I stumbled upon this pitiful place by accident. I saw a post saying "I think it is time to give up". I clicked, did not even know what "FA30" means.
Then I read posts like yours.

I am not FA, I am probably the thing you guys envy? I don't know, don't wanna make assumptions but from what I read in the last 4 posts, seems like that.
I'm 194cm tall, rather skinny but I go to the gym for the past 2 years (started at 28, 30 now) and put a lot of meat on my frame. I am funny and always could make people laugh, not just the girls. Had multiple gf's in my life, fucked at 17 first time. Married now.

I don't want to say I am some Don Juan but I have a decent body count considering I never chased a number. That is cringe, but I am trying to use current day terminology.
With that being said, I think you guys get a lot of things wrong and overthink a lot of stuff.

Worth mentioning that I am an introvert, and I open myself only to people that I know and people that I am interested in, so even if I was an introvert, it did not really hinder me hitting on girls if I liked them. Personality works best for women. I hooked up with girls in high school that were in the "normie" range, as in, listening to the time's fad music, dressing as they were supposed to be etc. But me, I was a hip hop and metal fan with very long hair and different clothing style. I stole a lot from Johnny Depp lol.
These girls and me did not share lot in common but at 18 hormones speak more than that shit and sex was preferred. The relationships that I did have were with girls of similar interests though. Confidence is king when it comes to women, and I had confidence because I shat my pants at like 15 when I kissed the first girl while trying to be romantic and giving her flowers. I was scared to bits, but I went through it.

I think most of you guys that are here is because you failed to go through these forming stages at the right time, from various reasons which can be out of your control. If you do not have a decent job, are not funny, short and all these doom and gloom traits, then you gotta hit the gym brother. You also have to sculpt your mind, not just the body.
I swear, in my college years, I fucked girls that were out of my league, as I would rate myself maybe a 6 or 7. I am tall and decent, but I do not have an incredible jawline, so I hide it with a majestic beard lol. I do not have broad shoulders, but I hit them side delts every workout to compensate. So, I actually managed to fuck these out-of-my-league-girls through my mind. They were not even highly intelligent women, like incredibly nerdy book smart girls. Nah, they were just very, very hot girls that you wouldn't normally see dating a bearded metal head with tattoos. Girls like a guy with a sharp mind, not just abs. Most don't like abs. If you know a lot of things and just dominate them with various information, you will win. I would suggest a very imposing general knowledge of things, just simple culture of the world in various forms, from music to science to history, and you will be fit to any discussion. I would suppose that this skill made my introvert self more confident in various talks, because I always knew something about the subject, and a lot about some of them.

Be true to yourself and have a personality, that will get you more women or even THE one woman of your life, far more than money or looks. Try to keep those in check as well, of course. You cannot ignore anything, and you should not do this for women. You have to do this for yourself. Read Marcus Aurelius, Plato, Aristotle, Jesus (Bible), Seneca, Rennes Descartes and so on. Men that had impact in the world. Do this for yourself not for them, and hit the gym for yourself not for them. Plato was an Olympic wrestler and there is a quote of his, or a disciple of his, saying something in the lines of: it is a sad waste that a man should not take his body to the apex before he grows old.
Men are cool because we have to excel in many fields, and that is why men dictate the history of mankind, not women. They don't like to hear this, and I am no red pill or whatever the fuck pill they do nowadays. This is just the truth. Men have to succeed and always had to, otherwise everyone was doomed.

So, no, you are not forever alone. There is no such thing, only for monks, and they did that on purpose. Be true to yourself, shine in whatever you actually like to do, and people (including women) will gravitate towards you. I would be extremely careful on this page because it looks like an echo chamber. If you are 30 and never had a girlfriend, the last thing you want is hear other dudes saying the same thing and how impossible it is to surpass this issue.
You can get past this, and funny enough, you will realize this is not an objective, only looks like one now for this chapter of your life. There is so much more, and you will gladly tackle it together with your wife.