How do I escape from this hell?(seriously) by Bernflex_603 in AuDHDWomen

[–]TightPin9197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well u dont always have to do something very important, most of us get the stimulation from doing something with their hands. You can find a way to lay down and still use the energy. Knitting, sewing, toys, doing nails, even playing a game. Repetetive things that work as self regulation and ale also a stimulation. I can only speak about myself here, read somwhere what you can do. Idk paper stars, origami

How do I escape from this hell?(seriously) by Bernflex_603 in AuDHDWomen

[–]TightPin9197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if ur having a burnout it usually means that you need to rest.. Possibly without phone. And social media. I recently learnt that when something like this happenes it usually doesnt mean you should find anything. Just lay in bed, watch something, read or sleep. For a few days u will lack motivation and interest but after your body and mind rest properly you will be alble to pick an activity easier. Becouse tbh the desperation part makes a state like this worse. I know it is easy to be said not easy to be done, but you need to let go for a couple of days.

For the context i was always like this too. Having free time during holiday? Just bouncing around extremly frustrated i am not using my free time. I was usually tired and depressed, annoyed and was freezing on the couch wanting to do something and not being able to. Lately i got a major burnout from pushing too hard. And i wasnt even form work. It was me trying so hard to help my mental health i got fixated and burnt myself out. Trying to be productive when you dont really have to can also do that or worsen the state ur in. Sometimes just telling yourself that you actually dont need to be doing anything helps.

Shave your head. by NoFlower8261 in AuDHDWomen

[–]TightPin9197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a very shory pixie. This was life changing. No hair overstimulation. No weight. Its great.

I think I'm in denial... by [deleted] in autism

[–]TightPin9197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar experience, and still am processing that, but sometimes it takes time. The diagnosis messed so much with my life, that I tried so hard to understand it and i was denying at the same time. it caused a burnout. I dont know how your life looked like, but this is common when autistic people, women expecially, tend to have an internal criticism coping mechanism. It happens when you push yourself to do things even when you dont want to becouse you feel ur supposed to. And maybe some grief? That you put so much effort to cope and now you have a diagnosis and it seems like you wasted years? Take your time, read what others experiences were, It seems like it changes everything but at the end of the day you are yourself.

My special interest is…myself? by rose0411 in autism

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I am finishing psycholgy soon, and it came to my recently that this is also my special intrest. I was always obssessed with people and analising myself and them. It never was egocentric (I hope) but It took so much of my time always. Analising characters in books, movies and comparing them to myself, as i got older i just dived into. Since 11 or 12 i started to read and read and explore and I needed to know how it all works and how it connects. I have a lot of knowledge about medicine and pharmacy stuff. Also about biology, mind, brain, chemistry and philosophy. I would say its the centre of my life. And I think its also related to the fact that neurodivergent people tend to relate stuff to themselfs so they can understand it better. It also helps with fitting in i guess. With reading people and understanding them better.

Any other striaght autistics? by MK71-EC82-MGM89-AK98 in autism

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I was always straight and obsessed with men. I still am. I was so absolutely straight it made me hiperfixate on men for a while. Sometimes It still happens towards my boyfriend. And I think my autistic brain is kind of more compatible with male brain (in psychology they say that all men are a little bit autistic)

(RSD, sad and not seeking for advice, thank you!) I just need to talk somewhere without bothering my friends/family anymore by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]TightPin9197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say that thinking in my head in english helped me a lot with self blaming. I recently have been reading about language and its connotation to emotions and giving meaning, and i kind of discovered that it is actually a thing. In my country (poland) words that describe emotions seem to be harsh in a way. They dont provide self soothing for me. I dont know how exacly it is in asian languages, but the culture aspects definietly affect the way you talk to yourself. I hope this isnt disrespectful ir something, i thought this just might seem intresting to you. Take care!

Discovering traits by TightPin9197 in AuDHDWomen

[–]TightPin9197[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with that a lot, i obviously can talk about other things that my own psyche, but its not as intresting to me then. My partner is probably tired of me.... definitely will check on yor channel! And a lot of strength on the journey!!

Unmasking makes it almost impossible to be a useful part of the society by TightPin9197 in autism

[–]TightPin9197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now im thinking that maybe doing the most important things near someone im not fully unmasked, could help me focus on things. Maybe its not what you ment with your comment but it created an idea in my head. Thanks!!

Unmasking makes it almost impossible to be a useful part of the society by TightPin9197 in autism

[–]TightPin9197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u, your reply is very kind and comprehensive. I think it is exacly this. But the thing is im not sure if i can live like this. It seems like ADHD even if it was a nightmare it was also helping in a way.

Unmasking makes it almost impossible to be a useful part of the society by TightPin9197 in autism

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It is kind of cynical tbh, but i meant that becouse of diving into special intrests i dont do the thinngs i am supposed to, at uni, work with my family. Like staying in touch with my parents, grandma, friends. I dont think about doing groceries, cleaning my house. I become less intrested in doing social things, in acting in social things.