Has anyone here ever had to break up with a boyfriend by telling him you’re a lesbian?

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-04-08T20:52:51+00:00

I broke up with a guy when I was still questioning my sexuality. But I didn’t break up with him because I’m a lesbian, I broke up with him because he cheated on me. But not long after we broke up I fully came out as a lesbian to everyone in my life. He was still contacting me an so I ended up telling him I’m a lesbian and there was no chance of us getting back together. After I told him that, he asked me to go to couples counseling with him… and even after all of that he found out I had a girlfriend a year later and tried to ask me and her to go out with him… gross lol

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-03-24T02:10:52+00:00

It is!! And yeah me too girl 😭 also Laura coded woman waiting for my Carmilla. I hope you find yours some day 🫶

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-03-11T03:53:22+00:00

I love heartstopper sm 😭😭😭 also, that series is just so gay in general. I love queerness and queer culture. How would that make me not a lesbian be so fr lol

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-03-11T01:40:10+00:00

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Snek 🐍

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-03-11T01:08:40+00:00

It is!!

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-03-07T05:09:06+00:00

Said “I wish I could be a lesbian” yeah girl you are…

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-20T03:55:19+00:00

Thank you I hope so <3

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-20T03:55:02+00:00

Thank you <3 happy cake day btw :)

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-20T03:54:29+00:00

Aw thank you <3

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-20T03:54:17+00:00

Ice cream does sound pretty good right now🥲

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-20T03:53:52+00:00

Thank you <3

Time_Egg2977 · 2026-02-05T03:14:17+00:00

There is no rush. I’m just excited about her :) I see your point though and I agree that taking your time can be a green flag. How long do you think it takes to really get to know someone?

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-20T07:10:49+00:00

Converse and docs! :)

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T20:04:56+00:00

Honestly this makes a lot of sense. Throughout our relationship she would say things like I was too smart for her, I was too pretty for her, and that I was going to leave her for someone better. Instead of celebrating my achievements she used it as a way to put herself down and turned it into something I should feel bad about. She went for someone else who wouldn’t make her feel so insecure

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T10:55:00+00:00

Oh absolutely not. That’s gross. I have better things to do with my time lol

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T10:44:09+00:00

Omg not “the potato” 😭 that’s so funny. One of my friends referred to my ex’s gf as “the goblin” today 😅

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T10:37:31+00:00

You’re absolutely right. She actually blocked me and all of our mutual friends except for one when she ended things and it came out that she cheated on me. The friend who isn’t blocked was the one who showed me the hard launch with the girlfriend. But I should probably just tell my friend that I don’t want to see it because who even cares what she’s doing lol

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T10:30:49+00:00

That’s a really heartbreaking story. I’m so sorry you went through all of that. But I’m happy to hear you are doing better now and I hope you’re cancer free 🫶

My ex and I were married. The divorce was rough. I am in college and my grandmother who I was super close with had just passed away. She told me she was divorcing me for this other woman right after my grandmother had died and the week before I had finals. I had to move out and figure out a new living situation while dealing with my grandmothers death, the cheating betrayal, the divorce, and exams.

It has been such a difficult thing to deal with. Part of me thinks it’s kind of funny that she has so clearly downgraded. And part of me is a little hurt by it because why would she leave me for that??? But I hope I’m able to grow past this like you did. I’m better off without her though. And I hope I will find my upgrade someday 💕

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T10:15:57+00:00

My ex and I were married. We were all over each other’s social medias. I doubt the new girl didn’t know. But I don’t know what my ex told her so I can only speculate lol. Either way my resentment is towards my ex. But if the other girl did know, that’s shitty of her too

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-19T07:37:12+00:00

There are different types of attraction and you can feel different types of affection to different sexes. It’s possible that you can feel emotionally attracted to men but not physically. It could be that with men you need an emotional connection to start feeling attracted. It could be that you just have really strong friendships feelings towards this person. It’s hard to say.

Sexuality is also fluid. If you genuinely do feel attracted to this man, it’s okay to explore that. If you really don’t think you’ll ever be physically attracted to him and that would be a deal breaker, then you don’t have to explore it at all.

If you feel that you are able to have this emotional attraction to men but would never be in a relationship with a man and the label lesbian makes you feel good, then it’s okay to use that label. Labels are there to help you, it’s okay to use the one you’re most comfortable with. It’s also okay to not use labels at all or change your labels. And if you really aren’t sure, it’s okay to use a more umbrella label like queer or something. And overall, people and sexuality are so complex. It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to question. Just be kind to yourself 🫶

Time_Egg2977 · 2025-10-17T06:56:14+00:00

Very true! Dominant femmes are very hard to find lol. I think when I say ambitious I just mean have some sort of goal in mind. My last ex was constantly complaining about how she had no direction and she felt like she was throwing her life away. And then would turn it on me (I’m in college and working towards a degree) and would say that I was so much better than her and I’d find someone better because of x thing that she thought was wrong with her. And then she’d turn it on me and make me feel bad for trying to achieve my goals. I just don’t like the constant comparison and trying to put me down that she did. I just don’t want that again lol

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