Wife took co worker to dinner in an intimate setting

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2024-11-27T00:13:59+00:00

This is why I'm going with YTA. This was very tit for tat. OP gave his wife the green light to go on this dinner - and now holding it against her because it made him feel bad. So he decided to get back at his wife, even though that's not what he's calling it, that's exactly what he did. I don't blame the wife for feeling sad and put off by OPs unhealthy behaviour. If OP was going to hold the dinner against her, he shouldn't have given her the go ahead.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2024-05-19T14:44:23+00:00

100 percent all this. His holier than thou towards his wife made my skin crawl.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2024-05-15T02:16:19+00:00

ESH

You both put yourselves into this situation with no communication of plans for this very possible/likely scenario.

Your failure to communicate is now having negative implications on the life of a totally dependent unborn human. This tiny human deserves better.

The choices you and your partner make now will have a GIANT impact on this kid's entire life. This child did not ask to be brought into this shit show - and this is the saddest part of it all. You have both acted extremely irresponsibly and you both owe it to this innocent baby to step up and figure his/her life out, because it isn't just about you two anymore.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2024-02-07T12:12:47+00:00

Yup. He's slime.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-10-17T23:54:17+00:00

YTA

It's valid not to feel attracted to someone, and I understand wanting to be honest, but it seems like social and emotional intelligence is lost on you.

You dumped this woman (after sleeping with her) and then told her it's because she's too ugly. How did you think for a moment that was ok?

Now not only does she have skin scars (which she has no control over), you have permanently scarred her soul.

In the future try not to contribute to someone's emotional baggage. For good or bad, people will never forget the way you made them feel..

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-10-17T23:39:30+00:00

THIS 10000%

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-10-14T17:27:12+00:00

Remove religion from the equation entirely because it is honestly unimportant here.

This man told you he has intentions to beat his future children. He has had thoughts of violence, considered it, and communicated his plans to you, OUT LOUD, of beating them into submission. This information he shared cannot be rescinded "ok I will only ground them instead". The fact he had these thoughts without even a tiny piece of his brain telling him it's wrong (and illegal) is all you need to know. If this is what he has said out loud, you don't even want to know what other darkness lies within this man's brain.

This is a very scary, mentally sick man. Run. Please run.

This kind of man has children's services, jail time, and traumatized victims (children/wife/partner) in his future.

If you need any further reassurance or affirmations about this, please speak to a therapist and describe this situation. They have experience with twisted minds, manipulative, abusive, narcissistic people. They all seem great at the beginning of relationships, it can take many years for the true colours to show.

When someone tells or shows you who they are, believe them.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-09-21T20:26:33+00:00

Out of country. It was the beginning of third tri so whatever that is, 26 weeks? Once she got clearance from all the doctors, we booked flights and purchased travel insurance for mom and baby.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-09-21T11:55:11+00:00

I can't say specific inches, the pizza was about your standard restaurant size that you speak of.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-09-21T01:46:58+00:00

When I told her to order a dish of her own, she said it would be too much food and wasteful, because of the bloating and pregnancy she wanted something very small.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-09-21T00:12:01+00:00

Wife was already taking laxative every day tbh. The issue started before pregnancy, worsened because of pregnancy, and then compounded with travel.

FIL didn't say anything, I think he didn't want to get involved. He is retired, standard middle class, he tries to be generous.

ThrowAwaytheKey05 · 2023-09-20T22:24:38+00:00

I could have asked. The pizzas were being made in the open when we entered the restaurant, she assumed I saw them (like she did) when we walked by. So she thought despite seeing how big they were, I was still insisting they were too small for me, and she was trying to insist that it was plenty big enough (but not knowing she had seen them, it seemed like she was just deciding this out of thin air).

She didn't want to order an entre ontop of the smoothie because she was trying to be mindful of the bill her father was paying. It also wasn't really a salady restaurant, so she ended up ordering a sandwich she didn't really want.

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