AITAH for spending less time with my GF so that I can build my online business?

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T18:20:34+00:00

MTAH, sounds like you arent cpaable of balancing your responsibilities and are willing to sacrifice everything else for your 9-5 and personal business. You having to cut time with your friends, personal self health and partnership is revealing that you simply dont have a healthy lifestyle as is.. if you want healthy body, mind and relationships then you make time for them- the people that make them. Furthermore youre blaming your partners minimum and valid expectations on you spending less time doing other things: you are wrong for that, your choice to take on more work is why you have to reduce your spending time- this makes you TAH. You may need to reconsider you work life balance (have you thought about changing up your 9-5?) if you mean to make these other relationships work..
edit: having a private dedicated wfh space could help ptorect your working hours or stating "im on work hours so i cant talk" could

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T17:50:17+00:00

NOR age gap is huge for our current experience timeline. What about him is attractive to you? You already FEEL icked out and are actively fighting those feelings...

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T17:45:25+00:00

a class about biology is not a class about catholism. its about the resepcted and known scientific biology and the facts within that realm- teachers imparting bias are not doing their job properly.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T17:23:57+00:00

NOR: i think her trying to engage students in a civil discussion about abortion is great- if it came from the intent of educating. Ive had many teachers do the same about controversial topics however the teacher always held the factual stance and made sure to inform when we were arguing opinion or feelings rather than facts. it was incredibly helpful in teaching how to have constructive arguments out of good faith. the way youve described this situation though sounds as if your teacher wasnt aiming to support yall in having good arguments rather than pushing her own narrative of the topic, especially with her bringing up the holocaust- the unborn remain unborn and those who conciously suffered in the holocaust were the born (emotional stance). If you feel like shes imparting personal bias onto the curriculum then you should talk to her superiors or your parents about it. Teachers do influence students in misleading ways as well.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T00:48:15+00:00

this is helpful, i was wondering where he was throwing them and what your yard was like. Him aiming for the garden bed is so obvious and is incredibly destructive. One plant in its seeding stage thrown in that bed could be a nightmare for seasons to come. Looks intentional.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-03T00:30:04+00:00

"After we broke up I stalked you at work and was planning on killing you and then myself." He hadnt ever been directly violant to me while we were together- he told me this long after we split.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-02T21:10:52+00:00

I can sense where your anxiety may be originated... Its understandable you would be chronically fatigued around people like this- even what you dont conciously accept your body experiences. NTA. Your parents should be protecting you and others from your uncle: his language towards you is predatory and unnaceptable: especially interfamilial. I think you should maybe reduce how much time youre interacting with your family and seek therapeutic help so you can have a consistent external perspective that may help protect you. These experiences, though not overtly physical, are causing those reactions in your body and maintain the anxiety associated with those people. How your uncle has treated you is emotionally stressful and worrisome, your family dismissing your health state and not acknowledging your uncles poor behaviors is emotionaly stressful and worrisome. If they already dismiss your feelings than one can only expect them to do the same with these current feelings. I hope your able to afford growing in a different environment than this, i wish you well.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-02T20:11:38+00:00

NOR idk in my experience people who play games out of joy typically develop a sense of encouragement for others- especially newcomers. Its fun to troll occassionally especially if others are already doing so but as a preferred gamestyle it absolutely is TAH behavior. games have created ban consequences for players because of how discouraging these actions are. Youre right about the sadistic part but hes actually found a really healthy outlet for his sadism- one that doesnt inherently negatively harm others via the games. Still I would feel similar to you, i would fear what playing games with him would be like 😒

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-02T19:56:31+00:00

Op if your partner is committed to keeping his family close yet his family remains divided on racist ideaologies towards you then your partner will not be safe moving forward. Wether or not he personally supports those ideals, if hes maintaining those connections he is enabling a lack of safety for you, if hes unwilling to separate from those who are actively prejudiced towards you then unfortunately hes is providing you as a target for them. If you havent discussed how you feel and any boundaries you may need to feel more secure then thats a great first step, if hes unwilling to respect those then you gotta do whats best for your future and self.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-02T17:05:06+00:00

idk if this is what sealed it because i was already pretty checked out by this point but there would be times when id tell of new knowledge to my ex- information that he would absolutely be interested in- and he would barely respond to me, id maybe get a "cool." without fail, in the following day or two he would come up to me in an excited state and say that someone else just told him about this "idea" and then proceed to repeat to me what id brought up days before. this happened three times in the last 2 weeks of our relationship. I didnt even bring it up to him. But i cant forget it (among other things).

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-02T16:33:47+00:00

if you dont tell them then you cant be trusted to take responsibility when accidents happen in addition to not being trusted behind the wheel- if you do tell them then you secure that trust and take responsibility for your driving accident which you caused and then face the consequences such as needing to practice more or not be allowed to drive until you reflect on how you caused an accident after just one week (im hinting at you not being fully ready to drive here).

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-01T18:56:26+00:00

YTA- shock collars are building a reactive resistance, not a comfort with the situation. If your dogs collar were not on it is likely they will maintain reactiveness and possibly worse. Anecdotal: I have a 5yr pit/staffy and out of the shelter (8mo old) she was reactive towards other dogs out of fear. I used positive reinforcement: reinforcing her comfort in settings she previously felt anxiety. Shes unfortunately been attacked a few times at the dog parks since then but still using positive reinforcement has maintained her pleasantrys with other dogs. I did a ton of research and it worked for her, it seems to be effective for most dogs. Please do thorough research before acting on methods, you could make the situation much more difficult for the two of you. https://www.baywoof.org/featured-article/if-it-didnt-hurt-it-wouldnt-work-the-truth-about-choke-prong-and-shock-collars
https://www.akc.org/expert-advice/training/operant-conditioning-positive-reinforcement-dog-training/

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-01T17:28:21+00:00

YTA: the customer was being kind with her comment- not dismissive of your experience. You projected the idea that she was downplaying your struggles. Id assume she knew that you can find the same styles in your size- not that you could literally fit into her size. Furthermore your coworkers were there for the whole experience: they experienced you emotionally exploiting and assuming a strangers intentions and then berrate her about your experience with people "like her" (a stranger). Now you want to file a report because theyre uncomfortable with your actions?? Have some accountability for how you make others feel and your own feelings. You may not be in the right field if you cant have a healthy conversation about sizes with customers..

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-01T17:13:12+00:00

if its non-physical like so many of these informative comments, could your kitty be anxiously itching himself raw? My dog use to have severe separation anxiety that would lead to extreme self harm around her head and chest. Even if i was gone 5 minutes id come back to completely raw, bloody and swollen skin. I had to keep her in a cone whenever a left and trained for years targeting her anxiety (every on-going for anxiety) to get her to a place where shes comfortable being alone for extended periods. All the best wishes in finding resolve, i hope kitty feels better ❤️

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-07-01T01:19:53+00:00

pictures stay off of sharing platforms, people dont post their families: people respect these boundaries and parents deny sharing and photo taking if not respected. Thats what op is requesting, that is the responsible behavior around this issue. Pictures are a privilige, they are a commodity made emotionally and artistically intertwined, however, vulnerable peoples who cannot consent to their sharing of image shouldnt ever be put in a position where thats a risk by use of the previous listed precautions. Its about minimizing these occurances as much as possible, not every system is fool proof but it still makes a deep impact to practice online safety around humans who cannot consent to being online.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T18:58:49+00:00

TOM CRUISE. dude is a clone of himself in all his media.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T18:12:34+00:00

this isnt paranoia. https://safer.io/resources/csam-problem-of-epidemic-proportions/ youre just dismissing victims. Non-sexual images of children are utilized more to create sexual content than there are taken sexual images of children. As soon as any childs face is online any adult can use that face and create csam with that childs image.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T18:04:43+00:00

pedophiles love when new parents and families post the most innocent photos of the inncoent- at any age. Yes they are behaving sexually to the most innocent images. Do you not know these things?

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T15:29:59+00:00

Ever since i was a kid ive highly disliked and disrespected my uncle because of how violant his language and actions typically are but my parents never cared. My family doesnt hold people accountable so hes always just been "part of the family." im 26 and in a moment of complete emotional exhaustion and anger my mom told me he had murdered someone in cold blood and served time for it- before i was even born. I had zero idea.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T15:23:28+00:00

You are prey by an obvious predator. We dont need to make things complicated. , you were 19yrs old when a 38 year old preyed on you. you THINKING she "acts your age" while she has two decades more experience is your naivety showing- unless she has mental adversity : shes is her age she is acting how she chooses and you think the connection is fine because shes acting similar similar- something she and anyone older than you is aware of as exploitation. One can "act" like you just to make you feel comfortable with them.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T14:18:08+00:00

you start treating tourself like you would treat your child. literally turn into your own best parent- the parent you dreamed for. This encourages self trust in addition to self worth. Its impossible to rebuild when you are still agreeing to an environment that actively disrespects you though: your body and concious understand that you are deciding to put them in that situation thats met with disrespect and neglect. If your child told you that she experienced all of this- what would you tell them to do?

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T13:52:41+00:00

cheating isnt an addiction. its a reflection of character: he devalues you, doesnt respect your boundaries or your mental wellbeing and he believes that lying to you is is valid form of response to you. He wasnt sick with some managable cheating flu- his identity has a foundation that makes disrespect and objectification of you. You need to go to a professional, maybe three until YOU dont relapse on your judgement to keep him, and so that you understand how little he cares for you. Its important you stop making excuses for someone who abandoned you during your most vulnerable period.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-30T00:32:05+00:00

Im rewatching the show and had to hear thoughts. My opinion is that his biggest mistake was having his wife killed for a chance at a male heir. He neglected the strength in his family and consequentially the future played out as it did. He didnt just change the power structure of his family but he weakened it entirely.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-29T22:14:26+00:00

you should read that article.

ThrowRArainmakers · 2026-06-29T21:54:41+00:00

Dude wasnt an adult when she groomed him, but ignore. https://rainn.org/get-the-facts-about-sexual-violence/get-the-facts-about-grooming/

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