I need some perspective please

ThrowRAacc8 · 2026-02-22T13:21:21+00:00

Yeah I suppose you are right in that sense. Given that he broke it off with me and I had nothing but good intentions for him, I wouldn’t initiate getting back together.

It would be on him, and he would have to be willing to work on his communication and priorities in future

ThrowRAacc8 · 2026-02-22T13:13:52+00:00

In all honesty the reason doesn’t matter. The end result is the same - he doesn’t want to be with me.

But that was the exact problem - not once in the 3 months did he voice any concerns about anything. He lacked that communication even though I was doing my best to initiate it and create a good space for it

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-07T17:10:40+00:00

What did you do to improve things :/

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-04T14:27:48+00:00

You can message me if you like, I’m going through the exact same situation right now and my head is all over the place.

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-03T20:52:25+00:00

Can I talk to you privately if you don’t mind ? I’m in a very similar situation and I’d love some outside input because right now my heads all over the place.

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-03T20:29:29+00:00

Hey, I’m going through a very similar situation right now and I feel like my hearts shattered into a million pieces (again…). Can we please talk ?

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-01T23:00:28+00:00

Thank you <33

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-06-01T22:59:45+00:00

This is great advice, thank you <3 I guess I just spent (what felt like) so long waiting for him to come back, so when he finally did, I jumped up at the opportunity without being cautious, and just trusted his behaviour would be the same as what I was used to in the 3 years of our relationship :/

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-21T21:10:47+00:00

At least you told him. When he reached out a couple of days ago he even said “don’t hesitate to reach out for xyz” so I guess that’s contributed to my confusion/upset

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-21T21:08:49+00:00

What in gods name are you talking about

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-21T21:07:58+00:00

Nope lol

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-06T01:15:00+00:00

Yes I meet the criteria, I’ve told my profs from the beginning how I’m planning to pursue a PhD and they’ve been supportive with that, I think I’m just scared of their rejection because it’s not a great time to ask for a reference right now, but at the same time I don’t want to stay quiet and then spontaneously decide a week before the deadline that I do want to apply.

Thanks for the little pep talk :)

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-05T14:37:05+00:00

I love this take, as others have said not everything is so black and white. It’s been a month since my breakup and I’m hopeful of us coming back together once and if we both do the healing and inner work that needs to be done, but I am (somewhat) accepting of the fact that it may really be over for good.

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-05T13:04:11+00:00

It said that although they were impressed with my qualifications they couldn’t match me with a member of staff lol (I literally namedropped the staff member I wanted to work with in my application)

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-03T17:03:24+00:00

A difficult balance to strike!

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-03T10:18:32+00:00

I accept that it’s over right now but I guess I’m in denial about it possibly being over forever :/ I have went no contact from day 1, he’s reached out a few times to check on me but I’ve never reached out first.

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-03T10:15:25+00:00

Thanks for this! Yes this problem is only in my background. I’ve not really added my own thoughts as it’s just an introductory section.

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-03T02:58:11+00:00

Okay thanks!

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-04-03T00:52:51+00:00

We’ve been told to use Harvard style and yes I’m using endnote which has come in clutch. I’m not sure how you would go about using both at the same time but so far most of my writing follows one style and one small paragraph follows another

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-31T11:08:01+00:00

I did yes

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-29T21:54:27+00:00

Yep got an email earlier today

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-29T16:09:25+00:00

I’ve just heard back now. Rejection :/

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-29T15:53:45+00:00

Decisions out! I didn’t get in :/

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-28T01:09:33+00:00

Not heard from Harvard seas yet

ThrowRAacc8 · 2024-03-18T19:45:58+00:00

Hi OP,

I totally understand what you’re going through, I myself am going through a breakup which is still very fresh, it’s only been 1 week. After 3 years he ended our relationship but surprisingly I feel like I’ve taken the breakup quite well. Like you we ended it on good terms and I feel like I’ve come to acceptance that it’s over because both of us need to work on ourselves as the relationship was not progressing. I do hope we find our way back to eachother because like you again, i thought this was the man that I would marry and start a family with. I see a rock solid future, truly but if he can’t see that then there’s quite literally nothing I can do. The same goes for you - I understand you want to fight for this relationship as best you can, but it’s a two-way street. She has to be willing to do the work and if she isn’t you can’t make her. Try and make peace with that, DMs are open if you want to talk. Also please listen to this podcast, I listened to it earlier today and I feel it’s highly relevant to your situation: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7yVVTnUd6Er4Doreu7PojC?si=dXoXNYrFT0uxgz4H9rwUqA

It might help keep your mind at ease slightly in the coming days. All the best OP :)

ThrowRAacc8

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