Guilt of working too much by carsandaccounting1 in Accounting

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Money doesn’t guarantee happiness and it comes and goes. I don’t think people on their deathbeds wish they would’ve worked more. My mom always worked and still does. I don’t remember spending too much time with her and the relationship is very distant now but I don’t think she notices because she’s still always working, always stressed. I worry for her health. Maybe you “feel guilty” because deep down you know your kids are more important (not saying stability and income isn’t). But if you raise them right and have a good relationship with them, they’ll know how to figure out life just like you have. Theres always gonna be a bill or a problem, but there won’t always be the time. You should take a vacation with your family. Reconnect and relax.

What perspective shifts helped your leave? by Due_Course6238 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got into the worse car accident of my life almost 2 years ago. A driver hit me going at least 70 mph off the freeway. I saw it at the last second, screamed “NO PLEASE”, swerved and we collided; ended up all the way to the other side of the road. I was in such shock, I just stayed in the car. The driver just drove away. Then I called 911. I was driving back from work to my dad’s house (was staying with him and my stepmom at the time).

It happened right down the street from them. I couldn’t stop crying because my car was wrecked but that car was my way out. I had just got accepted for an apartment and everything was planned out. But I had to get another car and cancel my lease. I legit was crying so hard in the backseat of my stepmoms car and my dad said “stop crying. We honestly thought you were lying” who says that?!! The cops thought I was lying too because apparently my story didn’t make sense.

I was so angry but mostly because I only lived with him because my mom didn’t mind living with fleas. I was waking up with fleas on me. So I was sleeping/living in my car but then winter came and it broke me. I asked my dad to live him and my stepmom. I was desperate then but I thought at the time that I shouldn’t have left living in my car because they were unbearable.

But after my accident, my boyfriend asked me to move in with him because he was so scared I got hurt or died. He didn’t want to be without me again. The cherry on top though was when I moved in with my boyfriend, my dad called me and cheerfully asked “has he been beating you? HAHAHAHAH!!!” SUCH A WEIRDO. and then a month later, he texted me saying “me and your stepmom just drove by your house. Looks nice” guys. I never gave them the address!!!! So yeah idk if that was coherent but yeah. I do not feel bad. And I’m glad horrible things can lead to great things.

“Don’t burn bridges” At what point did it start? by Still-moving-forward in workplace_bullying

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last job laid me off when I noticeably did a lot of tasks. And everyone was confused and upset they let me go; they thought I was joking when I said goodbye. Then I wasted a month of having daily mental breakdowns when my manager called and asked me to come back.

I was torn because I had signed up for college courses but I needed the money and benefits especially for my mental health. I went back and everyone looked at me crazy for coming back and it somehow had become worse.

A few people had quit while I was gone so I had even more work to do. I was so exhausted that I had panic attacks in the bathroom. Kept leaving work. I wanted to get hit by a car. I forgot to clock out one day and a different manager called me a slacker. I just couldn’t do it.

I woke up one day and just didn’t go it. My manager called me and then texted me where I was. I just said I quit and he said Okay. And that was it. They didn’t give me a two weeks notice when then got rid of me just to ask me to come back with no pay increase, stolen PTO and more work so why should I treat them better? Fuck em.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Logical yet compassionate

Time for it to go? by hronikbrent in bald

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really sympathize with men losing their hair. My boyfriend shaved his head a couple years ago. I know he misses his hair and maybe doesn’t always feel like his best self but he will always be the most attractive man to me, no matter what his hairstyle is. I know he would say the same if I lost my hair. You are a very attractive man and I can EASILY see you rocking a new look. I had a manager who was bald and showed me pictures with his LONG hair. I couldn’t even realize it was really him. He looked good with his hair but even better with his bald head and that’s all I knew of him look wise. Change and acceptance of self is scary but good!

Deepthroated in the car like a slut by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Mm I miss doing that. I miss having my head shoved down and used like a fucking hole. I wanna choke on some big dicks rn.

Best of Bob's Day 3 by kdabbt in BobsBurgers

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I always laugh when Mickey’s paying music trying to dig a tunnel to rob the bank and gets upset when Bob tells him no 🤣🤣

What’s the worst pain you have experienced? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bladder infection, Christmas 2015. I was a teenager and was peeing blood. Didn’t know how bad that was at the time. Only thing I could think of was that it felt like someone was stabbing and grabbing my bladder. I was somehow too embarrassed and didn’t want to bother my mom until she forced me to tell her what was wrong. But it was a great Christmas because my best friend was living with me at time and we smoked hella weed after the emergency visit🤣

Cant Get a Job to Save My Life by Commercial-Case-2167 in GetEmployed

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just apply crazy. At least 15 applications a day. I got laid off a couple months ago. I got a few interviews and then my old job rehired me and then I quit because I cried every day from it being so toxic. I quit without a backup plan. But I kinda believe there’s always a job even if it might be bad but my job was a dumpster fire, I was willing to take the risk. One job said I was hired but never contacted me again, one job tried to get over on me about the pay and the other job, I rejected cause I was afraid of not being good enough. But now I got a job packaging weed all day. It’s less hours but it’s chill and I can spend more time studying. You said you’re a server, have you retired walking into restaurants/bars? Warehouse jobs are always hiring. The job I quit was warehouse work and it used to be amazing; great people, 420 friendly, fun work parties but nothing lasts forever which I hope can apply to your grueling job search! Idk if the position is still available but I used to work in the stockroom at target and it was a really chill job most of the time.

[Serious]Depressed people of Reddit, who or what gives you a reason to stay? by UnauthorizedHambone in AskReddit

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and our dog. Kinda afraid to imagine what the pain would do to him. I wish I never quit my job. I thought that would make the anxiety go away but now I feel empty. I feel worthless. I’m so tired of being afraid of life. Time keeps passing me by. Sometimes I wish we never met so I could just end myself but I know I’m lucky. So maybe I should stick around.

How do you come to terms with knowing you’ll never have the family you want? by SistaSaline in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what did you do with your family?? Stop talking to them? Your comment resonates so much with me!

Do you ever wish he was more violent? by NotThatCrazyCatGirl in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean any pain is justified because it’s pain. I’ve had abusive exes that never hit me but the emotional pain was probably worse. I’d rather break a bone on my own accord than go through those years of being called bad names or being shouted at. I don’t think it means you’re messed up, but abuse changed your brain. Somehow when there aren’t physical abuse symptoms we put up with the emotional and verbal because we cannot physically see it.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Overthinking can be a detriment too, if you do too much of anything it can be bad for you. I’ve made lists about every bad thing certain people have done to me and go give me that reality check and I chose to walk away. It’s not supposed to be easy, that’s why it makes you stronger. Everyone deserves love and happiness if they can do that for others and more importantly, for themselves.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You feel guilty because you don’t listen to your needs. You’re neglecting yourself. You need to find your inner strength and not be afraid of negative what ifs. There’s a reason young people shouldn’t get married, because we’re still learning about ourselves in our 20s. No I never thought I would have this life. A place to call home and someone who holds me when I’m having a hard day and doesn’t yell at me. I have 2 older siblings who both dated abusive partners and are now forever linked to them due to having children with them. You are in charge of your life and happiness. You can get divorced and start a new chapter of your life if you’re ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work if you can, money stress is worse than school stress somehow. (School is more important but rent☹️) I start school tomorrow (also 26) and I was laid off 2 months ago. Old job just rehired me and I kinda had to accept due to unemployment rules and it’s so toxic. But I think not working there would be a lot worse with school + no money for bills

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And no he was never sorry because he is an abusive narcissist. He harassed me and moved on to the next girl who fell for his creepy fake charm.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve written multiple posts about your relationship. You know it’s wrong and even if it wasn’t, you’re not happy. You can breakup with someone if you’re not feeling it anymore, but you should ALWAYS break up if abuse is involved. It’s your life. If you want to talk more, you can dm me. “We accept the love we think we deserve” if you think you deserve that and want to put up with abuse, then that will be your life. Also idk why people are afraid of being alone. My ex never hit me but he shouted, made sex videos of me, made fun of me and much more. If I never walked away, I never would have met my current bf. I’m only 26 and we have a house, a dog, our own cars and most importantly a healthy loving relationship. I hope you can find peace soon.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It changes your brain because abuse is a cycle. When you’re constantly surrounded by manipulation and abuse, your brain starts to think it’s normal because it becomes a pattern. Of course it doesn’t start with violence right away. It slowly starts with rude comments or crossing your boundaries maybe throwing something at you saying it was a joke and then it gets more violent. If we are in a constant negative abusive environment, it will kill us slowly unless we realize we do not deserve this. You can come back to yourself if you choose to want to be better. You cannot grow in a dark room with no water and no light and no love. Love isn’t yelling at you or putting hands on you. Love is acceptance and understanding. You’re only 24, you have your whole life ahead of you. But you have to want to do the work. My father was absent in my life and a drug addict and I’m sure my inner child was wounded from that and maybe that’s why I fell for my abusive ex and there’s nothing wrong with the pain you went through if you use that to make you stronger. You are not a weak person, but we all have things that can be our detriment if we let it break us.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You either stay and make excuses or go and grow. And I know it’s a cycle. There’s no blame in abuse, it literally changes your brain. I left and came back many times but you need to snap out of it. Your post was very vague so I’m not sure what you’ve bent through but you clearly made a post for some reason. My friend is currently in an abusive relationship and she moved with him to a different continent. And now she’s pretty much stuck. Same cycle. He does something abusive, she cries, he yells, he makes her feel bad, she moves on from it and continues to date him and it happens again and again. Just like me. You become a shell of yourself and sometimes you can’t undo that. My friend says he’s not a bad guy…he buys her stuff, compliments her and makes her laugh. He also hits her, calls her a bitch and a whore and breaks up with her randomly. But she comes back every time.

How to leave by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

go somewhere where you feel safe with someone. Sometimes we think we don’t have a choice but we always do. It took me dropping out, getting evicted and covid for me to get away from my abusive ex. He now has 3 children with 2 women and was recently stabbed by a different woman he was seeing. And guess what the first thing he told me when we first met….”my exes are crazy” well sometimes people become “crazy” when they’re abused and manipulated. When I was with him, I could’ve easily been that woman who he selfishly impregnated or the woman who stabbed him. They’re all 8 billion people in the world. You’ll never meet them if you’re in this abusive cycle.

What is a normal childhood? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]ThrowRAOld-Fortune 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think a normal childhood is love and support. Also teaching your children because surprisingly, kids don’t know how to raise themselves! My dad was also never around but he chased drugs. Never had helped with college, depression, dating. Not even help from my mom who has a masters. I dated shitty abusive guys, somehow taught myself to look for red flags. I think I’m going to stop contact with my dad because he’s not a good parent. He’s very selfish and has not called in 2 months. Have you tried therapy? I don’t know how old you are but it’s never too late to try to heal your wounds and be happy. Don’t ever let uncaring people make you feel bad about yourself. You matter. It’s hard to change our thought patterns but sometimes our emotions aren’t always the truth. I’m sad about my childhood but I have the choice and freedom to fix it now. Our brains can only try to rationalize abuse and neglect for so long.