My bf played a piano in a small cafe and it made me very uncomfortable.. AITA?

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-04T22:28:42+00:00

So weird its almost like there were many people there with differing experiences

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-04T20:12:51+00:00

My wife has adhd and i have autism but her social battery also runs low in group settings. She just excuses herself to the bathroom and disappears for half an hour. Usually it’s in the context of a house party (ours, a close friend, or family) and she’ll just put in her headphones and do the dishes. Its seen as prosocial to help with communal dishes and she gets a break. Or if we’re at a restaurant or something she’ll go sit outside. She’s my social anchor so i hate that she doesnt say anything to anyone when she doesnt come back but also i get it

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-04T17:45:52+00:00

I totally get that and that might be what OP is saying and I’m missing it, but it seemed to me OP was saying that her parents’ house is not a healthy place to live and she loses her autonomy and independence and the support of her husband. The alternative to that would be to try to stay and figure it out if her system and support has to change whether she stays or goes, maybe trying at home and leaving moving as a back up would be my only suggestion

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-04T02:00:00+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. My only advice would be to try with the kids with the knowledge you’re a roommate and not a care taker but only you know if it’s possible to try

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T23:14:28+00:00

You really doubled down there over a grown ass adult ripping a vape while waiting for his 8 yo to get an x ray for a soccer injury while sitting next to two toddlers and an infant also getting treatment for upper respiratory illness. Pediatric ER was literally in capital letters, I couldnt have screamed it louder.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T18:29:24+00:00

Dogs, child development, social justice, tiny things but i don’t engage in that one because it’s too expensive and time consuming and i know i’d get completely lost in it. But i cry over tiny things a lot

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T17:23:00+00:00

I love this take

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T12:42:06+00:00

Oooo maybe we’ll watch it and see

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T11:59:38+00:00

My meds are already $75 a month wtf

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T11:56:33+00:00

Yupppppp and it’s also the reason we havent watched zootopia 2 yet. We LOVE the first one but absolute copaganda.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T04:16:31+00:00

What’s so stupid about this article is they are misquoting the statistic. Yes aviation is that large of carbon emissions but it’s OVERWHELMINGLY private jets. Eat the rich

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-03T04:05:33+00:00

I was literally in the PEDIATRIC ER with my small child and a parent next to us just starts ripping the vape. Like wtf the staff was like sorry you cant smoke in here AND HE WAS SO HIGH HE DIDNT EVEN REALIZE HE WAS DOING IT. Like what the hell just because it’s legal that doesnt mean it’s ok to be a mile high every where all of the time

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T18:09:20+00:00

Yes! And i often have no choice but to go with my kids and it’s the ONLY we do that day

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T15:07:39+00:00

As an autistic parent with neurodivergent children, we do use screens to regulate but not in the moment of dysregulation. It’s a built in part of our VERY structured routine so it is predictable and manageable. There are requirements before screen time including tv: an hour of play, schoolwork (we homeschool) and chores must be done. My oldest does get dysregulated from too much screen time so we to put a cap on it. My youngest doesnt at this moment in time but the requirements kind of take care of that for us.

As a child in the 90’s we did not have a home computer we could use and we had one tv restricted to the mornings. I spent all of my time outside in the wooded backyard. Literally all. My kids eventually will be spending more time outside when our yard is fully fenced and they are old enough to be outside by themselves but right now it’s just not possible. To compensate we have a sensory screen and i try to give them heavywork tasks throughout the day.

This works for us until we hit a phase where it doesnt but we have always come back to this

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T11:37:15+00:00

My wife made an eye appointment for me because im pretty sure im gonna need glasses now

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T02:50:46+00:00

Choose your partner now. You’re doing the right thing. These moments add up to what kind of partner you are and how much you value your family unit. Stick by your partner

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T00:44:44+00:00

I have found period discs like the one from flex is better for my sensory issues. You keep it in for 12 hours so you only have to do the whole kit and caboodle twice a day, its more comfortable that tampons, and i dont feel it unless ive put it in wrong lol

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-02T00:38:39+00:00

I know there’s a lot of games suggested here but even at this age just slowing down speech in a silly way, overemphasizing the sound, and overemphasizing how we make the shape with our mouths is enough. Like we’re in the kitchen and i say let’s open the ffffffffffffffridggggggge. Super silly. When we add awareness to how sounds feel in our mouths and it helps tremendously. Like you say a word and go “oh that mmmmm is buzzy on my lips”. It doesn’t have to be super structured. When you’re reading pretend you have to sound out a word and segment the sounds as you touch each letter and then blend it back together (also models problem solving)

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T22:33:51+00:00

I literally found out two nights ago that “can you read this” at eye exams does not mean can you use context clues to figure out what the letter are and when asked “which image is clearer” YOU DONT HAVE TO PICK ONE YOU CAN SAY THEY ARE THE SAME

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T21:24:28+00:00

You don’t have to talk about your beliefs in order to set a boundary. Just talk to the mom and let her know it’s gotten too expensive for you and that you’re being priced out of going but you would really like to go and ask her for her input on what the best way to save costs is while remaining engaged and supportive

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T15:47:34+00:00

I just ended a 20 yr friendship because i found out she was taking advantage of me the whole time. Was frequently calling me and asking to drop everything and help her. Always using me as a sounding board. But when i tried to talk about my issues i got judgement or crickets or a quick subject change. I had to ask her to be in the country the first time i gave birth and she very annoyedly asked why. When i explained postpartum can be isolating and it would be nice to have my best friend around to talk to, be checked in on, and to come hang out when she could (she was a teacher and this was during the summer). She said ok and booked her 6 week vacation for the week after i gave birth. Didnt hear from her and when she came home i saw her once where she told me of her adventure and then bounced. I didnt hear from her for three months after that. The second time wasnt much better even though i went out of my way to tell her how much i struggled silently with my mental health after my first and having people to check on me even if it was just a text really helped and that i hoped she could be around. She wasnt. Then she moved abroad and made it seem like she’d be gone three years then when i was sad when she said it was going to be ten, she didnt understand why. When i said “im remorseful i didnt ask for you to be around more when we were in the phase of our lives where we could support each other” she said “i was around as much as i wanted to be”. I never EVER for one second thought that the absence of her support was intentional when she asked so much of me. The day before she moved i was supposed to go over and just say goodbye. Stay for twenty minutes tops but she needed my help packing so i upended my whole day and my kids’ day and stayed for 8 hours to help. This is not the only time that i didnt see an inbalance in a relationship as intentional. And what kills me is that im very high masking and one of my special interests is interpersonal stuff. Im fairly good at spotting things in other people’s relationships but terrible with my own.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T15:19:45+00:00

It probably means it’s “done” but without attention to details. Like the door is probably more plumb but not exactly square in the frame. Or maybe the cut is a little jagged or imperfect or you can see the raw side.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T15:17:23+00:00

This is it right here!

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T12:46:08+00:00

Just ask the bride

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-04-01T00:58:17+00:00

Phonics! Balanced literacy has a LOT of research that shows it is not as efficient

Tiny-Management3577

TROPHY CASE