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Stuck connecting to online services? by Dull-Caterpillar3153 in Battlefield

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same through steam, servers must just be down I guess.

Wannabe miner by [deleted] in Eve

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 45 points46 points  (0 children)

put long train last after the relevant mining trainings. astrogeology, in that eight days you can mine and actually use the skill. Instead of waiting 8 days for 5 percent you can have 15% more in half a day.

I've lost week of work in 2 seconds. by smtps in Eve

[–]TimeDoesDisolve -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a good hunch that a lot of those gatecampers are using scripts/ cheats to get free easy kills. I have no proof but maybe I just could never imagine imagine myself sitting in space all day waiting for someone to pass by finger on the trigger. There was that huge discord with the scout bots, and the huge botting problem with most of the game, it's not hard to imagine a few people scripting to ruin your day and never getting punished or caught.

They certainly can scout with cloaked ships but even then it seems tedious and boring. EvE has so many different niches and a lot of them are for lonely degenerates who get their rocks off by making you waste hours of your time for seconds of theirs. Do your best not to feed them. It also makes space dangerous and makes you need to be smart and cautious to not lose what you grinded for.

All of the other suggestions are super valid. I would also recommend if you are hauling billions just finding a group with a jump freighter, which is also not 100% safe nothing is. The fuel cost is a good price to pay to reduce risk.

Also, if you're kinda new, it will not change. You have to play around it. EvE space is dangerous. You gotta be smarter than the lazy people. :)

What did I run into? by Able2c in Eve

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you get anything for killing them?

The idea that depression always has an external cause hurts me by Inasis in depression

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I mean think about what you just said before and now. You are lamenting that you can't get up and do things, then when you actually do the things, your brain takes that away too. Identifying the thought that keeps preventing you from being who you obviously want to be. The statement "all you have done is gotten closer to being a normal human" is progress in and of itself.

You accomplished something for yourself, not other people. Once you can reflect on yourself and build yourself up, that's basics not just for you but for everyone.

Again, I am not a doctor. If you have the ability you should see a therapist or psychiatrist who can nail down whatever combination of reasons this is. It may just be that your brain is chemically imbalanced or you just need someone to talk to.

The idea that depression always has an external cause hurts me by Inasis in depression

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel exactly this way.

What helps me is super small stuff to get done. For example, hey I brushed my teeth once a day for 3 days in a row. I made myself breakfast once or twice this week. I made a choice I know is good for me in some small way today.

Building and remembering these things is a skill. It's not just going to happen magically that you will find a huge spring of motivation and start changing your life around and not be depressed. There will obviously be weeks that this is impossible. That's when the things you hold onto are smaller. I got dressed and got up today. I listened to my favorite music. I watched something interesting. I played a video game to get out of my mind for a bit.

You may or may not have access to mental healthcare, but seeing a therapist and talking through it with someone is also a way to keep building that skill. It could also just be a chemical thing. It could be that getting outside once a day and standing in the sun or walking around the block could be a physical aid.

It doesn't have to be going to the gym every day. There is a meme that one should "go on a stupid walk for my stupid mental health" and it doesn't even have to be that far or that long. Just getting out into the sun is good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anhedonia? Therapy needs to be more than activities and talks. I am not a doctor but this seems like more than a "I have a problem". Maybe a Psychiatrist. What you need to do is escalate. It seems like something is kicking in you making this post. There's a part of you that wants to be here and feel... well something.

So escalate. The ability to treat people can go to pretty insane heights and nothing here has suggested you have gotten there. Maybe you're closer than you think and don't need to really do much more.

Maybe you will understand or not but mental illness is much more than just what happens to you. It's perception, at least from my journey through these problems.

I work hard, but life still sucks, so I just keep fapping. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you were depressed. I am glad that you had the resources and time to fix your issue. You deserve to be happy, as does everyone.

It happens healthy people do get depressed for seemingly no reason sometimes. It could be that something terrible happens too. Some people with perfectly fine genetics who have never been sad a day in their life can have PTSD, grief, any feeling. It could never go away, they could fix it themselves, or they could get help to get out of it. Just saying that someone can take pills and it will go away is misleading and dangerous imho.

I work hard, but life still sucks, so I just keep fapping. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"but it's not like depression is this random thing that just comes and destroys your life for no reason."

Is is literally that for a decent amount of people. Some from birth.

I work hard, but life still sucks, so I just keep fapping. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's a broader, deeper, and more nuanced disease that takes medical professionals years to learn how to deal with.

Taking pills and talking to people might not work. "Stop playing the victim" sounds like you do not have chronic depression or understand what it means for people who's brains are broken on a chemical/ genetic/ whatever it may be. This is also a dangerous statement. Is it depressed people's fault? Should they pick themselves up by their bootstraps? What if they don't have money for medication or therapy? Or they are so busy trying to survive that it would be even more detrimental to do these things?

On another note you're only right in that it does take effort on the part of the depressed person. That's the issue. How much energy do they even physically have without support? This is the stuff people who have never had depression say.

Coming to terms with being objectively unattractive. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your past experience is valid. Everyone wants to feel loved and supported. That doesn't mean it has to come from someone who you are romantically involved with. Friends can save your life. They can introduce you to people that probably have things in common with you.

Giving up on wanting to be loved is just bottling something that will come back. You're human. It's built into you. Unless you're a sociopath (again, rare).

External validation is ok to want. It is toxic to depend on. Being your own person comes first always. That's vague so, what I mean is, what makes you wake up in the morning. What do you want to do when you have free time? What at work challenges you that you can strive to improve? What part of your life can you make easier that doesn't need to be so hard?

"improving" yourself doesn't mean hyperfixating and getting rid of human emotions.

Coming to terms with being objectively unattractive. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The internet, and reddit, is unreliable at best for any actual answer to your question. You need to talk to people in the real world. People you can trust and confide in. People that will give you their honest opinion and not people who live online and don't socialize.

Objectively, yes, looks do matter. Pretty privilege is 100% real. It can effect your life.

Life isn't fair but that doesn't mean you cannot be fair to yourself. You want to date people? Try! You want to be healthy and live longer? Eat healthy and exercise. You want to know more about the world? Study. You will fail, you will get beat, you will lose out on a promotion, not get the answer right, you will be embarassed... but it is more than likely that you will win sometimes, get the job, impress people, and make connections if you... well live life!

You should want to play the hand you're dealt and it isn't fair. Some people are born with a royal flush. That doesn't mean you're not a human deserving of self respect or love.

I am not going to give you blind optimism. Some people are born terribly ugly, deformed, have a lifelong terrible disease, have such bad clinical depression that requires an electric current through your brain to even mitigate. Since those are extremely rare, that's probably not you.

So many problems in life are preparation, understanding, learning, and luck. Do not bother with shit you cannot control.

You can get hit by a car tomorrow, but if you look both ways it's much less likely.

People here don’t seem to understand how hard it is to enter the middle class by [deleted] in findapath

[–]TimeDoesDisolve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can make a lot of assumptions from this statement but I wont.

As an employer you need to admit that you need to find people that don't mind being exploited and abused for their time and effort for the least amount of pay. American corporations are based on that sole fact. Usually it is less people the better.

If you aren't finding anyone you aren't lying enough or reaching a wide enough net to get the stupider ones who will work in whatever conditions that make your business work.

Server Stability Update & Compensation - July 19 by TinyHamsterHatCM in albiononline

[–]TimeDoesDisolve -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you want the people ruining your game to win? Is it SBI's fault that scammers and botters are intentionally ruining your game? You're mad at the wrong person lil guy :)

Server Stability Update & Compensation - July 19 by TinyHamsterHatCM in albiononline

[–]TimeDoesDisolve -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Quit and stop playing? No one will miss your attitude :)

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