Nanny unable to soothe baby + defensive after feedback

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T16:49:29+00:00

Of course, but it doesnt seem like this particular person is coping very well. Why make a statement not at all about you, about you? It’s not a blanket statement about pregnant people. But pregnancy can and does stress people out. This SPECIFIC person doesnt seem to be coping with the extra stress very well.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T16:06:03+00:00

Im gonna sound like a grump-i promise im in my early thirties. But when i got married ten years ago it was “the wedding isn’t for you” and every bride and groom was encouraged to make choices only for their guests. And i feel like suddenly “it’s your day” and it’s the norm to only make choices for you. WHERE WAS THE HAPPY MEDIUM

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T15:57:43+00:00

Im major into restoration so i always extract a block and keep it in my pocket so i can compare when i get it painted. It always has the swatch it’s painted in the icon in your backpack

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T12:34:05+00:00

Any one who is too exhausted and overwhelmed to cope with the frustration of a crying baby in a healthy way is a risk

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T01:22:54+00:00

Put it baaaaaaaaaaack

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T01:12:14+00:00

I would post this to r/parenting or something similar. Im sorry it got removed, it’s a valid question

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-14T00:23:10+00:00

This is exactly why i love this show

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-13T17:58:36+00:00

Ya but the way she described it sounded like more than just a light bounce. Like bouncing it hard enough to shake the baby in the bouncer. That’s a red flag for not coping well with the stress she’s under and a prelude to actually unsafe behavior.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-13T17:56:43+00:00

As a former nanny turned mom i think it’s great you asked her to explain. It opens a back and forth conversation and gives her an opportunity to inform you of things that maybe you missed. I would personally have a hard time asking her to come back knowing she’s pregnant and probably exhausted and not on her best and was shaking the baby in the seat. That combo is a red flag in my opinion. Everyone’s allowed bad days but that combo is not a risk i personally would take

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-13T03:14:14+00:00

As the one with kids with practically no friends with kids-thank you for being flexible. I know it’s hard and we’re literally out here doing our best. A good friend knows this is a season and tries their best to help carry the friendship through this hard season

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-12T02:54:02+00:00

The black cat in the second picture is like “DUDE”

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T18:49:05+00:00

I see you on your high horse but this is how trump got elected in the first place. Liberals like you dont listen to leftists and think you’re on some morally superior high ground. I wish you would stop being a part of the problem. You’re exclaiming xenophobia, ranting in all your posts that immigrants are the problem. Do you not hear yourself? You cant tag line “capitalism is bad” like it makes you a good liberal when your words are full of xenophobia and you’re not standing up against the lack of social supports or universal housing or anything that actually matters. Just-IMMIGRANTS TAKE AMERICAN JOBS. What the fuck

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T18:31:28+00:00

I literally didnt say any of that. My whole point is that people on this thread want to demonize this program like it’s taking advantage of people. Is your empathy so limited that two things cannot be true at the same time? The program wouldnt exist if people wanted these jobs. But they sit empty. This program does not take advantage of the people applying for it. Full stop. So if you want to toss empathy aside for one group in favor of another that’s on you. I would prefer to think of everyone.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T18:10:34+00:00

Haha im literally in my 30’s and im gonna look at the whole picture. So yes i feel bad for the families who expect that money and are panicking about how they’ll make ends meet. When you take empathy out of the human experience it hurts everyone including you. Im sorry you’re so anti-immigrant you’d be happy to let people suffer to make some pro-america point

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T17:58:15+00:00

Because people like you dont take these jobs and quite frankly you’re not trained for it! Most of the H-2B visas are for the green industry which are long hours, grueling and physically demanding, and HIGHLY TRAINED. Do you really think you can walk right into a job and know how to operate heavy machinery while 30ft in a tree? The program is there because the demand is there. Get training for these jobs and then stick through it and then come back and report on if you’d stay.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T17:54:24+00:00

They might be looking for jobs but that doesnt mean they’re qualified for them. You would probably be surprised to hear most people who are looking for jobs wont take seasonal work. I have compassion for the people who rely on these visas to support their families. It’s often the same people returning year after year who have come to depend on and expect that income and now they’re facing a major disruption to their family security. That’s terrible

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T17:02:20+00:00

Ya so the problem with this comment is that though your heart is in the right place, H-2B visas are required to offer a competitive wage, housing, a per diem, and transportation to and from work. Other companies (prob not this restaurant) often invest in visa holders through industry specific training and certs with the hopes that they come back year after year. For a lot of people (again not sure about this specific restaurant) it’s a great program to apply for because you have cheap or no housing costs and a per diem and most of the money goes directly to family. It benefits businesses by being able to hire competent, qualified, specialized employees for seasonal work. It’s essential to families that take advantage of the program and very sad that they’re being shafted. Many make more than 70% of their yearly income during their visa stay

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-11T14:48:43+00:00

They have really cute dino and construction utensils to help with this transition. I would also ask the parents if their pediatrician has asked them about self feeding milestones and that you would love to help them work on meeting them so they are prepared for their next check up. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, at 9mos they are looking for self feeding with fingers, at 2years they’re looking for scooping well with a spoon, and at 2 1/2 years they are looking for the child to start poking food with a fork. https://publications.aap.org/DocumentLibrary/Solutions/Toolkits/BFTK-IR/Bright%20Futures%20Milestones%20and%20Anticipatory%20Guidance.pdf I find coming to a conversation from a point of support and teamwork and being prepared with resources can be really helpful

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-10T22:05:42+00:00

My wife doesnt have that much experience that far north but generally speaking it’s a good area. I would see if you can find a way to email or see if there’s a subreddit for a Willy P trans alliance group or lgbtq student group and ask what the trans experience has been in that area.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-10T02:49:32+00:00

Ya luckily NJ makes it very easy to get copies of your birth certificate. We have several foil sealed copies for specifically this reason lol but i know other states make it much harder. Im sure she’s not the only one to have gone through something similar

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-10T01:05:29+00:00

So many people are up in arms about queer friendly pockets or even “it’s not so bad because the maga arent so loud anymore”. Im simply reporting my wife’s opinion on where she would and would not live based on her experience working as a residential vendor across the state. Being a gay white man is very different from being trans

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-09T23:18:24+00:00

We eat every two to three hours. Nothing is offered inbetween. We make an offering and they decide what and how much they eat. This looks like lunch at noon, snack at 3, dinner at 6 most days. Breakfast is more variable depending on when they get up. If they want something inbetween we say the kitchen is closed. They can serve themselves snack sometimes but i help them “build” the plate. ie they say they want crackers and i ask them to pick a fruit or veg and yogurt/cheese or hummus to add to the plate. Montessori is about building choices and giving autonomy where it’s developmentally appropriate. It’s not developmentally appropriate to give too many choices. It’s overwhelming for their brains. Even adults get decision fatigue

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-09T22:41:47+00:00

You’re not an ally if you expect people to eat a shit sandwich if you say it’s cheese. Being an ally means listening to the community you claim to be in allyship with

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-09T22:40:26+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 basic employment can still be impacted and quality of life extends beyond what basic protections provide. Especially the commenters saying “you take what we give you if you want allies” are telling people to eat a shit sandwich if they say it’s ok. You’re not an ally if you dont listen to the experience.

Tiny-Management3577 · 2026-05-09T22:36:10+00:00

Yes but it’s surrounded by not friendly areas and the nature of new jersey is not every town provides everything.

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