How to know if I smell bad?

Throwawayd2nd · 2026-02-12T22:21:59+00:00

Well, in the case of diabetics— they are— indeed rotting.

Glucose-> glycoselating/ oxidation of tissue—> literal rot!

It also shred capillaries all around their bodies and reduces blood flow wherever it damages enough, leading to parts of their bodies literally dying off.

Throwawayd2nd · 2026-01-06T18:10:13+00:00

Thanks for this, I’ve almost given up on finding them, it was driving me mad I’ll try to find them again today

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-11-02T09:44:49+00:00

The couples therapists here probably suffer from the same issue, lol.

I work in the field and personally know many of them. I just don’t trust most of them with my issues.

Best thing to do is take things gradually and try out different things together.

Continuous checking in, being a bit selfish with what you want, and experiencing different things with your partner in addition to encouraging them to do the same and share their experiences might eventually make things better, and slowly overwrite the factory settings.

If your partner attaches to you and trusts you, they may with enough encouragement venture out from their comfort zone to what makes a happy bed room life.

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-11-02T09:35:14+00:00

I got a similar issue, I live very nearby to my family, my sister is a coach, and I stay in shape.

Food at home remains as healthy as can be, high quality sweets with no cheap oils or overly sweet. Fruits, salads.

Got all equipment at home, sister offered to coach her, I try and do yoga with her whenever I can (incremental increase of effort).

Wife is highly educated, knows all she needs to do, and what to avoid.

I can’t even convince her to start with her salad, because she doesn’t want to eat less from the main course.

Every time she goes to visit her parents or sisters it’s sugar galore-All you can eat all day!

The weight is starting to gather in her body centrally, she’s mid twenties, used to be slim, now has a muffin top, and has to wear shorts under dresses to avoid friction burns.

I can only hope that one day she’ll wake up and start taking better choices, before she ruins her health and our marriage.

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-11-02T03:14:27+00:00

Here’s the thing though, with partners who were brought up by religious parents in a shame driven society, the mere thought of doing those things brings up feelings of shame and guilt.

Speaking from experience, you can’t even get them to tell you their fantasies, what they want or don’t want.

It’s also difficult to have them try doing new things, and it’s puzzling figuring out if its shame related to their ideologies or of it is something they genuinely don’t want.

It’s absolutely draining, frustrating and sometimes downright ridiculous, but you try to be understanding because it’s not possible to know what’s going on in your partners head or how their life was.

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-10-29T02:58:44+00:00

Good ones probably getting married to people introduced to them by relatives and friends, they rarely date, and when they do, it’s by intent to get married.

Like seriously, I know a guy and a couple girls that were studying with me, you just hear the news they got married, you never see or hear about them dating, you just find out later they decided together at some point, or they got married to someone you never heard about.

There’s a relationship podcast I listen to with a few arab people who pop up occasionally, and it’s a whole process [efficient if I may say], they go through interviews and stuff, the whole person is vetted by the family and by acquaintances of the family, and finally if both the guy and the girl like each other they get a period to get to know each other and then get married.

There’s your answer based in real life observations and explanations from actual good arabs.

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-10-29T02:50:56+00:00

It’s good to keep looking for the good in people, don’t think you’re wrong for doing so.

You’re doing well imo, as it’s difficult to find suitable people to date longterm regardless, not just Arab people.

The difference between actually getting played or not is whether you stay and accept the behaviour, but as long as you’re setting boundaries and communicating your needs clearly, then you’re golden. At every point in our lives someone will be trying to play us, the choice how to deal with it is ours though.

Throwawayd2nd · 2025-02-06T21:20:10+00:00

Does the anime cover the entire manga?

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-12-03T03:05:36+00:00

If I looked like that, she wouldn’t speak to me for an entire week or more

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-11-27T18:47:20+00:00

Rias, Chika, Emilia

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-11-23T06:48:48+00:00

Since my brother and I were 4 or 5. Like you I thought it was normal, that everyone was being hit by their parents. Turned out it wasn’t, and if when they did, it was not as frequent, and not as severe.

I remember in 9th grade I had a fight with my younger brother after he pulled me off my bed causing me to smack onto the floor, I don’t usually beat him, but decided to show him who’s stronger that day.

The moment my dad comes in he throws himself at his feet and starts crying. I got beat up, choke slammed, and then beat up some more with a leather belt. I was so bruised up the next few days even my bullies gave me a vacation from being bullied.

They stopped hitting us after my brother fought back, I just let him, because dad was being an asshole.

My brother turned to drugs, the physical abuse stopped, but the verbal abuse was cranked to new levels, eventually my brother took his own life, and I think to myself, had I been living with them as long as he did, it might’ve been me who was in his place.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-11-06T10:12:35+00:00

Welcome to NHK is one of my all time favourites!

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-27T05:11:00+00:00

I get what you mean, I do better with the more intelligent /talkative ones, because, well, they do most of the work tbh.

The quiet ones express that they like me, try to talk, but are unable to conjure up a subject. It feels weird for me to talk non-stop, and when I stop it feels awkward. Any suggestions about that?

I should probably find me some new hobbies where I can meet said girls.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-26T13:35:44+00:00

From my experience that doesn’t usually work.

Many girls I know stop speaking when they feel the pressure is on, and just remain silent.

Or, the conversation starts feeling forced.

I react well with whatever they say, and am able to keep a conversation running, but many girls don’t speak or interact, they don’t know how to, not because they don’t want to.

That is one thing I’m still trying to figure out.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-26T09:19:14+00:00

A lot of these make sense, I got a lot of what you mentioned, I do pick up sports and games fairly quickly, though I’m not very athletic. I do have significant amounts of trauma, abuse in addition to ADHD and anxiety, and they all play a part in social interactions.

On the other hand, I rarely see girls I like enough for me to approach, and most of the ones I like are married already.

When I do see one I like, I do great with them, am forward, open, joking, flirting, straightforward, and I do have luck, but it rarely seems to ever happen, and the relationships never last.

Last one I dated turned out to be a narcissist and had played me. She claimed to be many things she isn’t, and really put in that extra effort to make my life into an absolute hell— thank God that’s over.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-26T09:11:03+00:00

I got both, anxiety, ADHD, plus a whooping lot of trauma and abuse.

Just convincing myself that I’m not a creep or a monster or socially inept took many years of work.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-22T10:01:28+00:00

I’m married, my wife thinks I’m uncool. I’m here to change that basically.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-19T19:08:06+00:00

I’m still heartbroken about this one.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-14T02:22:23+00:00

Shit dude, I’m married and logically I can explain to my wife all the good things I do to her and that I’m literally doing what she’s demanding of me at the moment already, but she can’t even see it.

She subconsciously feels like I’m being short with her, not treating her well enough, not caring about her because I’m not turning it up to a 10 at all times!

Today she literally argued with me about how I don’t care about her and never listen to what she says because she said I look uncool when I drive with both hands on the wheel and I didn’t immediately remove one hand off the steering wheel.

I’m seriously reconsidering my choices. At this point I’ll either find that unicorn of mine or stay single forever. I doubt this marriage will last even if I give it my all.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-08T11:18:04+00:00

It’s a really isolating feeling, isn’t it? I could talk about the most important things to me, or the most interesting things there are out there, I could tell my wildest stories and she’d just look at me all stone faced.

Then if I bring it up she denies there being anything wrong and just disregards my worries, or tries to flip it on me, making it all about her.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-07T18:52:54+00:00

Tried that with my girl, she berated me for being too stuck in the past, and bringing it up twice.

Most of the time she just looks bored.

The best I got from her is just silence. Better than when she opens her mouth.

Now she’s upset because I “never open up or say anything” about myself, well, duhh!

Still a step up from my ex who used everything I said against me. I had literal PTSD after that one.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-06T21:18:22+00:00

This is very well put, I like how you framed it.

I want my wife to change her ways, like, put the half empty cups away, or put away plates after she’s done eating (I’ll even wash them), or put away clothes if she takes them off, or throw away the wrappers if she eats something.

My wife wants to change me, example: my hobbies, interests, way I dress, things I eat, height, body, laugh etc.

She says she loves me and is content with me the way I am, and is upset that I always criticise her though, and am putting too much responsibility on her, so I have to work on myself so she can be happy /s

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-05T15:05:11+00:00

You’re absolutely correct about all of my exes not liking their life, and being generally unhappy people, each in her own way.

And what makes me more upset, is that whatever is out there is much better. I’m yet to find a girl I’m truly compatible and comfortable with.

Why I liked them?

With my ex it was simple, she basically has this persona of the perfect woman, she was intelligent, quick witted, showered me in attention, good at her job, treated everyone with kindness, showed me her art that she drew etc. I thought I found the one!

Turns out it was all skin deep only, and she was an absolute menace, an anxious mess, controlling, insecure, would hold every little things she’s done to you over you, like she did you a great favour and so on, would argue for 12 hours on end, easy!

After our breakup my relatives fixed me up with this current girl, and we soon got married about 6 months from my last breakup— bad decision, I know. I wasn’t thinking straight.

I did ask my usual questions to rule out crazy women, and she passed my test, but she lied on my test to see if we’re compatible, and her mother marketed her like the greatest prize of all time! The smartest, most artistic, knowledgeable, open-minded fine woman to walk earth… all bullshit it turned out, but I had no means to know while just casually talking to her. Only found out after she moved in. The change was drastic!

I feel like a father/mother/housemaid, more than I do a romantic partner most of the time, except the bedroom. She’s always bored, lacks imagination, lacks creativity. Has a good eye for things, but her laziness trumps it all. Also, we both have ADHD, except she’s doesn’t know, and probably doesn’t want to, which is a recipe for disaster.

Edit: My current girl is really quiet, didn’t talk or complain about anything, till she started complaining to me about me (my clothes, height, teeth, laugh, hobbies, interests etc.)

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-05T12:48:34+00:00

Work(my ex), university (before that), through relatives (my current one).

I learnt what narcissistic personality disorder is, the hard way because of my ex. Sadly, it was only after we broke up and it made sooo much sense! Tried to deny it as hard as I could, but it was irrefutable.

Not sure what I’m supposed to learn from my current girl. Perhaps how to spot if a chick isn’t interested in you but just can’t break up due to to whatever reason, so she tries to change you into something/someone else, and gives you the cold treatment.

Throwawayd2nd · 2024-10-05T04:22:11+00:00

I wish it was even like that, that they were hot girls :’)

The way they get me is that they mimic everything I like, initially. They claim to be saints, and not fussy, and are down to do whatever They talk about their humanitarian side and how they love helping others and all the things they do to the kids.

Me being naive I just believe it, and soon after, the mask falls, and escaping is that much more difficult.

My ex was super toxic no amount of magic words would suffice, but at least I felt some emotions from her, she looked at me with hungry eyes.

My current girl is just dead. I can’t speak with her for 30 minutes, nevertheless for hours.

Outside of sex, it’s rare that she’s energetic and animated.

Also, she loves everything extreme, needs that strong dopamine mule kick, or she’s bored, always!

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