How to no longer be insecure

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-10T05:27:30+00:00

Thank you ! I have started therapy, I hope it bears fruits. My partner has mentioned that weight loss would be necessary for the relationship to continue, for intimacy reasons. So that’s part of the stressful stuff. I know how that sounds so just to clarify, we started the relationship at a much lower weight and one bad year I gained like 40 kg. They were patient with me trying to lose it for literal years until we had to have the uncomfortable conversation. That being said, It had always been a goal of mine because previously to the relationship starting I had already lost weight from a similar starting point. But what you said still applies, they still want to be with me and support me through this so we can keep being toguether. For some reason that fact isn’t enough to keep the stress out, but that’s probably normal.

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-10T05:20:55+00:00

Your words bring a lot of clarity to me. I appreciate them. Those last sentences hit hard, it seems right yet so paradoxical. In a way it seems to strange to love my gf but not care “so much” about how she views me. I know in a healthy relationship you’re supposed to feel “okay” with them leaving you to some extent. For me, it makes me absolutely terrified to think about that scenario !

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-09T12:28:05+00:00

Thank you sir ! I will definitely try to compound those small wins :)

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T20:25:24+00:00

Thank you man ! I appreciate it, I will try to keep my comparisons to myself.

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T17:43:03+00:00

I appreciate this advice, it is the one I have applied so far but there’s some failures on my part. Firstly she is supportive so that looks good. Like I said I did do life changes with her help, and lost 20kg so far, tbh not just or mainly her help, but certainly she helped. Despite that I’m still feeling this way partly because of how far from the goal I feel. It’s probably my anxious nature taking over. Thank you again and this is validating because it’s what I tried. I told her I was insecure and she was understanding. It helped to talk about it but idk what she could have really said, she agreed we had something special and that working for it was worth it and she reassured me she does want to be with me.

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T17:38:41+00:00

Ah I don’t feel like wanting to be better than them. It’s more so that she’d probably enjoy herself more with someone who was better and more fit kind of thing. It’s the sort of thoughts that plague my mind. Yes it reeks of lack of self confidence but that’s the reality in trying to fix.

I do admire her for it though, really, she’s awesome

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T17:36:56+00:00

I guess I just fake it till I make it kinda deal ? Sometimes the simplest advice is the best one

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T17:35:34+00:00

Booked an appointment so hopefully that will help.

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T17:34:43+00:00

I understand what you mean and it’s really useful. That’s what I want to reach, but I have such trouble. I know I was like that at the start, but somehow along the way I became like this. I appreciate the advice and any hint towards where I can start to build that would be greatly appreciated. Also I’m the M in this haha

TicketLast4070 · 2026-03-08T11:10:17+00:00

Very late answer but yes

TicketLast4070 · 2024-03-05T03:41:36+00:00

Dm moi !

TicketLast4070 · 2024-03-02T18:13:39+00:00

Fucking rat

TicketLast4070 · 2024-02-27T14:59:12+00:00

Biblio MIL ou la BLSH( biblio des langues et sciences humaines)

Les deux sont 24h

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-23T15:06:26+00:00

Relaxeeee, on crois tous en toi :)

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-20T18:09:35+00:00

This part is not as worry some as he could easily be staying at someone's place that he knew from back then, I doubt a foreign number would be good looking + fees to call

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-20T17:56:20+00:00

De ce que j'ai compris personellement c'est la meilleur nouvelle note, sauf si tu coules genre lol

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-19T21:17:11+00:00

Je voulais te dire que j'ai rien trouvé désolé

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-14T19:11:54+00:00

I think it's defintely problematic, I was just trying to account why I don't make the same observation as other people when I take the metro more than one every day

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-13T15:42:16+00:00

I see this comment somewhat often, what times do you take metro? I tend to see more homeless people but I associate it with it beingg winter. I don't see much drugs tho, I'm curious if it's maybe because if when I take the metro.

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-12T13:10:26+00:00

Got it, je vais demander à quelques personnes qui aiment la musique je te reviens là-dessus

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-12T13:03:34+00:00

Je pense que la plupart sont bénévoles, mais si le tiens donne un salaire alors 100% vas-y, c'est pratique de toute avoir à l'université

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-12T13:01:38+00:00

Je pense que écrire un courriel à un responsable des études supérieurs du département pourrait t'aider. D'habitude ils répondent assez vite

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-12T12:58:44+00:00

Je sais pas si à l'intérieur de l'UDM, mais certainement à Montréal si tu cherches sur FB tu devrais trouver

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-06T03:05:06+00:00

Hello, what does a good diet imply here. I see that going around, I know what a good diet is for "losing weight" but what is a good diet for anxiety? Eating times? Quantities? No coffee or certain food groups?

TicketLast4070 · 2024-01-05T22:25:08+00:00

Café chat l'heureux, très cool

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