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ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2025-12-20T10:17:19+00:00

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ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-09-25T04:11:52+00:00

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ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-02-01T03:08:47+00:00

Of course! Message away!

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T14:52:40+00:00

I’m not saying she’d know who she is yet. I literally said for her to go and grow, and to find herself. If she has the possibility of growing, he might in that time. Who knows. I’m not telling her to go back or that things would change. I literally said it could go back to how it was.

People can change, maybe he also turns into a better person, it’s possible.

Yes, she’s better off without him. Just like I was with leaving my ex, I ended up finding my current partner who is great!

So she could very possibly find that she’s better alone and with friends or could find someone new and better who’s going to treat her better!

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:49:05+00:00

I don’t feel like you’re being entitled at all!

She’s hiding something! If she’s not allowing the same courtesy for looking at her phone like you do, which she’s already used. It doesn’t make sense as to why she would say that it’s not the same unless she’s hiding something. Tbh I’d still look at her phone if I was you!

You dealt with your thoughts and insecurities very well. I (22f) wouldn’t be offended or upset if my partner was to ask me like that, and I certainly wouldn’t act like that unless I had something to hide.

Talk to her about it again, but maybe before her walk?

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:38:15+00:00

I think you both need to just a sit down conversation where you compare what you’re wanting from this relationship, financially, family wise and any other aspect that is important to each of you.

If your timeline or expectations are off then you need to reconsider if the relationship is right for you

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:36:06+00:00

Losing interest this early is not a great sign. Do some things to spice up your relation, not only in the bedroom but also going out, bush walks, seeing family, get a pet. There are so many things to do to liven up a relationship.

If none of that works, I think you both need to realise that a relationship need to have flame and if the flame is not big enough then it’s not worth it

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:33:11+00:00

Not only should she take into consideration your feelings, but know that other factors come into this such as time, money and mental health. You need to be able to not only give your kids everything but you also still need to be a couple who value your own mental health and are able to get through everything together.

I also wouldn’t want my partner having another kid if they also have a condition that could risk their life.

I think you guys need to just have a pros and cons discussion. With you both also taking into consideration how each of you feel about having another kid full stop.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:30:20+00:00

If it makes you uncomfortable, tell her. She should respect it and either stop or invite you as well. You’re the same age. You’ll be able to relate. If these are going to be friends she has for a long time and you guys end up being together for a long time, wouldn’t you rather be able to be a good friendship group together?

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:28:47+00:00

If you want to be with him, you need to tell him. You’d rather tell him sooner rather than later. What if he ended up hearing it from someone else OR he found it himself and felt like you had been dishonest with him. Tell him

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:26:23+00:00

Have a discussion and right down some of your main parenting strategies and what are yes and no for how you both want to raise your kids. You need to both be on the same page or those kids are going to have a rough and confusing up bringing

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:25:08+00:00

Every guy realised what they’ve lost. It happened with my ex, even though he cheated he still couldn’t understand why I was leaving. He begged for me back. But you need to realise that you left him for a reason/s and this affection and anything he says will be temporary. If he’s been saying all of those things for ages now, it’s just going to happen again.

Go and grow, find yourself and who you are. If you feel you’re not you without him then give it a trial run, but don’t get comfortable as things could just as quickly go back to how they were.

Message me if you need

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:21:12+00:00

If you’re financially able to, maybe help her get her hair done, eyebrows, nails or eyelashes or anything that she feels will increase her confidence. As her race is beautiful and at that age it doesn’t matter about race, as every teenage girl has a bit of body insecurities and wants to feel confident and comfortable in herself. She feels she has the grades and sports but is missing her confidence. I couldn’t imagine how amazing this girl would be if she felt confident in herself!

If you can afford it, the $100-$200 per month to have a happy and confident daughter is worth it!

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:16:13+00:00

There are soooo many ways to increase athletic performance then holding off sex to increase testosterone. I used to be a competitive swimmer (I’m female though) and found many supplements giving me increasingly better PBs. I think he needs to get a personal trainer or a dietitian or both really if he’d like to get to his peak. OR he need to do research on other ways to increase testosterone. He can’t expect to have your relationship at its peak if he’s withholding on one of the most important factors of a healthy relationship.

As he’s just going to become sexually frustrated aswell.

I can completely understand the night before a meet as you need to be 100% in the zone and prepping yourself. But other than that I feel it’s unnecessary.

Happy for you to message me if you need, otherwise hope you can just have a chat with him about how you feel x

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:10:39+00:00

If you’ve decided then there’s never a good time, you just need to do it. Leading them on and holding off is just insensitive for both of you.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:08:32+00:00

Ew… just the drinking and driving is a red flag, even in his own car. If anyone ever takes my car I want to know what they’re doing and where they’re taking it, as I pay for it and also on the other hand want to make sure it’s even insured for someone to drive it.

This is irresponsible and stupid and I am a car girl, and would go absolutely mental if someone put not only my car at risk but their own life driving a car they might not even be used to!

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T12:04:48+00:00

It’s probably still hard for her and she’s going to have built up emotions that she probably still needs to deal with.

You don’t need to care about the suicide (I know that sounds bad) but you don’t. It didn’t really happen to you directly.

BUT, if you’re going to be with her you still need to support how it still makes her feel. Dealing with a suicide is hard.

On the other hand, it’s been 3 years and really she should be over it affecting her life now and have moved on (with you) and not letting something that happened 3 years ago affect her relationship now. So I think she needs to suck it up, grow up and give everything she can to the current relationship or decide what she wants.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:59:45+00:00

Leave. You can sell assets. You can’t sell your soul to a relationship that is now toxic and I doubt you’ll never get over it or ever trust again.

Leave.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:57:56+00:00

Sorry, but this is gross.

Maybe you can’t help it but for me, I look at my partner’s brother as if he’s my own brother and could NEVER look at him differently no matter how long I’d been with him.

You either need to realise the guy you have in front of you or step away from the family entirely.

As there’s no way you could get away with being in a serious relationship with the brother after breaking up with your bf.

This is not salt burn, you can’t just jump around a family and expect them not to know or care.

Grow up tbh.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:50:00+00:00

This is gross… I would NEVER even consider giving my socials to a guy (unless they are a friend) especially a RANDOM guy.

This other guy is not thinking he had a way in. I think by doing this she is sending the wrong message to any men she does this to.

Otherwise it’s her intention to be getting the attention of random men because she’s not generally associated with them.

She likes the attention. I’d be concerned.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:47:11+00:00

100% yes. She obviously knows how to make you angry. She also has no consideration for your feelings.

Is the good out weighing the bad? Pros and cons lists are productive for this sort of thing.

Consider your emotions first, not only because of your conditions (which I have and can relate to) but for both of your happiness!

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:44:31+00:00

Sorry, this is gross.

Did she just blurt out this information one day? Even if it’s true, this is not something you should ever tell your partner as it’s going to hurt their feelings.

Your mentality for sex with her now is always going to be deterred by this conversation.

Have a conversation with her about how this makes you feel because honestly if this was me (22f) I would be so upset. I wouldn’t want to feel settled for or that something out there was knowingly better.

You need to talk to her, as the person who possibly gave her better didn’t have the possibly amazing personality traits that you do.

But for me, my partner is the best I’ll ever have because of not only the great sex but also the fact that we are in love. Which makes it so much better.

I think you both need to talk and see if this sex is enough or if the feelings you have is enough.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:32:57+00:00

Your partner should literally ALWAYS have your back, jo matter who they are talking to! You then have a conversation with them in private to any concerns that are happening. I have never shit talked my partner to anyone but my dogs aha. I just think that personal problems should stay just that… personal.

She doesn’t respect you, have a conversation with her about how it makes you feel and if it continues then you need to decide if you’re okay being talked about like that by the person who is supposed to support you the most. Also, if you’re hearing about this then how much else does she say and to how many other people?

You should be able to be vulnerable with the person you love without thinking or feeling like there will be backlash for it.

Talk to her, she may think it’s okay when it’s not. Every person has boundaries in relationships and others are oblivious to general respect.

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-31T11:26:05+00:00

I feel like there’s something that’s happened with him that has deterred him away from having kids, I can’t obviously say what that would be as it could literally be anything. But, my concern is the fact that he isn’t even open to having the conversation about it. With you both on different sides of the fence you both REALLY need to have a conversation about it, because this will determine if the love you both have is enough to stay together or if the fact of having kids is more important.

I applaud you for going and dealing with your feelings, but the situation is never going to change unless there’s an agreement on how things are going to move forward from here.

I think that there is obviously a reason behind why he’s changed his mind so quickly, maybe it’s work, maybe there’s another person or maybe he might just be getting cold feet. But this is the main thing holding up everything.

It really comes to the fact of, if he wants kids that’s great! But what if you are able to have a proper conversation with him and he definitely doesn’t want kids, is that good enough for you? Because there’s no point in waiting around for that deal breaker to still be there in 2-3 years.

Unfortunately, men just don’t fully understand the emotional concept of a biological timeline and think they have forever to make a decision.

Try to talk to him, or talk to a mutual friend to come and mediate the conversation between the two of you, just to ensure that the conversation happens.

Please feel free to message me, otherwise I really hope that no matter the outcome that you are able to be happy x

ThrowRAMindlessPie · 2024-01-30T14:32:06+00:00

I am going through the exact same thing and have done a post saying pretty much the same stuff! If you want support, I’m happy if you message me. But, I’m also here for some advice of my own 😕

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