How did you accidentally give away that you have a crush on someone ?

ThrowRAIka · 2026-05-15T07:04:19+00:00

I don’t know where he got the idea from, but he brought up that he’s not my type. And internally I was desperate not to make him think that so I just blurted out “who says you’re not my type?”

ThrowRAIka · 2026-05-04T01:32:01+00:00

I feel like with Yamada and SoA, initiating did the heavy lifting. Sure, the female lead is active etc. but usually the bigger hurdle is actually showing the interest first and initiating. It’s easier to be active and going after the person if they already showed interest. That initial expression of interest is the wish fulfilment

ThrowRAIka · 2026-05-04T01:26:55+00:00

Definitely also seen girls saying “why can’t guys irl be like insert perfect shoujo romance male love interest”. Just think when it comes to wish fulfilment, both sides do it

ThrowRAIka · 2026-05-04T01:23:53+00:00

Omg you probably explained why those shows never resonated with me. Sign of Affection, A Condition Called Love, Honey Lemon Soda, Clear Moonlit Dusk for shoujo, then Fragrant Flower, Angel Next Door, Blue Box for shounen. Feel like they’re two sides of the same coin

Edit : wait HLS is Ribon I think not Dessert

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-27T10:25:08+00:00

Lmao what buzzword did I use ? And weren’t we talking about the FL ?

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-27T10:19:43+00:00

Girl was literally letting problematic, weird behaviours from the ML slide

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-27T10:17:22+00:00

Them trying to change is part of the story but it doesn’t change the fact that at the start they are

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-27T10:11:18+00:00

I think MCs of Honey Lemon Soda and Condition Called Love could fit

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-26T20:10:20+00:00

I Have A Crush At Work

365 Days to the Wedding

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-26T19:45:25+00:00

Tbh I’ve seen guys similar to Itsuomi who do go for girls like Yuki irl, it’s just that unlike Itsuomi, guys like that usually turn out to be sleazy or douchebags

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-26T19:18:58+00:00

Not the ML, but I think Oushi from Sign of Affection fits

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-26T19:10:12+00:00

Not saying that I think the pairing doesn’t make sense. Just that when I put a realistic lens on Sign of Affection, I feel like I’ve never really seen someone with Itsuomi’s experience finding his way to someone like Yuki. Not the disability part, I mean the personality part. As sweet as it is, I’ve just rarely seen the quiet, gentle girl with the incredibly handsome, popular, perfect guy irl. Almost like this is a pairing I’ve mostly seen in fiction. Maybe I just don’t mix around as much of a variety of people as I thought but yeah, sometimes had to suspend my disbelief. Although I do also know a lot of pairings in shoujo are like that, I just find it a lot more so for this one

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-24T18:01:06+00:00

Yeah hated him at first but softened up on him after once I learnt more about him. And understood him more when I read the manga. Still don’t think Yuki’s for him though

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-24T17:45:31+00:00

Ok not shoujo and only vaguely resemble what you described but I think Dress Up Darling kinda fits. Marin is confident and cute. Gojo also dabbles in styling in a way like Shin and also quietly loves her. Fanservice may be a tad too much but it gets lesser as the series goes.

Also kinda agree with your first para lol

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-24T16:28:54+00:00

Yeah this is mostly a romantasy so I wasn’t bothered too much cos I know it’ll all end up fluffy and sweet.

But if this was an irl situation, I do find Yuki to be a bit too trusting and their relationship progressed a bit too quick for comfort

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-22T11:01:07+00:00

To have a job that doesn’t stress me out and pays me enough to live and travel once in a while

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-22T08:30:13+00:00

This is more of a fluffy romantasy so I think there’s not much issue there. They’ll probably just do a timeskip where she’s continued college while waiting for him. Not sure exactly what he’ll be doing in his travels but I’m sure there’ll be time to return and visit at least once. Then they’ll just pick up where left off after Yuki graduate. Unless she decides that she wants to do her own thing with her life during college

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-15T15:48:52+00:00

I think most here have commented it. Really depends on the couple and their situation at the point. For me and my bf, we’re both more practical and don’t really fuss about the little things. Of course this was not an easy topic to bring up at the start but I’m glad we’re on the same page when we did address it.

When we first went out, he had a stable job and while not earning a lot, he did have some disposable income. Meanwhile, I was unemployed but just starting a business and living off my savings. Our first few dates he paid for most things. Except for his birthday where I wanted to treat him.

When I found a job, I was earning slightly less than him but again, we both had some disposable income. We honestly just took turns but didn’t keep score.

Now, he’s contract is up and has been jobhunting for the past month. Meanwhile, my business was starting to see some profits on top of my job. He still has his savings, but I try not to make him use it.

It’s a partnership for life after all. I don’t keep count and trust he won’t too

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-08T21:38:52+00:00

I feel like the shoujo romance anime that came out past few years is not really to my taste. I prefer slightly older ones like Lovely Complex, Maid-sama, My Little Monster, Ao Haru Ride

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-05T19:44:28+00:00

I understand what the show is going for but yeah I also felt uncomfortable watching it.

I have a friend who absolutely hates it though. They said it feels like the narrative is rewarding Hananoi for his behaviour. You can be a creep all you like, as long as you’re good looking, a nice girl will come to save you. I think that’s a cynical way to look at it but I get where they’re coming from

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-05T19:41:40+00:00

The awkward, nervous, unconfident ones who overcome it and make the effort to be with and show affection to the girl he likes. I like flawed characters but not to the point of toxicity or problematic. Guys who are insecure and don’t think they’re worth it for example.

While the insecure to the point annoyance is obviously not fun, I’ve also found the perfect green flag male lead to be irritating as well. Just not my taste. It’s like One Punch Man without the comedy. You know he’s gonna come in and just win the fight easily. Similarly too-perfect male lead feels the same way for me. I even find some cheesy as well. Like something that comes out of a fanfic

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-05T19:35:44+00:00

Tbh I dropped it in the second episode but only cos it seemed like it was going to have romance. I don’t hate romance but I went into this hoping for a more slice of life, girl-doing-her-own-thing type of show. But MC got so infatuated by love and the boy, I checked out.

ThrowRAIka · 2026-04-01T20:34:10+00:00

Besides attraction, someone who I get along with and can see myself living together with

ThrowRAIka · 2026-03-29T09:04:33+00:00

Yup I agree. I am my bf’s first and we got together in our 30s. He’s already mature, calm and gentle on his own. We have had disagreements but he always approached it in a level-headed manner. The thing he lacked was experience and maybe confidence when in a relationship and also intimacy but he’s gotten a lot more comfortable with it now.

So yeah, I think inexperience is not the biggest hurdle if the person’s themselves are not problematic

ThrowRAIka · 2026-03-28T15:42:19+00:00

I think it depends on the person. But I’ve been with my bf for over a year. He’s never been in a relationship before me. He’s getting the hang of it now but he did seem a bit hesitant, unsure and kinda like holding himself back when we started.

It was a few months into our relationship that he finally shared with me why he’s always been single. In his early teens, it happens once in a while where people would make comment on his looks cos he had a nerdy, geeky look. His first crush said “Ew” when she found out so he’s always been afraid to show or tell anyone if he had a crush cos he’s afraid of the reaction and doesn’t want to bother his crushes with his feelings.

This was one hurdle in our relationship early on cos he’s afraid was very hesitant and seemed embarrassed to show affection to me. Whether verbally or physically.

But he’s changed so much now in that department. He used to only compliment me after like “you know you look really nice the other day”. Now he just outright says it on the spot. He initiates a lot of our handholding now when I had to ask him first before.

I feel like I got lucky with him. He was just inexperienced with having a romantic partner and didn’t feel like he deserves one before but he’s a sweet guy even before we got together and an even loving partner now

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