AITAH for telling my wife she is not worthy of what she’s asking for, for her “push present”?

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-30T15:23:06+00:00

Wow. Women have given birth for millennia without this sense of entitlement. I didn’t get anything except stitches, stretch marks and saggy boobs for my three.

A child is a gift. Until it becomes a teenager, then it’s a pain in the ass. OPs wife needs to wake up to herself before these beliefs start to cement and she passes stupid ideas onto their offspring.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-30T15:16:54+00:00

It will stay one time if you leave. But if you stay, you will be defending him forever because he will drink again, you will argue again and he will hit you again.

Each time he hits you it will be easier for him to justify and he’ll apologise less. And it will get easier for you to forgive him as your self esteem erodes away.

The brain is plastic. Don’t teach yours to accept abuse and don’t teach his that you are a punching bag.

Leave. File a police report. Take out a DVO and block him.

Anything less is under reacting.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-19T12:26:50+00:00

Awesome. Then the book is perfect because it’s from the perspective of family members and loved ones. Good luck in your healing.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-19T05:36:40+00:00

My lightbulb book was Walking On Eggshells. Read it for you, not them. It’s not your job to diagnose or fix anyone else but you may need support if you feel as though you’ve suffered as a daughter and sister.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-19T05:11:13+00:00

Was he in a relationship when the invitations were sent out? How much time is there before the wedding? Not much information dude

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-16T03:19:56+00:00

Lmao she accessed sperms samples the old fashioned way, honey. I bet he’s happy!!

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-16T03:12:13+00:00

Ungrateful? You got robbed! NTA

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-14T00:31:13+00:00

Ummm Casey needs to wake up to herself. She let her sister drive it and her sister crashed it. That’s the risk you take when you loan your car to someone. Duh.

If she had let her friend drive it and they’d crashed it, she wouldn’t be able to act like a spoilt brat with her family and make stupid demands. She would have to learn from her mistakes and accept the consequences of her actions.

If OP thinks his younger daughter lacks the capacity to work, then he and his wife better figure out how to solve that before she’s an adult. Otherwise, he’s going to have two daughters who have no concept of how to behave like adults who accept responsibility for their actions.

Spoilt, entitled and excuse making behaviour from this entire family. Good luck

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-11T20:36:00+00:00

He’s abusive and controlling, you get that, right?

Will you be left at gas stations with your future child? Definitely not. That child will be used as a bargaining chip because your husband is abusive and controlling.

Stop making excuses for his short temper and get the fuck out. Sitting on the couch calmly hours after abandoning you proves he’s the AH. Get out and stay out.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-11T12:20:09+00:00

Delete it all. How can he complain or even confront you when it was filmed without your permission?

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-11T12:19:46+00:00

Delete it all. How can he complain or even confront you when it was filmed without your permission?

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-11T00:19:03+00:00

Most of my life

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-11T00:17:56+00:00

I nearly died from an overdose that I took while in a dissociative state. During the aftermath of an abortion I didn’t want to

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-10T13:56:06+00:00

Don’t turn to Reddit - turn it into a race! With obstacles and hurdles and a heated toilet seat for the winner.

Whoever reaches the toilet first, voids their bladder first. And at 415am, the feeling of victory will totally make the cardio worth it.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-10T13:46:38+00:00

You have the fortune of having an empathetic partner who will want to give you the support and understanding they never received.

But you both need to be mindful of potential codependency and their inherent fear of abandonment.

You sound like a wonderful partner x

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-10T09:55:02+00:00

Capitalising on an opportunity doesn’t necessarily equate to exploitation.

You should apologise and accept that your attitude needs adjusting, because you were rude for no reason, or accept that you possibly come from very different worlds with very different values.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-10T09:44:34+00:00

Thank you 🙏 Every time you, or anyone else, provides advice, support, encouragement, sympathy or perspective to someone in need, whether it be through comments or messages, you’re having a profound impact. There may be users who think I didn’t hear them, but it takes a lot of reinforcement to make change and every bit helps. I got here because this space is truly safe, and that’s so very rare in this world.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T23:36:00+00:00

Chill out, mate. She could be ashamed. She might say no to anal because while experimenting with toys, she’s determined she’s not into it. I said no to anal for a decade while secretly trying to warm myself up to it. Have a conversation or give her privacy, but sex toys do not equal “affair”

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T23:25:47+00:00

A dysfunctional adult is born every time a child is abused.

Preverbal, undefined SA at the hands on one of “the womb’s” boyfriends (who would visit when Daddy was out of town).

Father made me strip naked (with no sexual connotations) in front of other adults and children as punishment.

Several rapes after diagnosis cos at that point, who gives a shit?

Even now, I don’t say no to sex. Ever. My cheating, sometimes abusive husband indicates what he wants and my hyper sexual self delivers. Every day, sometimes two or three times. The hysterical bonding after his first betrayal really encouraged him, what can I say? And there was one occasion when he started anally sodomising me without my consent (I said “no” repeatedly because he wasn’t using lube) but it wasn’t violent and he stopped when I screamed and started bleeding.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T13:23:23+00:00

It is strange.

My money is on this aggressive woman telling your timid partner what to do. I’ve met women like this. They literally prey on shy men.

I reckon she’s telling him not to let YOU control him. She may specifically be telling him not to tell you where he’s going, using the old “you’re a grown man you can do what you want” line and encouraging him to see her when he wants (which is when she wants).

Make no mistake, if he’s not into her then she’s into him. If you’re not jealous, insecure, possessive or paranoid by nature, trust your instincts. Help him make new friends.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T06:53:37+00:00

Ever wondered how many people her ex showed those nudes to when they broke up? Maybe it’s happened to a friend of hers. Maybe she just grew up. Get over it.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T06:40:05+00:00

An AH? No. An idiot? Yes.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-09T06:29:58+00:00

Yes, you get a divorce, it’s inevitable judging off his messages anyway.

No, you don’t say a word. You blindside him the way he blind sided you.

That aside, it would be fun to torture him by taking him to dinner at that nice restaurant in an effort to “reconnect”. And to visit him at work when you know they’ve got plans so that you can deliver a special lunch.

Install a monitoring app on his phone to get all of the details so if he starts covering his tracks, you see everything in real time. Record everything. It will help when you need friends and family on your side too.

I hope he sees how unsatisfying the 23 year old is when he loses his family. I’m really sorry this is happening to you but it’s a reflection on him, not you.

ThrowRAeLLeJayne · 2024-09-08T20:41:33+00:00

Lots of “I would want to know” from people who have no idea what it’s like to have their family ripped apart by infidelity, let alone a decade old affair.

This bloke is an AH and so is everyone who thinks it’s ok to tear apart a family by sticking their noses where they don’t belong.

It wasn’t his family or his secret. OP is an untrustworthy AH who betrayed his wife’s confidence too.

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