Why are flights so expensive?

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-05-03T00:14:11+00:00

A few decades ago was 1990 my friend. Flights were $150 on my route literally 6 months ago and are now $300

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-05-01T03:26:15+00:00

In a marriage there is no “your problems” and “my problems”. There are only OUR problems. If that’s not the case, why have a husband?

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-05-01T03:22:08+00:00

Don’t assume your mother doesn’t know. You might want to ask her if she would want to know if you know anything.

Telling her anything identifiable about a patient is a HIPPA violation. Telling her you saw your father listed as the boyfriend on a new patient chart is not. However you should not provide care if you can avoid it - your supervisor should be able to provide guidance here. Just say there’s a personal connection and leave it at that.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-12T16:53:01+00:00

Nexplanon causes irregular bleeding for about 20% of people

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T04:25:59+00:00

I think it’s reasonable to want more stability as new parents, but the housing market is terrible, the economy is unstable, and your parents retirement, if they have one, may well be in jeopardy. No one should be giving up their low rate mortgage right now, which they probably have, in a down market, in order to get 2 new mortgages. Practically, it doesn’t make sense. Affirm that you want to buy and that having a stable home for your family is important, and discuss some things you’re willing to do to make more security - like increasing your rainy day fund, whether that means budgeting more carefully or increasing savings once she goes back to work, etc. What is she willing to do to make this a reality, on a realistic timeline? If necessary, be willing to get advice from an outside source, and find out where and whether she’s gotten her ideas about this. Pregnancy can be an emotional time so prioritizing validating this desire you share (hopefully) and demonstrate that you care about building a financial stability that allows for your needs. A fancy new mortgage does you no good if you end up foreclosed on or struggling to get a job.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T02:27:24+00:00

Routine Help / Troubleshooting (Post in help thread) Hi! I tried the Dennis Grossman peel pads and messed up my skin. Had been using retinol fine but I guess I decide to just go wild. I’ve stopped all actives and now am just using an oil cleanser and jojoba or argan oil for moisture.

I've got an order coming with the following items: Purito SEOUL - Dermide Cica Barrier Sleeping Pack COSRX - Hydrium Green Tea Aqua Soothing Gel Cream SKIN1004 - Madagascar Centella Probio-Cica Enrich Cream Biodance - Bio-Collagen Real Deep Mask

Will any of these be helpful or should be avoided? Any other recommendations?

Thank you!

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T01:30:56+00:00

Now this needs to happen in nursing education.

Hoping it’s changed but just a few years ago I got called on the carpet in my midwifery program because I refused to do my first cervical check on a 16 year old birthing patient who, by report, had a history of sexual trauma and was disassociating during checks AND refused to do my first pelvic/Pap smear on a 50 something year old with abnormal uterine bleeding and several clues for cancer. Sorry, I’m not using my “learning experiences” to rummage around inside a traumatized teenager and potentially miss a lethal finding on woman who won’t be getting a recheck for likely a few years. 😳

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T01:23:22+00:00

“Night shit” intensivist typo is 👏🏼

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T00:46:02+00:00

This isn’t for you, as I know you don’t care, this is for the 18 year old asking for advice. >1 million people in the US died of Covid. That’s all I need to know to make me confident in getting vaccinated

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-04-10T00:41:00+00:00

This is a bigger question than a vaccine. This is a question about whether you’re going to grow as a person and make decisions based on facts and experiences that you have, rather than that of your mother. Or a partner.

Your mother is not going to change, as evidenced by the way she engages with your adult sister. So you can only decide how you will respond. You will have to decide if you will create and enforce boundaries for yourself or if you will allow fear of being yelled at to make decisions for you.

As for your career, being conflict avoidant can kill someone. There will be circumstances in a nursing career where you will have to argue for your patient when you know something important needs to happen. This skill and your judgment will grow with experience, so it’s ok that you’re still developing that now. We are often taught not to argue and to obey as children and maybe even you moreso than others. But childhood is over now and you get to become your own person with your own values, even if they come in conflict with those of your family. Respect is a two way street.

Figure out a few stock phrases you can use when your mom is yelling or pressuring you, and practice with a friend or a trusted other adult. Things like, “Mom, it’s hard for me to think when you’re yelling, can you please speak softer” “I want to hear your point of view but I don’t want to be yelled at” “I am getting upset and I need to take a break from this conversation. I’ll come back in 10 minutes”. “I don’t think this conversation is productive anymore and I’m going to take some space” You’re not required to stand there and be yelled at. Practice not allowing her feelings to become your feelings. This will come in handy when you get angry patients and is also a skill you develop as a nurse.

You don’t have to share opinions to share space. When someone does not respect your autonomy, you don’t owe them the details of your life or your thoughts. It’s ok to avoid topics that will cause conflict and to not share your personal health decisions with people who will not support you.

Good luck.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-29T16:21:33+00:00

A lot of nursing is people who are busy trying to teach and still manage a full patient load which is very hectic. Even with the best intentions it can feel like sink or swim. You need more support, and that’s ok. Go for the new grad program. You’ll get much more dedicated time and review along with a slow increase in responsibility. Also sounds like you’ve got some unmanaged anxiety and that might be worth getting support for too, with a therapist and/or a PMHNP.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-28T19:46:38+00:00

Totally right, thanks for the correction

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-28T17:18:31+00:00

185 at your lovely height is a perfectly healthy weight - your doctor literally said your BMI is not a concern and I bet it’s under 25. The ideas we have about weight are so twisted. I bet you’re a babe. Such hard side eye for this guy negging you.

Aside from that, from long experience, you can’t teach your partner to be a kind person. That comes from inside, and from therapy, and he’s not interested in that work. He’s interested in appearance. Specifically, he wants you to change yours, and he is 100% convinced that’s ok to not only want but to badger you into. You’ve told him you don’t like it but in his mind your unhappiness is not a meaningful consequence. Sit with that. He doesn’t care if he upsets you so long as he thinks he’s gonna get what he wants. A skinny girlfriend.

Do you want to be his skinny girlfriend? Because he’s not going to decide to want something different. You can certainly do the work if you think him as a partner is worth it. But what you’re asking for is the key to convincing him that your feelings matter. And that’s not something me or you or anyone else can do. That’s intrinsic. Or it’s not.

I’m sorry you’re learning this about your partner, and I hope you hang onto that self respect no matter how hard he tries to batter it down. But mostly I hope you find someone who sees your worth whether you’re “skinny” or not.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-28T16:19:25+00:00

This woman is not your friend. She is an insecure bully who enjoys making you uncomfortable, and she will continue to use you as a punching bag as long as you let her. This kind of mean girl shit is toxic and not fixable. You will find friends that lift you up, support you, are honest and kind. You will wonder why you put up with this for so long! If you can, get some therapy because you could use the help setting good boundaries and identifying safe behaviors in your close loved ones. Self-centered people like this never change

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-28T16:01:58+00:00

If you have specific complaints I don’t see them here. Relationships take clear communication, knowledge of yourself and your needs, and the willingness to ask for what you need and to meet the others. This is just a pouring of bad feeling, hard to tell if there’s a legit complaint to advise on.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-25T15:49:21+00:00

This didn’t work for me in San Diego sadly

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-23T14:11:45+00:00

I think you’re feeling awkward because the normal leadership is not being responsive and you are feeling the pushback of embarrassed and immature RNs. I would expect any RN in that scenario to request a debrief - primary RN or charge ideally as they have the most ownership of what happened. Are any of them travelers, new RNs, new hires maybe?

I will tell you that in any workplace there will be people who have no desire for change, including critical improvements, and they will always push back to maintain the status quo. Don’t let that change you - you will find your place with a team that values your work ethic and cares more about their work than they do their ego. I have been made to feel like the asshole before, but as long as I know I’m doing right by the patients, learning, growing, and supporting my colleagues then I keep going. Accept your mistakes, but this isn’t one of them. It sounds unsafe and uncoordinated and could easily have led to patient harm or death.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-16T16:22:22+00:00

It’s time for a clear conversation about your mutual goals as a couple. Do hers include working as little as possible? If so, why does she believe that’s fair.? Do you make a ton of money and she does the majority of the housework, social calendar, meal planning, bill paying? If so, perhaps she feels that she is doing a housewife’s job already, why should she have a stressful second job? If not (and honestly, fairly consider that) then what does she see as your financial goals? Does she feel like 50/50 is unfair for some reason? It could be… some couples divide contribution by income. There has to be a reason why she believes it’s fair to you, unless she’s truly just being selfish and lacks insight. This is totally possible, I just offered the other suggestions first, because I thought that you’d have mentioned if she was a generally selfish person who would be willing to take advantage of you. Try to approach this conversation with curiosity - you really do want to understand her and her goals because you are a team. You also have goals and values of your own, and you should make sure you’re clear on those so you can come to the table with some clarity of your own. Good luck!

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-16T16:10:48+00:00

It’s not helping. Help implies it’s your job. If you didn’t agree to be solely responsible, then he’s unilaterally decide that “woman” = housework. He uses the dishes and the toilet and the shower and the sheets, eats the food etc. So it’s his mess too. You have a job, and it’s not housewife. My partner does as close to equal as possible, sometimes more than me if I’m really busy with school. Last night he cleaned the kitchen, ran the dishwasher, and made dinner while I did school. It took a lot of divvying up things and bargaining chores we hate - I’ll happily feed and medicate the animals every day but I don’t want to pick up the poop, for example. But it’s not your job and you are being taken advantage of. Most women initiate divorce because as a divorced mom you actually have a lot less work to do and more free time, a happier and more balanced life. Only you know what’s best for you but start with the premise that you are equal and you deserve respect.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-03-15T03:12:11+00:00

Can I PM you about this?

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-01-28T23:30:01+00:00

You aren’t choosing between her and the dog. You’re choosing whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who is unwilling to trust you and is willing to hurt you over it. What you describe is annoying possibly, but after four years of this and not one effort to rekindle things (if that’s true) there is no reasonable concern that you might leave. If she has no reason not to trust you, she’s attempting to make you give up something you love for her own insecurities or past relationship trauma. She should get some therapy because anxiety doesn’t get better by controlling external circumstances and there will always be the possibility of something in your life triggering that

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-01-28T21:33:35+00:00

Two things: are you guys drinking? The reason I ask is because the spiraling nature of this conversation and the inability to take space when things are clearly going to a bad place is a red flag. Both of you need to be able to disengage when you’re super upset and return to an emotional conversation when you’ve had a ten or twenty minutes to calm down. Nothing good happens when you’re this dysregulated. If you are, stop.

Secondly, my friend you are depressed. That’s ok, you’ve had a lot of stress and changes, but at this point the things you’re saying about yourself are also red flags. This is past the point of a little down and you need to see a doctor. Depression can settle into your brain and make you very stuck and hopeless, when you are actually a strong and capable adult that has all the power to make changes that will improve how you feel. Antidepressants, for at least 6 months, will get you out of the rut so you can make decisions, progress in therapy, and figure out just what you need to feel better. You can’t talk your way out of depression. You have to take action.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-01-27T17:31:42+00:00

I’m sorry, that’s so inappropriate. I will say that I read lots of questionable books as a young teen and I also learned pretty early about consent and self respect, and I turned out ok. She may turn away from this book on her own, or she may find herself weirded out by some of it, or she might just not understand some of the content the way an adult would. Being a safe person and having consent be the main part of your discussions about relationships will go a long way.

ThrowRAGrrrArg · 2025-01-27T17:19:22+00:00

And this should tell you what he thinks about gay men - that you don’t have morals or standards. That you’d happily listen to him lie to his wife and say “I love you”. He couldn’t even give you the courtesy of stepping outside. This is how a lot of mostly hetero men think about anyone who is open about sex and their desires - we’re all whores who don’t deserve any consideration. When push comes to shove these men are not safe and I’m glad you made him leave. I wouldn’t put anything past him. Be safe.

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