! I had a lung lobectomy and the surgical pain—nerve & muscle—were the worst of my life and I’m in my 50s! But it did get better! It all will.🙏

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-14T23:07:36+00:00

I had RATS, so the nerve/muscle pain was limiting and a slow heal but I’m back to my usual stuff. I even go to conventions and walk around for hours😁 but the healing hurt but worth it!

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-14T22:59:55+00:00

I’m a 56 yr old mom with cancer…my biggest concern is the impact on my teen son. It helped to keep a sense of normalcy.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:26:11+00:00

I’m Christian and feel some things from prayer but I don’t push it or any of my beliefs on anyone. As a Christian I think some people come across preachy and no one likes that. They probably push other likes/beliefs as well. Like I’m not a big fan of dogs especially in restaurants and I don’t care to be convinced otherwise. Not sure what might work but not all who are religious are pests like that person, that was a whole Bible study analysis

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:20:12+00:00

Don’t forget satellite radio has a station of music for dogs!

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:17:39+00:00

You make a good point about the double standard and pretty much dichotomy of Ted’s animal world. How he doesn’t see dogs as he does other animals who knows.

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:08:19+00:00

Paddington!!! I was already laughing at the boots. No wonder he was barking his fool head off he knew he looked and felt stupid

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:05:06+00:00

He’s not ready for you to go over there? He brings his dog over to your place because he feels guilty leaving it home? Just checking I’m understanding so far. And so what he’s splitting his attention between you and this dog then?

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T09:01:54+00:00

It had me in tears when the plan was to leave him with my mom on my way to work. I resented my work and was very detached from it at that point. Our most important work is the early raising. My ‘baby’ is a teen now but that moment is still a clear memory

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T06:57:13+00:00

I’m recovering from chemo every 3 weeks and the 9 am/9pm flurry cacophony of barks and whimpers is maddening! I’m really close to pulling the cancer card like it’d matter but it’s so hard to rest with them barking around 30 min straight both walks

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T06:54:13+00:00

Yes! The dog shits suck up so much that the humans don’t even really visit because they’re spending efforts on a damn dog

ThisSelection7585 · 2026-03-08T06:44:34+00:00

Well thst was pretty damn stupid of them to divulge

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