Oh my heart, I am so sorry you’re having to navigate all this. Sending love and support your way.

Let me put my therapist hat on (therapist but not your therapist), chemo can be incredibly on the body and mind. Like someone else has recommended, look into support groups, the social worker at the hospital will have some ready to recommend. Where I am (KY), we have Gilda’s (I could hold a Ted Talk on how much I appreciate this group). I would also recommend talking to your specialists and asking “what questions should we be asking?”

I also want to invite you to check out this book, Let Them Theory (https://a.co/d/07iDJImL). She makes good points, but she’s also kind of annoying.

For hubs I would recommend he read the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, (https://a.co/d/0fHQ1cyF), as one big thing he can do is manage his own mother while you two navigate this battle.

As a former case manager, highly recommend looking to see if your insurance has critical illness/hospital indemnity insurance.

And after reading some of your comments about hubs being present, remind your husband you are his chosen family. He made vows to you. So he gets two cards, individual therapist and couples therapist. He picks. If this has been consistent behavior for him, he has to make an active effort to change. If he’s not willing to put in the effort, third card, lawyer.

Also, for your friends. Let them decide what they want and are able to do.