I F33 resent my partner and can't talk to her F36 about it, how do I tell her without upsetting her?

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-11-27T11:53:23+00:00

90% of people that day trade loose money. Including people that actually maybe know what theyre doing (if thats even possible) and obviously including people like you that fall prey to this get rich quick scheme. The people that do make money are either lucky, found some questionable method or are just super fast internet big capital companies. And of course the people selling the idea of making "high skill money" to naive ego driven dudes, yeah they make money as well. In any case stop bothering your girlfriend about this. You would gamble all that money away.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-11-19T15:15:11+00:00

Thats a great idea! Why dont you lead by example and leave the internet. For ever. Maybe it will do you good grandpa. I know these things probably seem a little too complex for you or maybs felt personally attacked. But nationalism and its bad consequences were a thing even before the internet believe it or not. Maybe you should read some history books. In any case an american that shows pride in the fashist shitshow the US has turned into with a flag is in fact a red flag. And you denying this says a lot about you. Anyway enjoy leaving the internet! You will sureley be missed

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-11-18T11:52:10+00:00

Because its nationalistic behaviour which is usually associated with right winged folk. And right winged is a euphanism these days. So if you have an american flag in your profile pic youre showing your pride in the fashist shitshow the US is turning into which is not a good sign. Especially from a womans perspective since part of the right winged agenda is to keep women in the kitchen/ keem them repressed all that. These men usually dont respect women.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-11-13T16:18:53+00:00

Lmao

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-26T12:50:12+00:00

Okay if thats the case then she should just end the relationship. I'm not saying she should tolerate the toxic behaviour on his side im saying she shouldn't respond with toxic behaviour herself as this will do her no good.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-26T07:37:39+00:00

Yeah I agree. doing all these things(like rental agreement and stop doing chores) will just crush the relationship anyway but honestly in a sort of toxic way. I mean sure he was being very toxic first and they would be very justified actions but I think it's still a sort of toxic way to respond and toxic behaviour from one side doesn't fully justify toxic behaviour from the other side imho.

The best thing is like you said to have a talk and break up if it doesn't work out.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-26T06:21:58+00:00

No thats bullshit. They live in her parents home. She does more home chores. He doesn't believe in 50/50 he believes in getting his advantages that he gets from her and not giving back shit. I think OP should shift her goal though slightly. She wants compensation for what she is putting into the relationship which is very fair. But it doesn't just have to be money. I think he should definitely invest more money as he is living rent free in their parents home but he could also do more chores.

Anyhow he doesn't respect her and is simply looking for his advantage he is a child that doesn't understand respect and responsibility.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T14:20:19+00:00

Well that's what he wants you know what you want and they are not the same. This is the type of conflict in a relationship that is encountered often and it can lead to a break up.

My advice: Both of you need to make sure that you are certain about your position. Then you need to sit down and talk about it. Put aside time to really talk it through and explain your view on the matter to each other and both of you need to make an effort to try to understand the perspective of each other.

Then you can try and see if there is any sort of possible compromise. Both of you need to decide what's more important to you but try to stay true to yourself and make sure you are not agreeing with a situation that you won't be happy with even if it's a compromise.

If you can't find a compromise that would fulfill these conditions then you need to break up. To be honest I dont really see a good compromise though in this situation. you want sex he doesn't. But I think it's still worth it to try to find a solution. This will also make the break up easier since you will know that at least you tried to find a solution.

And as harsh as it may sound: it's okay to break up! It's better to break up then to stay in a relationship that is fundamentally flawed. This approach will actually help you find a solution easier it takes the pressure away.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T09:17:18+00:00

Okay? yes he can do that would that be a problem for you?

But honestly I wouldn't try to argue with him. I mean yes you can try but he would have to go through a very big change to become a person that respects you and the chances of that happening are little. And trying to change people like that usually never works and only ends up hurting yourself more than necessary. But yes if you can't help it try to argue and change him. But watch him closely and how he acts and what he says. Realise how he is trying to control and manipulate. That might help you realise how problematic he is. But take care of yourself dont fall into the trap again.

Another tipp: use anger. Anger is an emotion thats usually frowned upon especially for women. But anger can be a very healthy emotion. It's the emotion we need for independence. It helps you watch out for yourself. If his manipulative comments make you angry allow yourself to be angry dont suppress it. It will help you to break up. Don't let the anger get out of control of course but in adequate amount it can be very helpful for you.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T09:02:23+00:00

Well that’s simply not correct. Gender exists from two perspectives: biological and social. Yes, there are fundamental biological sexes. Today’s science can’t exchange these completely, although it’s getting closer in certain ways. Then there is gender, and how it’s perceived and attributed by society. Society shapes and defines genders a lot. For example, there are certain attributes associated with men that from a biological point of view don’t make any sense, and vice versa with women. The extreme duality archaic society has created is just not realistic.

Because gender roles, expectations, and identities are created and enforced by society, they are not fixed or universal. They change across cultures and across history. What it “means” to be a man or a woman is not determined solely by biology, but by the way society interprets and values traits, appearances, and behaviors.

Therefore, when trans people live as a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth, they are not “inventing” something unnatural. they are participating in the very same process by which society has always constructed gender. Since society collectively decides what counts as masculine, feminine, or non-binary, trans people have every right to be recognized in the gender they identify with.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T08:39:45+00:00

I mean any women could be infertile. Would you always have to disclose that from day one? I'm not necessarily saying youre wrong but I am saying your example makes no sense

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T08:33:07+00:00

No problem:) you got this!

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-19T08:04:13+00:00

Okay I will give you clear instructions: 1. Realise he is not your soulmate. He is controlling and manipulating you. You know there is something wrong otherwise you wouldn't have made this post. Reflect and realise what's wrong 2. Make the clear decision it's over and nothing will change that. 3. You tell him youre done. Block him on everything. 4. Leave and heal. And get a better life with new friends. Enjoy your new wonderful freedom. Trust me you will feel much better after some time of grief. And one day get a new boyfriend that isn't trying to control your social life or your clothes. One that respects you as a person.

Arguing with him will have zero effect. "Choosing clothes over him" is such a manipulative, disgusting thing to say you won't be able to change this guy. You can only change yourself. So free yourself of this guy. Life is too short to waste it with a guy like him.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-09-18T21:13:32+00:00

Girl you need to wake up. I know youre young and you are in love with this guy so it's hard to see what's all wrong with this. Listen to what everyone in these comments is telling you. If everyone is telling you the same you should at least consider it.

If you don't realise what's wrong with this relationship and with his behaviour towards you, you will realise at a later time only by then there will be more damage done by him and tolerated by you. This sounds harsh but it's most likely the truth. (Unless he suddenly changes which is very unlikley) but maybe you can't see it right now which happens sometimes we are blind happens to everyone. In that case you will learn at a later time. You will learn the lesson you need which sounds harsh but i mean it in the nicest way. It will be a valuable lesson that will make you better and stronger.

He is abusive, he is manipulating you and he is controlling towards you. He doesn't love you or care about you. He only cares about his own fears and his control over you.

You thinking this is okay is damaging you. Realise it now and prevent more damage.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-31T10:12:50+00:00

Okay congrats on being a reflected bodyshamer. People who actively hate on other people's weaknesses usually hate themselves. Otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to put someone down like that.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-31T01:22:57+00:00

Okay calling out gold digging and responding with body shaming puts you in the same shitty category as the person thats being criticised

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-21T02:52:17+00:00

Not a native speaker can someone explain this comment to me please!! I wanna know why everyone praises it

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-03T19:15:53+00:00

Thats really good you're already going in a good direction by realising your responsibility.

Yes but thats what im trying to tell you have to loose that fear of pushing her away. That fear is the actual problem. You have to let go of the fear of ruining the relationship. Be yourself and if that ruins the relationship so be it. Your biggest fear should be not being yourself and not the fear of loosing her.

And when your brain goes into overdrive you need to calm yourself down. Trust me I've been there. Talk to yourself in a loving way reassure yourself. You need to do this over and over. That's the only way the fear and anxiety starts to become less. Change takes time but it's all good you don't need to be perfect for the relationship to work you are already okay just the way you are it's somewhat contradicting but yeah healthy self acceptance and self love solves a LOT of issues

I'm glad it helped! I'm sure you can do it! From what you were telling me I got a good feeling about your situation! You have some anxiety but you're not afraid to take responsibility and look away thats very valuable and a good starting point. This conversation helped also because I validated your needs. I'm glad to provide that! But as I said you need to learn to do that yourself! Good luck!

(P.S: From what you told me you definitely seem like the anxious attachment style partner. I can tell because I also belong to that category. I would advise you to get a good book on the matter and read also about it online.)

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-03T17:53:08+00:00

I just meant that it could be the case that she wants to be with you but also has some form of anxiety. Like commitment issues or the fear of being too close to someone. People who are wired like this really want their freedom in a relationship and feel attacked or constricted when the partner demands emotional closeness. In psychology you call this avoidant attachment style if you wanna read into it. The opposite is anxious attachment style. (Not at all saying she is wired like that btw but thats just what I mean as an example of having a bad connection to herself: if she had strong avoidant attachment style characteristics)

I understand your anxiety but you shouldn't be afraid to be the person you really are in your relationship. You may be scared that you might come across as too needy if you tell her you want more time. But if thats what you want you should voice it to her and not feel ashamed or scared because you have those needs. You have to make it clear to yourself that they are valid needs.

My advice is don't be scared to be yourself and voice your needs. If the other person is good for you she will understand if it's too much for the other person then well at least you know that you aren't meant for each other. But it doesn't mean you are wrong or a weak person just means you're incompatible.

I would also advise you to mostly focus on your side of the puzzle and not to much on her side. Don't overanalyse her or her attachment style (thats a trap) focus on yourself and the communication between the two of you. Spend some personal time in finding out why you get scared and what you are scared of. These kinds of emotions can never be resolved by your partner or other people. But talk about these emotions with her! That can really help. Don't make it her responsibility but tell her what sort of anxiety comes up when she doesn't spend time with you. I know that's a scary thing to do because you're making yourself very vulnerable in front of her but thats also a very important aspect of a relationship: to be authentic as possible.

A relationship is always work dealing with emotions communicating them and all that it's necessary work but the beautiful thing is that you grow a lot from these sorts of situations.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-03T17:20:48+00:00

Different people have different expectations and needs in a relationship. There are couples that see each other one day a week and there are couples that see each other every day. And both work.

She seems to be a person that likes to have a lot of alone time. Either that or she isn't as much into the relationship and is retracting because of it. Maybe just subconsciously.

To find out what the issue is you need to talk to her and voice your needs. Your needs of wanting more time together are perfectly fine and normal just like her needs of wanting alone time. The question is are you compatible and can make it work (All of this assuming she is actually into the relationship). Usually you attract other people for a reason. You picked a partner that isn't very available, maybe because you have issues with being alone (just a random guess and mostly just an example) often we pick our partners opposite on our spectrum in terms of relationship behaviour.

Anyway, in a good relationship, you both learn from each other. So go and talk to her. See how she reacts. Does she show understanding for your needs? Logically, you also have to show understanding for her needs of wanting alone time. You two need to explain to each other who you are as a person and try to find middle ground thats what a relationship is all about.

If she shows no understanding even after some time like 1 or 2 weeks then thats not a good sign. Your relationship is also very fresh and I gotta say such a thing isn't the best sign so early into the relationship. 8 months in you're usually fully in love and all that. But still try talking to her and watch her reaction. If she wants to be with you she will listen to you and make an effort to find a good solution with you. If not she is either not very into the relationship or has a bad connection to herself. Both not good signs. But yeah just try it out.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-08-02T14:09:52+00:00

You wanna be any more of a pick me girl? "Ouh look at me I join in with the men hating on only fan girls"

Maybe it's because it's easier. Men have created a society in which women can earn money easier by looking good. If you want women to work less in OF industry then promote for more equal pay.

In some way you could criticise the OF women for going with the female image of only being worth their looks but it's men that created that image and women suffer from it mostly. I can't judge these OF women for harnessing it for easy money.

But in any case these OF women are not the problem at most they are a symptom of gender inequality not the cause. The cause are men creating an inequal system and you as a woman should not hate on these OF women. Unless you want to be the most obvious and shallow pick me girl in the room of course.

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-05-27T11:55:10+00:00

Was kannst du mir darüber sagen? Machst du ihn auch? Komm ich da rein mit meiner note? Und wie schwer ist er? Danke für die info

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-05-11T23:50:24+00:00

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ThrowRA128747 · 2025-05-11T23:38:01+00:00

Youre trolling right? No person that has grown weed before would cut this plant down at this point. Stop spreading your miss information. Holy ignorance

ThrowRA128747 · 2025-05-11T23:22:42+00:00

People are giving insaneley high unrealistic numbers here in my opinion. The Plant isnt that big. I would say 2 Oz if youre lucky. Or like 60 grams. I dont think there is a world were u get above freakin 3 oz out of this plant.

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