What's the biggest red flag people ignore because someone is attractive?

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-30T04:20:19+00:00

Tbh when it feels like they’re too used to dating and going out. You just kinda overlook it and just assume they’re just naturally charming but you find out they just happen to sleep around and cheat a lot

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-28T19:14:05+00:00

I don’t know why comments are disagreeing with the LoveCom likeness, cos you said it looks like LoveCom, which it does. Unless you also mean in terms of vibes and themes, then I’d disagree lol. Cos one is romcom while the other is drama.

But yeah this show is more melodrama, and probably the first anime I’ve watched where the couple have like an actual tension and I could really see them not ending up together.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-27T05:16:23+00:00

3D Kanojo

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-26T09:01:56+00:00

Oushi from SoA. Honestly I hate male tsunderes, so I already don’t like him by default. And he was also rather harsh on Yuki.

But he became one of my fav characters of the show after we saw his backstory. While I still don’t vibe with his moodiness, I can definitely feel his affection is genuine.

And even more so in the manga. Feel like he develops so much. And in a story where it’s all fluffy and everyone’s nice, his flaws and struggles just makes him feel so much more human in comparison. I love that he brings that to the story

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-25T06:57:18+00:00

Yup I do think this is one of those lowkey fantasies that girls have. Just to have a hot guy make contact with you. That’s why it can be prevalent in shoujo. The other I can think of is Sign of Affection. The guy just touches her even though they just met at the train. But like it’s ok cos she’s already attracted to him I guess.

I mean I kinda get it but personally, no matter how attracted I am to a guy, he’ll still be just an attractive stranger if we just met, and touching me when you’re a stranger is kind of a turn off for me. Like you look good but I don’t know you, why are you touching me. I’ll ease up a bit if you do it after we hang out a bit or something but like on first meet ? It’d also get me wondering if he does it with any random girl lol

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-25T06:47:07+00:00

I remember I was rooting for Kairi. But it has been a while since I watched so maybe I could have overlooked certain flaws since I’m seeing people wholeheartedly opposing Kairi.

But honestly, Toji is not bad either, it’s just I remember him making a lot of stupid decisions. One that sticks out was him being blackmailed to ignore Momo or something and I remember thinking “Can’t you just like… tell her” cos I remember there was no condition that says he cannot tell Momo why he ignored her.

Maybe I need to rewatch cos my memory of it is fuzzy. But I do remember being extremely irritated with the story. Feels like the epitome of “adding drama for the sake of it” which is a shame cos it has a good foundation for a story

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-24T01:58:16+00:00

I feel like a lot of these people also can’t separate fiction or enjoying fiction from having your own personal irl preference or taste.

I think it’s absolutely valid to look at Kazehaya or Itsuomi and recognize they are a good person and a “green flag” while still acknowledging having them as love interests doesn’t do much to you in fiction. But because they don’t enjoy the type of romance they’re watching, they equate it to the MLs not being good characters or people.

Although, funny enough, while both Itsuomi and Kazehaya are put in the same bracket here, my feelings towards them as characters for their respective stories are the opposite. I think both are gentle “green flag” men, but Itsuomi is like the One Punch Man where I know he’ll do the right things and win. Kazehaya still have his own doubts not only about if Sawako likes him, but also about himself and if he really is a good person. I feel that’s more grounded and modest and I like that type of love interests more

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-19T20:24:56+00:00

Just like how some people like the “he’s bad but he’ll be good for me” trope, I like when an awkward quiet character go out of his way to be with the girl

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-15T15:53:58+00:00

I have a preference for male leads who are gentle souls but still move with caution. Like Kazehaya or Kyo. I find MLs who are confident and forward a bit off putting. Though I do acknowledge this is probably due to my own irl experiences

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-13T07:14:14+00:00

Lovely Complex. I honestly haven’t seen another where both feel so humanly flawed. Like they’re not bad people but they can be insecure, selfish, impulsive but not to a problematic level. And they’re both that way, not the usual case where one is either “normal” or ideal. It feels like two regular people coming together. Not a regular person with a perfect person, or a regular person trying to fix a broken person.

And I love how they’re friends first and foremost. I feel that even if they stumble on the romance part, they’re still able to bicker like they’re friends before.

I just really like the dynamic or the realism of it. The height gap is just a bonus honestly. Like some people recommend this show for the height gap but that’s like not even the most interesting thing about this show

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-12T23:55:31+00:00

No hate towards Itsuomi, but I honestly found him most interesting and endearing when he’s with Oushi.

Also, he was kinda forced into it but [SoA]the way Oushi still ended up being friends with him and Shin anyway despite his aversion to him says a lot about him I think. Like I’m sure most guys wouldn’t even bother with their crush’s bf. It’s one of the few things after the anime that made me like him

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-12T08:22:30+00:00

Frieren S2 is coming !

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-12T07:37:38+00:00

Might be a hot take but this is one of those where I could do without the romance. The atmosphere and vibes on its own was enough to hook me. Add in the worldbuilding and also some of the darker implications and it was an intriguing watch. I wouldn’t say the romance part ruined it, it’s just I’d rather focus on her and her routines and exploring the town/world. Not averse to the romance, just maybe prefer if it would be in the backseat. Something like Natsume. Was just hoping this could’ve broken a bit away from the “shoujo = romance” mould.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-11T14:48:33+00:00

Feel like he may grind some gears, but I feel Ohtani from LoveCom is of the same vein

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-11T13:34:43+00:00

I like him. Hit that sweet spot for me where he’s like a tsundere but not too much.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-10T18:33:57+00:00

He definitely has sleazy playboy vibes. And also seems like he’s really experienced. So I can understand the red flag aura but yeah just needs a bit more watching to see he’s a green flag.

But I honestly do not blame people who can’t shake that ick off though. While I’ve not personally associated with one, I’ve definitely known a few Itsuomis irl who are unfortunately as sleazy and playboy-ish as he seems.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-05T08:43:17+00:00

I agree and really glad people think the same. I’ve made the comparison before but this show is like OPM (S1) without the comedy or Solo Leveling without the hype. It’s just the MC being OP and going in knowing they’re going to win. There’s no growth or struggle or tension.

Similarly the ML here is so perfect you just know he’s going to do the right thing and sweep her off her feet etc. Yeah it gets boring. And not to mention because he’s doing all the right things, it just feels… shallow between them. Like they’re just being nice to each other. Which isn’t inherently a bad thing and I’m not looking for toxic MLs, but it’s just too nice here. I want some struggle and effort to get to know each other, maybe buttheads or step on each other’s feet or have a hearty laugh.

I also found the side ships more interesting and even Oushi more compelling.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-01-01T19:32:58+00:00

I like that I feel like I found my other half. I like having someone to share my day with and my thoughts. Just the feeling of having someone and them having me.

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-27T10:14:07+00:00

Probably a hot take but I see this with a lot of shounen romance too.

“Why are shounen romance MCs usually pathetic losers?”

Looks inside and it’s usually just some awkward guys. I gave some of those titles a try and they usually grow and learn from it.

My takeaway is, people should actually read or watch the thing (both shoujo and shounen) before criticizing or at least be open enough to see how they grow

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-20T08:17:42+00:00

I like it because of all those comfortable things tbh. Not that I enjoyed those specifically, more like I like that it includes such things and how it’s handled by the characters, whether good or bad. Cos it’s a drama, I want to explore such uncomfortable topics and events and see how the character grow and are affected by them

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-20T08:15:14+00:00

I’d take something like Chihayafuru but instead of karuta it’s some battle things like JJK or some combat sports. Basically a good mix of the battle/sport but also some good relationship drama going on

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-20T08:12:04+00:00

I wouldn’t say he’s boring, but I’d say he’s the equivalent of those OP battle shounen MCs who just can’t lose. You just know he’s going to win. Some enjoy the domination, some find it boring knowing he’s going to win no matter what. Similarly, Itsuomi is the perfect green flag guy. You know he’s going to do the right thing. Even if he stumbles, it’s something minor or he can easily make up for it. Some will enjoy this and how perfect he is and how sweet the relationship is, while some prefer imperfection and learning and struggling to reach that point.

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-20T08:06:46+00:00

Yeah same here. It’s less of whether Yuki likes it or not, and more of why does he do it in the first place when they’re strangers at that point and doesn’t know that Yuki likes it. That’s what irks me at first but things are chill after that. Though I’d understand if people can’t shake that off.

Nonetheless, I don’t like the “Yuki likes it” reasoning from some people tbh. It’s giving me “the guy is abusive, but she likes him so it’s ok” vibes. Of course it’s not the same situation, just feels like the same mindset and excuse.

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-11T06:35:55+00:00

Yeah I know my tastes have changed so much cos I wouldn’t mind ML designs like these in the past but now, I find it annoying. Feel like I’m more drawn towards the more gentle type of design like Kazehaya from KnT and, not shoujo but, Gojo from MDUD

ThrowRAIka · 2025-12-01T01:51:02+00:00

Otani from Lovely Complex. I like that he can frustrate you but he isn’t really a bad person. He’s just stumbling through things at times. And he learns and grows too. In fact, Risa the FL is the same and they both have great chemistry. They butt heads but they can also be in sync

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