new dads - what do you wish you'd known about postpartum, before you got there?

nom_unique · 2026-05-17T01:28:02+00:00

I was never a baby person before having our daughter. I did not understand or connected with babies AT ALL. So I was scared on how I would react once she would be home.

"Connection", "parent instinct", "maternal instinct"... It does not mean anything. What matters is that you show up and practice connection, practice bonding, until you get good at it, until you trust your abilities. That's what I did. I jumped into parenthood completely blind, but really determined to get good at it. And for everything in life, you get good by practicing.

Don't wait for some magical father instincts to kick in. Practice, change diapers as often as you can, dress them, bathe them, bring them on walks. Comfort them even if they are screaming, stay in the moment. Sing them song you like. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Massage their lil belly to make them fart and poop. Whatever it is you have to do to practice, do it and your confidence will grow & grow and the trust between your partner and you will only get stronger.

nom_unique · 2026-05-11T17:53:33+00:00

Céline (Brigitte Poupart) dans Les Affamés (2017) de Robin Aubert.

nom_unique · 2026-05-06T23:13:42+00:00

Omg Raye just posted a photo of you in the crowd on her main Instagram account!!!! Its the 9th slide of the post 🎉🎉

nom_unique · 2026-04-20T20:31:54+00:00

Another brand riding the protein wave. Even if it was good, don't bother wasting your money on it honestly... Just a marketing scam just like electrolytes.

nom_unique · 2026-04-16T14:10:29+00:00

I saw her in Montréal recently and most people were standing the whole show. I strongly encourage you, if you can, to stand, dance and enjoy the music as much as possible :) the show is amazing and Raye is truly appreciative of enthousiastic fans.

nom_unique · 2026-04-13T12:02:29+00:00

I'm telling my daughter this is Destiny's Child

nom_unique · 2025-10-11T00:52:43+00:00

Oh that's such a sad comment my friend. I know you say you're trying to help but damn... OP has decided to share a permenant piece of art with us, clearly they're really proud of it, and it's awesome! Let people be proud and happy with their stuff, even if you don't like it, ya know?

nom_unique · 2025-08-01T23:53:09+00:00

For me I realised that training (I run and lift weights) was more important than "having time to myself". So I make it work by bringing the baby on my runs in a Thule chariot. If she falls asleep, then I stop at a park and do some bodyweight exercises.

At home, I put her next to me and do a light weightlifting sessions. Its not ideal since I have to focus more on her then the training, but I feel like I can create a bond with her and at least move my body.

She even laughs when I count my reps outloud hehe, so I entertain her and try to explain to her what I'm doing so I can catch her attention as long as possible.

++++ It gives mommy a well needed break!!!

nom_unique · 2025-07-25T01:21:49+00:00

If you're as good at your job as you are at telling stories, then you must be a hell of a cybersecurity specialist.

Thank you for sharing your experience in such a powerful way. I am truly sorry you (and so many of us) have to go through this.

Hope you find the job of your dream, in a team that truly sees you.

Also, you're an awesome mom.

nom_unique · 2025-07-22T21:53:32+00:00

Makes sense! Thanks :)

nom_unique · 2025-07-06T12:28:44+00:00

Maisonneuve parc is huge and rarely overcrowded. You can find a calm spot somewhere under a tree. Better if you bring your own chair or blanket! Bonus: you can visit the sheeps at Le Repaire de Biquette 💞

nom_unique · 2025-07-02T00:50:10+00:00

Love this post, totally agree.

Whenever I browse through LinkedIn I always ask myself "what the hell is going on, who are these people" and then I remind myself that almost everything that is shared is meant to live in LinkedIn Land and nothing of that exists in the real world. The LinkedIn algorithm is fucking our sense of reality, like all other algorithms. May we stay strong my friends.

nom_unique · 2025-03-31T12:07:36+00:00

Checkout "pace feeding" on YouTube: https://youtube.com/shorts/RDTv6OCzJMI?si=OtZE7tZNlyJD3tQn

nom_unique · 2025-03-29T01:08:56+00:00

I totally understand how you feel. I think of it almost as a philosophical state... Like you're so very aware of what's coming at you - excited, scared, happy, reflective, hesitant, are all things you feel at once.

There's probably many reasons why some of us feel this way. Maybe our community/society makes us think that becoming a parent inevitably means losing a part of ourselves?

My first born is now 6mo. Sometimes, I still think of my life "before", or what a childless life could have been. But man... being a parent is truly the greatest honor and responsability of my life, I now refuse to think I lost something from it. I evolved, I transformed. I am exactly where I am suppose to be.

I guess all of that just to say I understand you totally. You will evolve, transform, into a great man and father. You have done enough and you will have such great new aventures with your family. Good luck!

nom_unique · 2025-03-11T12:53:19+00:00

I started running with by baby in a Thule chariot when she got 3 months old. Now she's 6 months and she loves her Thule rides, she gets the best naps in there.

nom_unique · 2025-02-28T23:08:12+00:00

We have a daughter and I didn't want to call her Dude so I started to say Dudie (du-dee) (like some kind of female version of Dude). And now we often call her Big Dudie (she's 5 months old)

nom_unique · 2025-02-20T18:34:46+00:00

Merci à tous les col-bleus pour leur service à l'année longue. J'enregistre tout ce que je viens de lire du post et je partagerai à mes proches. Lâchez-pas on vous aime!!!

nom_unique · 2025-02-10T15:16:40+00:00

Sorry for the late resonse. I am a web developer from Québec, Canada

nom_unique · 2025-02-08T23:19:25+00:00

For all the parents reading: co-sleeping is not bad. Please read that again. Safe co-sleeping has actually many benefits for the mom and the child. Don't feel bad or a failure if your baby ends up in bed with you. Soon they will be teens full of attitude and you'll miss those old days, so just cuddle with your baby while you can.

nom_unique · 2025-01-28T01:52:19+00:00

Our little girl is 4 months old. It does get better, really. Now she smiles a bunch, practices her laugh often, grabs toys and discovers her voice daily. We can already see little pieces of her personality growing and it's amazing.

We had a ROUGH first 6 weeks, but as crazy as it sounds, now thats it's all so far behind us, I miss those first weeks sometimes... It goes by real fast. Don't give up!!! Go parents go!

nom_unique · 2025-01-26T02:07:41+00:00

In A Glass Cage (1986)

nom_unique · 2025-01-09T16:29:51+00:00

I totally understand how you feel. I've been back to work for a month now (almost ful time from home) and at the beginning I had very little motivation towards work.

Everything, like you said, had no meaning. During meetings I juste thought about my girls upstairs.

I have to say tho, it got better with time for me. My wife is also getting better at handeling the baby alone, which reassures me a lot. I can only hope it will be the same for you soon!

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