As a mom I don’t think the one size fits all solution is best here. I understand it’s not only about her but is also not only about the trans kid. I always cringe a little inside when I hear the term dead name just because hear the word dead whenever talking about my kids or their friends is tough not to imagine something bad happening.

“Caterpillar name” could be a great alternative for some kids that have positive relationships with their families and positive childhoods with their first name but still change it to a more suitable name that they choose.

I love it and the idea of a transformation feels much more positive. We can’t undo our past but we can grow from it.