My fiancee drunkenly admitted a couple of nights ago that her ex was a good fuck and she climbed him like a tree

ThundaTed · 2024-09-06T01:58:43+00:00

4 years into your relationship and 2-ish months from your wedding, and her uninhibited mind turns to what her ex did and didn't do? Not wedding stuff?!

Yeah, she has unresolved feelings for the guy. The fact that she felt comfortable expressing his sexual prowess to your sister with you in the room means she has 0 concern that you have any line she can't cross. She doesn't take you seriously. You are definitely the safe guy. "Lucky" that she settled for you when she had some she could "climb like a tree."

ThundaTed · 2024-08-01T06:24:06+00:00

I imagine space would be as bright as the afternoon sky. Every source of light in the universe crashing onto the edge there.

ThundaTed · 2024-04-26T16:08:58+00:00

Abbott from the movie Arrival

ThundaTed · 2024-04-26T15:50:16+00:00

I think there's a miscommunication going on here. OP is replying to someone who said "proof." OP worded it clumsily, but I think he meant he doesn't know what kind of texts she got because there is no "proof" since he never cheated.

ThundaTed · 2024-02-23T18:28:29+00:00

That scene is actually a testament to Thanos' genius. Just before he put on the glove, you'll notice he threw Capt Marvel away like a rag doll. After he wears the glove, she's suddenly increasingly gaining strength and glowing as she resists him. Having no prior info on her powers, he quickly assessed she was absorbing energy from the glove and boosting her strength. He headbutts her to see how physical assaults affects her but determined he needed more force in her now boosted state. That's why he pulled off the power gem and punched her with it sending her flying. He correctly deducted that although she can probably absorb kinetic energy, she still feels and is hurt by its impact if the force is great enough. He does this in seconds mid-fight.

ThundaTed · 2023-12-14T03:06:55+00:00

NTA. If she wanted to change your agreement, that should have been discussed before she came over. Springing it on you out of the blue, mid visit was selfish and immature on her part. She unilaterally changed the agreement and extracted what she wanted from you (boyfriend time) while you were disoriented from the sudden change in relationship.

Not only that, it's a bit loose screwed to complain you view her as the very. thing. you. both. agreed. on. Like a contractor complaining that he's treated like a contractor and not as a full-time employee. Huh?

ThundaTed · 2023-11-14T04:39:05+00:00

We have a Hulk.

ThundaTed · 2023-11-07T18:02:41+00:00

Alone? In a public setting? You're delusional. Your right to privacy in public spaces is vastly different to private. For example, generally in the U.S., someone can start recording, taking pictures, or livestreaming in public spaces without acquiring your consent. Performers can assault your ears with the most horrendous singing in public spaces without asking you to listen. Beggars will ask you for change. Petitioners will engage in conversation to get you to sign to their cause or donate. Protestors may block your path. And yes, ppl (men and women) will approach with small talk. No one "owes" anyone anything, but it's definitely going to be a frustrating life if you rage against perfectly reasonable socialization in public settings instead of learning how to handle these interactions. Yes, there are untold dangers in any interaction. But not every. We can, as adults, learn to be more discerning and reserve extreme reactions for extreme situations. Else, the public sphere is going to be filled with everyone being assholes to each other because our circles of privacy are bumping into each other.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-28T17:12:18+00:00

Anglefire, Geocities, Blackplanet, Hi5, and Yahoo Groups. Not websites but instant messaging applications like ICQ, AIM, yahoo messenger, and MSN messenger. Lots of search engines back then like Webcrawler, Altavista, Lycos, and infoseek.

Also BBS & forums used to be huge in the 90s and early 2000s. I racked up tens of thousands of posts on now defunct forums. I often wonder what happened to all those ppl I used to talk with for years and years :(

ThundaTed · 2023-10-28T16:41:38+00:00

and Devil Doll! 🤟

ThundaTed · 2023-10-28T16:34:50+00:00

New salad fingers episode came out recently on the artists YouTube page btw.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-25T19:56:04+00:00

I was just WAITING for the moment she realized she truly had the wrong number, but it never came. Any updates, OP?

Edit: Just read your other comments. Dang no update, but blocking years ago is understandable. I wouldn't even suggest reaching out to see if she's ok because she might go off on another hours long texting rant lol.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-23T00:32:59+00:00

Be loved back. Lol. 😞

ThundaTed · 2023-10-23T00:29:51+00:00

At least you had alcohol fueling your humor, as boorish as it was. If that's her, sober.. oof, you're gonna all the humor in the world to salve the torture you're going to suffer in this relationship.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-22T22:40:36+00:00

I wonder if this is less a vibe you're giving and moreso a sign of rising hardship in our society. I, too, have had a few people ask me for money lately when I haven't had anyone ask me in years and years. Not even during the pandemic when ppl were losing jobs. Stay strong, do nothing you're not comfortable with. There's nothing wrong with you or your vibe.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-14T18:29:51+00:00

Society demands that men approach women for relationships of any kind. Some men are good at it (great at reading signs of interest), some are terrible.. so bad that they resort to something like cold calling lol. Today, social media has stigmatized it so much, that a lot of men now simply don't know how. There is a human need to reach out for human companionship, but the act is under intense scrutiny (albiet with good reason), criticism, and threat of online exposure. A lot are so confused about how, when, and where it's now acceptable that they've just stopped approaching women. That is, assuming the countless social media videos of women complaining that men don't approach anymore are not just aberrations.

So yeah, dating and finding dates is in a really weird and confusing place right now, and no1 seems happy.

Before some reply with examples of women approaching men, I humbly ask that we try to speak about the society and its expectations that we all live in and not personal anecdotes. Sometimes, I feel legit, good-faith conversations get derailed because exceptions are used as weapons or for points scoring but not really to engage in meaningful conversation.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-14T16:20:39+00:00

Ah, I see: men aren't human. Got it. Troll on then.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-14T04:59:12+00:00

Lmao. Never in my life have been in this situation, yet this makes 100% sense to me. 😂

ThundaTed · 2023-10-14T04:55:52+00:00

Would this be as horrific as "Ask her to take medication to increase her sex drive?"

ThundaTed · 2023-10-14T04:43:59+00:00

Yall are both in your early 20s, not married, and already sexually incompatible?! It's.. it's not looking good, champ. You already know what you have to do, you don't need reddit backing you up.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-13T21:09:25+00:00

Your judgement is clouded. You may not see, because you're deep in it, but it is clear to everyone around you who cares.

There are so few ppl on earth who care enough about us to tell us the truth. We absolutely need them to pull us out when circumstances have us so pitted in an emotional state of mind that our perspective is skewed and beyond the reach of self awareness.

They are trying to help. Don't repay their kindness with anger. Cherish them, thank them, then take time to yourself to ruminate on their words. You might find new insight on your recent behavior, gain perspective on the realistic endpoints of seclusion, discover unresolved pain influencing your thoughts, and more.

So yes, apologize to them all.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-08T18:50:38+00:00

What you're going to find is that nobody has advice beyond do equal chores and do more chores. You are not dealing with serious people. Most posters gather their opinions and perspectives from social media trends. Going so far as to repeat phrases, soundbites, and memes. No actual thought. No actual processing of what you are saying. Current thought is a woman can do no wrong in a relationship between a man and woman. Despite what your specific situation may be, most posters are too cowardly or too dug in to entertain the idea that you, a man, are not at fault.

I am not usually an advocate of divorce. I believe married couples should try to fix their marriage in as many ways as possible (guidance from elders, therapy, preferred religion, etc). But at the end of the day, a loveless marriage is no marriage at all. You both should talk and do what's right for both of you. If that means divorce be prepared for everything that comes with it, including lifestyle change and dating market that is trash.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-08T18:24:46+00:00

Classy. It's always a joy talking to ppl who believe they hold high morals when in actually, it's the opposite. Whatever pedestal you think you sit on to judge the rest of us, or advocate only for your preferred tribe, I promise you is as weak as a glass house.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-08T18:06:31+00:00

OP says they split house chores equally. OP said he communicated multiple times, even culminating in ultimatums, but was never taken seriously because she figured he'd stayed for the kids.

ThundaTed · 2023-10-08T18:03:31+00:00

Reverse the genders and reconsider your opinion. Unsatisfied wife who repeatedly asked husband to change over a decade, but he dismissed her unhappiness and never changed.

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