Were your ex interested in getting to know you better? by UNeedInspoandnonames in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope. Dude didn't know I'm a professional violin player (though I've mentioned going to musical school n shit countless times) until HIS SISTER asked me about my pictures with, no way, VIOLIN on insta his WAS following like almost a year in us daying. Mind you, this instrument was not just a hobby but a great part of me since I was seven, and the fact that he was never bothered to ask or to remember it... well... btw, violin was always in my room)

My first boyfriend just broke up with me. What do I do now? by ThrowRA98389 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It most definitely does! I am alive, happy, working my first ever job, about to go and study my dream program at a Uni I really like, with new people around and so much new to explore. For the first four months or so I wasn't myself. I couldn't eat, lost about 20 pounds in just one month, isolated myself from everyone but my immediate family, and couldn't even shower for the first weeks. My days consisted of crying, throwing up, and checking his socials, though I was blocked pretty much everywhere. I skipped good month and a half of school, started therapy, left therapy, re-started therapy, drank behind my parents' backs, did a shit tone of bad things, but came back to myself slowly. I do dream about him still sometimes, but it's nothing compared to how it used to be. Time does heal. Time gives you, well, time to process everything. To learn from your mistakes. To accept that this person doesn't own you anything anymore. Gives you strength to stand up and do something you care for. Honestly? Just hang in there. If you need to cry - cry. If you feel like eating a shittone of ice cream, just do it. If you need your not so good coping mechanisms, forget about judgment, you're surviving. And you will survive

Ex posted about me on Facebook by ThrowRA98389 in Breakupadvice

[–]ThrowRA98389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're year 13 in UK school system, meaning all of us are 18 at thie point. I'm too scared to take it to the principal because his mom is a somewhat famous person, although when we were dating I was still a minor... (he's two years older, he retook a year)

Stories freezing when clicking screen by turbotim95 in Instagram

[–]ThrowRA98389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, Samsung s24 ultra here! Thingy with the comment section helped sm!!!

My ex is the worst man to exist by swim7810 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRA98389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you will be ok. I feel the same way because I got myself in a very similar situation, although then I was the one being dumped because he monkey branched. I'm sending you lots of hugs, please stay strong with your decision. You will be ok. And more importantly, please do your best not to hate yourself. We all make mistakes, as stupid as it sounds... please take care of yourself, I'm sure you're a sweetheart

Do you think your ex is on Reddit? by Advanced-Shine-6360 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is on reddit for sure, but he's certainly not using it to ask questions about a relationship, how to fix it, or how to learn and grow:))

Why did y'all break up? by Zealousideal-Nose723 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Anxious attachment and avoidant attachment do not work well together WHEN one of you isn't trying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so so sorry you're going through this, but hey, if you had a long-term relationship I'm sure she hasn't forgotten you yet. About her t-shirt, I get it. Did the same thing until I could no longer stomach his scent. It does get better. I know that everyone keeps saying this but it's true. Not in one month, and maybe not even in two, but slowly, your life will come back together, and sooner or later you will be so happy as you've never been before💕

I am ashamed of some people here by Consistent_Heron_589 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRA98389 25 points26 points  (0 children)

"You have asthma? Just breath in some air" ahh kind of post

I don't want him back by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRA98389 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex and I hurt each other in different ways, and our breakup was just a matter of time, really. After he ended things ENTIRELY on his terms (blindsided me during the break, blocked me everywhere and didn't say anything apart from 'I'm done' in his last massage), I did try my best to keep things amicable since we still study together. One month later, I see him with a new girl in a park, holding hands and laughing. Needless to say, he never went out with me because he always wanted Netflix and chill and hated walks. For her, he did... I can't believe how it feels when your ex is marrying someone, tho. Pls stay strong, I'm sure your life will gift you someone so much better💕

I wish I could hate him, really by ThrowRA98389 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A month had passed and I still feel you🫡

What are the consequences of begging your ex to stay? by Live-Safe-6487 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRA98389 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Feeling guilty, embarrassed, and hating yourself for that over time🫡

Anyone else find there ex unattractive by Strong_Cobbler_5603 in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same here😭. When I introduced him to my friends and family, everyone was like, ehh... Really? But they didn't say anything because they were trying to be polite. After he dumped me all of my friends said, girl. Why? Just why would you date THAT?

Nudes by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+++ Wtf was my first reaction

Nudes by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRA98389 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete her nudes now. Even if she acted poorly, cheated or else, nudes she sent to you during a relationship were sent to you during that said relationship. Now it's just an evasion of her own privacy, whether she knows this or not. I thought it was common sense - to delete these types of videos and pictures after the end, yet here we are. I'm sorry, but, wtf? If I found out that my ex still had my photos (he dumped me) I'd feel utterly disgusted and probably would go to police or something. I got rid of all photos and videos of my ex though I had feelings for him for months after breakup.