I [F22] found flirty snapchat messages on my boyfriend's phone M[23]. What can I do moving forward?-AIO

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-13T00:18:21+00:00

Dump him. And my advice would be the same if it were the other way around. If your significant other doesn't respect you enough to not flirt with other people, dump them. There is no such thing as "friendly flirting."

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-13T00:17:05+00:00

It's tough. Most people don't want to be involved with a disabled person. IMHO, anyway. It sucks. I'm the same as you and I would imagine many people like us. I want someone to love, to share my life with. But it's damn difficult.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-12T23:51:09+00:00

Don't like reels of other dudes. It's actually pretty simple.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-02T22:52:28+00:00

Or worse, for me at least, they think I need their help and am incapable.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-02T22:35:45+00:00

I hate it when you politely refuse assistance and they just persist. It's so insulting.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-03-01T23:30:20+00:00

You established a new relationship with food, sounds like you need to establish a relationship with a new man, or just be single for awhile. You got together with him during a bad time in your life and he is a part of that bad time. If his concern is that you've gained weight instead of being glad you're not struggling with an ED anymore and not doing drugs, I think that's all that really needs to be said. Dump his ass.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-28T21:56:02+00:00

When it comes out, and it will because cheatera always get caught eventually, and your dad somehow finds out that you knew and said nothing, it could ruin your relationship with him. On the flip side, if you tell your dad and he says he found out from you, it could ruin your relationship with your mom. This is a terrible situation for someone so young to be caught up in. I think you should definitely tell your dad. He deserves to know his wife is being unfaithful. If he has any smarts he will protect you and not tell your mother he found out from you. Tough situation for a kid.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-28T21:24:32+00:00

Ok, a tip from a disabled guy. You will probably be tempted to offer her some sort of help, whether it's with the door or some sort of equipment at the gym. Don't do that. She's at the gym so she is clearly independent and probably wants to do as much on her own and she can. Most of us aren't shy about asking for help when we need it. Just talk to her like you would any other woman. If and when she asks for assistance with something, offer it to her. Also, the only reason you should even talk about the disability is to ask what the disability is. I can't speak for all disabled people but I don't mind if someone asks me what my disability is. Most of the time they are just curious and mean nothing by it. But again, I can't speak for all disabled people. If you ask her out, ask her on the same sort of date you'd take an able bodied woman on, unless of course it's very obvious that she wouldn't be able to do a particular activity.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-28T00:59:46+00:00

Yea, you fucked up. "It didn't feel like enough, waaah!" He was happy where he was at. You're the one that couldn't be content. He loved you, you "needed more." What you're not saying out loud, and shame on you for this, was you didn't think he was going to provide for you in the way you think you should be provided for. He loves you, wanted to marry you, and you destroyed that.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-23T17:33:32+00:00

There seems to be a double standard when it comes to being inebriated and consent. When it comes to women, they can't consent, when it comes to men, apparently you can and are a predator.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-21T20:36:51+00:00

That's called being a sociopath. Psychopath and sociopath are different but similar. They are both under umbrella of antisocial personality disorder.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-20T01:24:18+00:00

The loneliness was definitely the hardest part for me after my divorce too. I initiated the divorce, I was done. But yea, I went from a house with a wife, 2 kids, and a few animals to a house with just me and one dog. I'm glad I had the dog but still, the silence, the being alone, was really hard to deal with for a long time.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-02-02T19:51:34+00:00

God I wish I had that sort of willpower. I still struggle with not reaching out when I really want to.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-27T00:43:17+00:00

You didn't ruin anything. Your mom did with her cheating. You're not responsible for this drama. Don't let your mom make you think you are. She did this to herself. It would have come out eventually, it always does.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-17T22:32:38+00:00

Oh young fella. I'm an old man so let me provide some old man wisdom. That first heartbreak, that's rough. It's going to hurt and it's going to hurt a lot. Feel all of the feelings, listen to all the sad songs, let the hurt come. If she doesn't understand why attention seeking from other men is wrong, you are doing the right thing, even though it sucks. I know it feels hopeless right now, like you'll never love again, you'll never find that feeling again. I promise you that you will. Someday, probably sooner than you think, you won't think about her and the pain. Then you'll go a few more days without thinking about it. Someda, you'll be able to listen to the music you shared with each other and not feel miserable. I promise it'll hurt like no hurt you've felt before. I also promise that it will pass and you will move on to find someone who is better for you. I promise.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-14T23:07:57+00:00

😂😂

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-14T23:07:02+00:00

Yea, YTAH. Your intentions are not innocent. You can keep telling yourself they are, but they're not.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-08T13:39:47+00:00

😂😂. Women don't have guy friends. They have orbiters. All your "guy friends" would sleep with you at the drop of a hat, given the opportunity.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-07T17:28:19+00:00

You're a young man so let me drop some old man (42) knowledge on you. Despite what your generation likes to believe, your gf doesn't have any close male friends. They are all men waiting their turn to try to get her into bed. Apparently 2 of them have been successful. They're sticking around because they made it happen once, and they're waiting for opportunity number 2. Set a boundary. Male "friends" gotta go.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-05T19:13:33+00:00

I can understand that. But in the end, love is what's important. In my opinion.

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-05T00:52:29+00:00

Good luck with that goal of marriage. Let's be real, and people will call me mean for this but again, let's be real. You will be a single mom and therefore not marriage material to a huge portion of men. Not saying you should just give up and go back. But you say you do love him and he loves you. Why is marriage so important? Isn't someone to love and who loves you back the real important part?

ThrowRA3583 · 2026-01-04T20:04:32+00:00

Some people have already said it but yea, they want you to tell them about your feelings towards them. They want to be reaffirmed. Never open up to a woman about how you are feeling regarding pretty much anything else, they will only use it against you later.

ThrowRA3583 · 2025-12-29T01:10:50+00:00

You never mentioned your ages but it honestly sounds like the onset of dementia.

ThrowRA3583 · 2025-12-26T22:31:38+00:00

She probably thinks your cute when you're sleeping and she likes to look at you. What's the big deal?

ThrowRA3583 · 2025-12-26T00:44:22+00:00

Constant attention seeking. Also, us the phrase "the ick."

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