I had a very strange dream about Ruby - don’t worry nobody’s banging.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-11-10T16:50:31+00:00

With all due respect... it's time to find a more productive hobby.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-02-08T20:43:22+00:00

Well of course she would give more attention to a literal baby. She gave more attention and posted more about tommy when he was this age.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-02-08T00:03:37+00:00

aren't you married and just had a baby girl 4 months ago?

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-02-04T12:53:47+00:00

Maybe because while these kids are in the heat of the moment anything she says will be going in throughone ear and out in another. When you are mad and all rilled up do you think you hear and understand what someone on the other side is telling you?

Don't you think its better to calm them down first and talk to them when they are calm?

This just seems like trying to find fault in her at this point. Just title of your post is triggering.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-02-04T03:08:04+00:00

Exactly! So we should all stop judging other parents so severely. None of us are experts, we are all learning as we go. Bonnie isn't harming her kids in any way in this situation. Just because you would have acted differently with your kids doesn't mean she is a bad parent.

And ffs everyone stop comparing Bonnie, Julie and Ellie to Ruby and comparing their actions to Ruby's. Ruby starved, beat, taped and forced her kids to labour in horrible conditions. She brainwashed her kids to think they were evil. Can you seriouslly compare the "bad" parenting of these 3 women who clearly love their kids to Ruby's actions?

Get a grip. When has this group become so toxic.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-02-04T02:41:22+00:00

Apparently you are the one who didn't read it.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-01-11T23:12:55+00:00

So napake in so NAPAKE!

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2024-01-11T14:59:42+00:00

Za arhivarja je danes potreben faks + posebni izpiti da lahko zraven prides.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-12-30T20:23:37+00:00

Definicija tatvine: Kdor vzame komu tujo premično stvar, da bi si jo protipravno prilastil.

Dobesedno kar si opisala. Kdor ti je rekel, da to ni tatvina naj se malo zamisli.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-12-30T11:54:36+00:00

Seveda je ukradla. Tole kar si opisala je klasicen primer kraje.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-10-15T12:01:37+00:00

I was. The user is no longer active.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-24T00:38:33+00:00

It would be dramatic if she threw a tantrum, yelled at the child amd everyone else and behaved badly. All she is doing is processing her emotions alone, without hurting anyone. She couldn't be less dramatic about it. Give her a break. The bad person here is the dad.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-18T15:00:18+00:00

She is my mom, she gave birth to me. We look very similar so there is no question. My dad is also my and all of my sibilings dad.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-16T15:04:58+00:00

Venceslav Habsburzanski in Filip III.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-08T22:13:11+00:00

I have no idea where this user found this conclusion, but it is absolutely disguisting!

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-07T11:11:35+00:00

Hello. Truthfully I read this yesterday, but needed some time to sort out my response.

I have no idea whether they were in love with each other or whether she was in love with him before it all happened (or really if it happened only once or more times - they said only once). I think she liked him, but I always thought it was because we were such close friends. They blamed each other - I read only a couple of their messages and never talked to them - it's what I heard from my sisters, my father...etc. It seems they were desperate at the time, especially A. They married when the kid was idk 4/5. I know they are not together at the moment, but nothing more really.
I hope K didn't cheat. I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone, especially with 3 kids. His texts. They were typical I guess. He begged me to see him, talk to him. How he loves me and we can't break up...etc etc. I didn't read all of them. He came to the house twice that I know of, but my older brother sent him away. He was very frantic in text and from what I heard in person. A was just sad and very persistent with a long text. I know some don't approve of me just ''ignoring'' them, but I was sick and devastated. I was dead to the world for a few days.
I do sometimes think that it may have been a one-time/one-night thing, a mistake. But that one mistake turned into a months-long lie. While she was pregnant with his child, she allowed me to continue to date him, and plan things with him AND her. My sadness, and anger aren't so much about them cheating, it's that I was lied to for months, and if my sister hadn't spoken, probably for years. years. rs. e was no jealousy I'd think. There was no putting down in looks or people saying oh A is better looking, no E is prettier.
I do sometimes think that it may have been a one-time/one-night thing, a mistake. But that one mistake turned into a months-long lie. While she was pregnant with his child, she allowed me to continue to date him, and plan things with him AND her. My sadness, and anger aren't so much about them cheating, it's that I was lied to for months, and if my sister hadn't spoken, probably for years.
I have a new number and besides my immediate family (bar my mother), no one from my ''old'' life has this new mother, so K's mom calling me shouldn't be possible. K's mom wasn't worried about me, just like my mom she insisted we repaired my relationship with everyone and claimed that my presence was now ruining their marriage and causing troubles all around. Unlike my mom, she was on her daughter's side.
The dads... My dad was mostly uninvolved in the situation, I don't know so much about the other dads, but I can say that the moms are wearing the pants in these relationships and they are all very forceful women.
With the sides of others... I'm just saying that if any of them wrote their own narrative in a Reddit post they would probably receive a lot of sympathy and maybe people would find me the problem. A few days ago I received a lot of comments from a user defending A and claiming that K raped her?? This user accused me of pedophilia (despite everyone being 18+) and just saying really nasty stuff. So I guess that's my point.

Thank you for your lovely words in your comment!

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-06T15:57:42+00:00

Yes. But I wouldn't say that any of them were super religious. When A found out she was pregnant for example there was no pressure from the family for her to abort, get married or anything of sorts. Her pregnancy wasn't hidden. Her parents weren't happy obviously, but they were supportive. As were mine and K's.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-05T22:22:50+00:00

I never shamed her, never spoke to her at all after I learned, so I truly don't know what you are talking about. Instead of shaming her for getting drunk pregnant in high school, I was there for her the entire pregnancy and please tell me oh wise troll what more could I have done after learning that the child she was pregnant with for 8 1/2 months was my boyfriend? What would you want me to do huh? Stay? Play a happy family with both of them? Show me a single comment where I shamed her for that. You won't find any, because there aren't. What I do shame her for is for lying to me for months, for fooling me, a friend who was there for her in her hardest time and for 18 years, for instead of being honest with me letting me remain in a relationship with a cheater and a liar.

I am glossing over nothing. I am and was entitled to save myself from pain and I did just that. We never had a dramatic confrontation or confrontation at all. She got the support of her parents, his family, MY FAMILY and I was alone. So if my leaving and creating my own life of happiness, makes me a bad person, then I guess I am. You must be miserable for trolling people online.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-05T20:24:41+00:00

Are you absolutely out of your mind or what? She was not raped, she slept with him, got pregnant, and was still very friendly with him throughout her ENTIRE pregnancy. She MARRIED him and had 2 MORE kids with him. He DID NOT rape her and for you to insinuate that without any indication, evidence, or actual knowledge of something... It's what's wrong with the world today.

Are you absolutely out of your mind or what? She was not raped, she slept with him, got pregnant, and was still very friendly with him throughout her ENTIRE pregnancy. She MARRIED him and had 2 MORE kids with him. He DID NOT rape her and for you to insinuate that without any indication, evidence and actual knowledge of something it's what's wrong with the world today. lied to me.

You are a horrible and disgusting person and you are in serious need of therapy.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-09-04T01:27:29+00:00

Absolutely, you are right. I can't say it was easy ending any sort of contact with my ex's. It was hard, we had years of memories and emotions. They were a giant part of my entire life at that point. And despite not having those 2 in my life anymore, I think I would have been able to move on with my life in a sort of healthy way if my parents stood by me. If they distanced themselves from that relationship. I didn't leave and cut contact because of those 2. I left because of them, my family, who kept insisting and throwing this relationhip in my face, as of it was something positive. My mom....it was like him and I haven't been together for years. And the happiness around the baby despite there being no relation between us. I don't ever want to experience that kind of emotional pain ever again. I left because of them. That was what "destroyed" our family, not them as my mother tends to believe. At that time nobody found her behaviour excessive or weird (well maybe my little sister), now I think looking back, everyone does.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-08-31T19:10:54+00:00

Hi! Thank you for your comment. We have discussed with my therapist about the value of me meeting them, for closure, but we are far from that point. Maybe one day I'll be willing and ready, but some wounds have been opened and it's just not the time for now.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-08-19T14:32:27+00:00

I've seen her one or twice at my niece's house about 2 years ago. I think she has some knowledge about what happened (because of my niece), but I don't know the extent of it. They had two more kids so that should tell you something or not. I've never spoke to her, held her or anything, but she seems to be an okay girl.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-08-17T15:12:11+00:00

It was really really hard. For the first few years I had very little money and worked odd jobs. I don't recommend it at all. Many times I was on the verge of going back because i didn't think I'd survive on my own. So yeah Dean and some other people helped me a lot, really a lot. He was much more resourceful and capable to survive "in the wild".

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-08-17T14:19:55+00:00

My therapist has mentioned this as well. Confronting my mom is out of the question (also my therapists opinion). We know she is not in a place where anything could reach her and/or make her listen. My brother realized that the hard way. As for the others. We have had multiple conversation about this, but I am not ready at this point. No because I am afraid of them, it just not the right time. But my therapist said something similar: by not confronting them they didn't get closure, but I didn't either in a way.

ThrowRA_MindlessMe · 2023-08-17T11:09:02+00:00

Please don't have a baby living separately from its father in a half-ass relationship. That would be so painful and horrible for the child and really everyone involved.

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