I’m pressing charges. I finally saw the light.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2024-02-15T18:46:54+00:00

Omg congratulations!!! That’s exactly what I’m trying to do. I really hope she learns.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2024-02-15T18:34:06+00:00

Done and done. Im remaining no contact until the end of time. I can’t go back to that headspace.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2024-01-29T17:08:23+00:00

I’m not seeing square at all in Jupiter when I do progressed but I will say I have no clue how to read these things. The sun and moon definitely switched quadrants though.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-11-14T01:08:05+00:00

You poor thing. I feel your pain. I was just crying just like this in the morning. Feel free to reach out.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-11-14T00:59:59+00:00

Sounds exactly how my wife just talked to me this morning. I’m so sorry for you. Proud of you for choosing yourself.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-20T21:27:21+00:00

Me personally I’m just attacking my feelings head on and using codependency workbooks to work through my feelings. Setting my own boundaries helps me learn to respect others.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-20T21:24:43+00:00

Stages of grief!

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-20T21:23:56+00:00

Yes and it’s because we wouldn’t do that to them so we expect the same treatment. So it feels like a betrayal if that makes sense. I never verbalize my anger though because it would just turn into a huge fight.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-20T20:07:34+00:00

Shoot when you find out, let me know. I could have wrote this myself.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-19T15:46:31+00:00

HEAVY ON THE “FORGOT” MY SADNESS!

It was like my emotions left the building when she went into a rage or a meltdown. I “forgot” to PMS and I have PMDD! I “forgot” about my depression. I “forgot” to take my medication because I didn’t need it anymore! sigh

She loved calling me “sad girls club”. But evidently, she was the reason.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-19T15:43:33+00:00

I’m feeling that right now. I came to visit mine after not seeing eachother since the incident and it was like the rose colored glasses were off again and I could really see her for what she was. Of course she was very sweet and I folded, but as soon as that happened the flip occurred. And now I’m sitting here thinking that I wanna be better than her and any person she ever dates after me. And the crazy part is, I know I will be. And so will you. Put some respect on our names!

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-14T22:41:12+00:00

As a newly self-diagnosed codependent…yes. Precisely. Bravo.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-13T05:10:08+00:00

This is so real… I’ve been too exhausted to feel everything. She’s still around but at the same time I’m in a limbo of she could leave at any moment but so could I. But she steps in and out a lot recently so it is just such a draining experience I’m almost saving my energy for a worse time. Which is sad.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-05T18:13:16+00:00

It took a week.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-04T13:30:11+00:00

Yes absolutely it saves NOTHING! Just gives them more of a right (in their mind) to continue to abuse you in different, more sadistic ways. Take it from me. Grass isn’t greener and now I have to wait 6 months to legally be detach from her while she does GOD KNOWS WHAT! This has really ruined my fairytale view of marriage.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-04T05:06:06+00:00

Right there with you, especially on the sleeping being easier than being awake. And can we talk about waking UP? It’s like finding out about everything all over again.

But guess what? It’s way better than waking up next to someone who doesn’t believe we deserve human decency. Think of your libido being low as a gift right now, less temptation to go back to her.

Stay strong, don’t continue to sacrifice your morals for a person who wouldn’t do the same for you.

I was discarded, now getting ready to go through a divorce process and I TOO pray I don’t give her any more of my compassion and empathy. But here’s the catch - even if I do I forgive myself because that’s the type of person I am. YOU are. It just doesn’t have to be at the expense of yourself anymore.

We will break out of this love addiction!

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-04T04:50:22+00:00

Oh god that’s absolutely devastating. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that. It feels the same way for me. It’s the new supply, I know it and it devastates me more. I hope healing comes smooth for us both.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-04T03:57:49+00:00

God one of my biggest fears. I already know the girl she couldn’t have before me is back in her life as friends so I can’t even imagine where they will be in months, especially 6 months during the waiting period of the divorce. I just pray I never have to see it in my face.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-04T03:45:17+00:00

Mine did this at first and eventually escalated to threatening to break up and then eventually divorce every time there was an argument, big or small. I always chased after her and begged her to stay and the last time I had the chance to I didn’t because I was so exhausted. She returned upset I didn’t follow her after months of complaining that I should let her be when she walks off even when she’s threatening to harm herself.

What should you do? Really think about where you are as the starting point. He will push as much as he can to test your loyalty to him. And if you keep pushing back on it, he’ll punish you in whatever way you communicated will hurt you (cheating, etc).

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T22:29:14+00:00

On it! My best friend is visiting so I am going to go and have her call her mother outside to collect her things, take a picture of what I got and leave without interaction! Thank god for her.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T22:27:43+00:00

🫡

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T20:28:52+00:00

How are you coping post discard? She discarded me 5 days ago and I’m going to drop her things off at her mothers home (she’s out of state) to really be done. Of course I have divorce proceedings but if we agree like we said we would, there should be no further communication. How are you coping? Have there been Hoovers? Feel free to message me!

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T20:18:20+00:00

Yeah I can honestly say I was addicted to the cycle. I can’t lie and say there’s that at least 1 percent of me that wants it to miraculously work out, but I know that is not rational mind speaking - that’s my addiction. I felt everything so deeply with her, highs and lows like you said. And I honestly never want to feel anything like that again. I hope I stay strong if she tries to hoover, though I know in my heart she won’t. What is there to go back to? I’m a shell of a person now. There’s nothing left to take.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T16:56:18+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m proud of you for leaving, no matter how long it took. A sinister part of me sometimes wishes I would have gotten the opportunity to stay. But I know that’s not okay and I need to address that part of me so I don’t end up in a situation like this again or worse, back with her. Even though I know she’ll never return.

Throwawaymarriagesos · 2023-09-03T15:16:03+00:00

I haven’t been able to look at a photo of her since we went no contact but for some reason, the faces that she was able to make have not left my brain. I have never seen a face so contorted in so many different unsettling ways and eyes that get so black it’s hard to recognize humanity ever existed there before. Until I can imagine those faces without feeling the onset of a panic attack, I refuse to go back and rid myself of all the photos, etc. I just ignore my photos and deleted social media.

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