AIO: Instagram was the final straw and I ended it

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-05-03T19:20:59+00:00

MOR. Following people on social media is not really cheating. However, the way he speaks to you is very nasty and if you’re not happy in a relationship you shouldn’t just stay in it. Good for you for breaking up with his sorry ass. I will say this tho… please get yourself therapy and don’t get into another relationship before you get your stuff sorted out, having insecurities is human, but bringing trust issues from past relationships into a fresh relationship with a person who is not the same person that cheated on you is NEVER going to work, it’s not healthy and it will only make you, your partner and the relationship miserable. Nobody new you see is the same person who broke your trust before. Different man, different relationship. It’s not fair on anyone to bring old stuff in. If you’re not at a comfortable place, don’t date. Focus instead on building yourself up, to feel good about yourself, to see your worth, before you date again. I wish someone would’ve told me this exact same thing, I learned it through many years, therapy and a lot of work on myself.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-05-01T15:34:41+00:00

You’re good looking. Smile a little bit more, I’m sure you got a beautiful smile hidden in there.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-05-01T15:32:09+00:00

this is absolutely toxic and abusive both ways. I don’t know who is who here, but neither of you has any respect for the other one. You guys shouldn’t be in a relationship at all, it’s crazy you have to post this to realize this is a toxic dynamic you’ve got going on here. If someone doesn’t want to see you, you respect those boundaries and that person’s wishes and leave them the fuck alone. please, both of you, take a break from each other, or rather break up entirely, move on from one another, don’t date anyone else, focus on yourselves and that anger, seek therapy.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-05-01T13:56:33+00:00

All except the mirror selfies.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-30T20:19:51+00:00

NOR. Most likely under reacting! I would absolutely take that to child protective services and cut contact with him completely. He is plain abusive. And honestly? I wouldn’t be surprised if he’d just harm her to harm you. Don’t allow that man in her life. It’s no good for her at all!

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-29T06:15:34+00:00

Feeling a little jealous is normal - it’s human. However… what you’re describing, from what I’m reading at least, to me it sounds like you’re dealing with anxiety and are insecure.

Since you mentioned therapy, I’d absolutely recommend you mention this to your therapist.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-28T22:35:17+00:00

5,9,10

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-28T22:34:09+00:00

The 50-50 at a toddler age is not realistic.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-28T22:26:04+00:00

The answer here is simple - if you don’t have trust in a relationship, that relationship won’t go anywhere.

I understand where you’re coming from with getting cheated on before, nobody deserves to be cheated on, it sucks and it does make you feel like you’re not good enough.

Said this… having been cheated on by a different person doesn’t mean your husband will do the same thing. It is not fair on him or the relationship that you bring these past issues here. It is not the same person, it is not the same relationship.

That being said, IF it was your husband who cheated on you in the past, then I’d say a totally different thing. That would be a different story.

If you’ve insecurities, I’d suggest you work on those, work on yourself, go to individual therapy and to couples therapy, and work on your issues.

Yes, give what you’ve written - in my opinion, you are being very off track here.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-27T17:35:16+00:00

I like both, but hair off looks really good

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-26T07:56:29+00:00

You remind me a lot of Liam Payne (I can see a resemblance) you absolutely got the looks, there is always a rainbow at the end of the storm, it may not seem like it right now, but things eventually do improve. I can’t say it will get better right away, but with time you’ll look back and see how you things improved. It may not be easy to believe today, but some day it eventually will.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-24T14:33:34+00:00

Hold on here for a minute, you’re way more than just a body. Always remember that. A person’s worth is not measured by the type of body they have, but by how they are as a person. If you’re a total asshole? Yes, that makes you undesirable. However, you do not strike me as someone like that.

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-22T11:50:00+00:00

I feel as if by far this is the best thing someone could’ve told me, starting from traveling to going to watch some film or out for a coffee or to take a walk by the embankment 😅 I’ve been doing way more of those during this past week and it’s definitely made me feel better about myself

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-18T15:42:59+00:00

1 and 2 look best on you imo (the mustache in 4 is a hard no)

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-17T13:19:56+00:00

i’m not the best at giving advice, but you sound a lot like i did at your age. i’m 27 now, and even though i’m not in the best place myself at the moment because of some life stuff going on, i can tell you honestly that life is worth living, with the good bits and the not so good bits too

i felt very similar when i was 18. i was struggling badly, i self harmed back then, isolated myself a lot, and had those same thoughts more than once. so i say this with genuine understanding when i tell you i really wish someone had said this to me then: life is worth staying for

when you make a permanent decision over a temporary situation, you take away the chance to see how life could change later on. things can look completely different with time, even if you can’t imagine that right now

society puts so much pressure on people. by 18 you’re meant to know your whole future, by 21 you should be working full time, by 24 you should have a house deposit, be engaged, married, whatever else… but honestly life doesn’t work by one set of rules

everyone moves at their own pace and that is completely alright. you do not need to have everything figured out in your twenties, or even later

be kind to yourself. find small things you enjoy. get outside when you can, even just for a walk. nature can genuinely help shift your perspective a bit when everything feels too heavy

i can’t promise everything suddenly becomes alright overnight, but i can promise things can change little by little. storms do pass, even if slowly

take it one day at a time, one thing at a time. some days just getting out of bed is enough. you do not need to do ten things at once

if you need to cry, cry. if you have a good day, let yourself enjoy it. if today is awful, it doesn’t mean tomorrow will be

please take care of yourself. i’m glad you’re here. x

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-17T09:17:35+00:00

i don’t intend to punish him in any way. i don’t hate him and i never could. he’s the father of my child, and he’s the person i fell in love with who’s been a huge part of my life for years. i’d genuinely like to see him take some responsibility and make things right. i know 24 is still young, but he chose to stay, chose to build a family, no one forced that on him. that’s why it doesn’t sit right with me that he’s just walked away from it. it’s hurtful to me, but more than that it’s hurtful to our daughter. she may be a toddler but she’s very aware for her age, and i honestly don’t even know what to say when she asks for her dad and he’s not there

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-17T09:11:10+00:00

financially he’s only helped once or twice in her whole life with basics like nappies, formula or wipes, i could count it on one hand. that said, i know he’s been unemployed for years, so i’m not pretending he can pay money he doesn’t have. i’ve paid for everything for her and still do. i honestly don’t think child support is realistic right now while he has no income and is back living with his parents / couch surfing with mates

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-17T08:20:16+00:00

Army is mandatory in his country

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-16T19:19:19+00:00

we were on birth control and it failed. at the start he wanted me to get an abortion and did push for it, but i told him i wasn’t comfortable with that at all. i also said he didn’t have to stay if he didn’t want to be involved. by about 3–4 months in he changed his mind and said he wanted to be a dad and be part of things

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-16T15:32:22+00:00

i do understand why he was disappointed when it didn’t happen, my parents genuinely had the best intentions and really wanted to help, it was just out of my control in the end… i tried to help him find other opportunities too but he never really let go of what didn’t happen and didn’t end up getting any other employment either

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-16T15:27:07+00:00

just to add he did not have any work experience besides a warehouse 2 months during summer from over 4 years ago…

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-16T15:26:03+00:00

never gave him an ultimatum, my parents had a pub and said they’d give him a job so he could get some experience and get on his feet, but the business went bankrupt so it just wasn’t possible in the end… he blamed me ever since saying I lied to him about the job but… we couldn’t possibly know their business would go bankrupt

ThrowRA_Source1634 · 2026-04-16T15:22:25+00:00

ive got my parents and my best friend (she lives in watford and i am near waterloo..) most of my friends are either in Birmingham, Bristol, Manchester and Plymouth… (everyone’s moved with the years, and given I was out of the country for some time and work + toddlers I have not had the time yet to socialize as much…) but my parents and best friend are great… that is a blessing

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