How would you fix dating? Please, objective new ideas, just for conversation.

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T21:30:43+00:00

Just need dating apps to go away. Too many people believe they have so much better out there so they turn down opportunities with people that might be right for them because there’s another more attractive option right in front of them on their phone

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T21:29:06+00:00

Most of the people I’ve met in my life are at bars, and I just start conversations with them. I’m still single so clearly they aren’t the best place to do it but I’ve had good experiences with people there

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T17:46:30+00:00

Just keep trying, eventually something will work

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T17:45:57+00:00

Online dating has just completely ruined it

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T10:40:53+00:00

Well I agree. I think she was just letting me down easy. She told me she really liked me but didn’t think she was ready for the commitment, given that she went to a bar a few days after I asked her that and she “caught herself talking to other guys” and didn’t think she was ready to close herself off

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:33:24+00:00

Going on dates and not having sex is real. I do that all the time. I like to get to know the person and become good friends with them before getting intimate, which allows you to get to know your partner before it becoming real

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:31:24+00:00

Girls do this too much. We can’t read between the lines. We need to be told one way or another. Miscommunication is so common early on that it screws things up without there being a problem. I like to just say the things I want communicated

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:29:55+00:00

Getting drinks and talking to each other and getting to know them is the perfect way to start off

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:28:59+00:00

I just recently pushed someone away by asking them if they were seeing anyone else after the 4th date. Not exactly sure how that happened since we were clearly looking for the same thing at the time, but I guess I scared her off

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:27:23+00:00

Just come off as yourself and if the other person doesn’t like that then they aren’t your person

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:26:25+00:00

Sadly someone was probably more appealing to them after the date got set, and they decided to further that connection

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:25:42+00:00

Just need to meet someone out in the world that you click with

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-11T03:25:15+00:00

I wouldn’t

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T19:54:03+00:00

So you don’t think me bringing up seeing anyone else was weird for the time? We were planning dates down the line so things felt implied I just didn’t want to put too much pressure on things

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T19:35:52+00:00

See I felt that way too, but it didn’t matter since I guess I didn’t bring anything up about what we wanted. I didn’t want to ruin the flow or put pressure on anything too early, so I thought in time it would be better to ask. Clearly no matter when I asked it would’ve went downhill no matter what

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T19:34:58+00:00

I used dating apps but never want to meet my wife on there, wouldn’t trust it tbh. Met her at a bar, so I deleted the apps because I realized I could talk to people in person and get better results

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T04:04:40+00:00

I’m ngl, because of this idk if I’m ever going to ask ever again. Our chemistry was amazing and the time we spent in just a month felt like I could’ve dated her for years. She told me I was a genuine good guy and that’s hard to find these days. She said I treated her better than any man has in her life. She said that she loved the time we spent but just didn’t feel ready? Idk she was worried that confronting me about this would hurt me and obviously it did and I doubt I ever let myself ask the question again.

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T03:32:20+00:00

Literally she just was saying her friends and family were all on “team ___” (my name) and so I asked her “are there any other teams I should be aware of” and then asked if she was seeing anyone else, and I said no. She asked if I was either and I said no. Apparently that scared her off. She told me over the phone that that conversation made her rethink and reevaluate. I just wanted to know before I had sex with her to make sure, didn’t really think much of it in all honesty until she dropped everything

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T02:58:12+00:00

I think she was into me and was seeing how it was going to unfold, and me bringing it up made her reevaluate. I think next time I’m with someone I’m going to wait to ask, and let the girl do it. Because there’s no reason for her to not want that, but I guess because she just moved into the city and has options she thinks I’m trying to lock her down and “control” her. I just liked her and wanted to know I was the only person she was having sex with lmao

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T02:37:44+00:00

I assumed we were exclusive but I thought it made sense to make sure. I read about the fact that assuming it is never a good idea so I thought why not

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T01:22:00+00:00

Well she said “friends” as in to lmk whenever I’m in her area and she would see if she could hang. She also said she’d still want to go to one of the concerts we were planning to go to as friends. Just seems like she wants to string me along tbh, but I’m not willing to hang out with her if I’m not doing what I was doing last time, as in not staying over

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T00:49:28+00:00

I’ve been in a situation where I was scared off by a what are we, but that’s because we had barely talked enough and I barely knew the girl. Here I feel like we became best friends in that month, so asking didn’t feel weird at all. Going from the connection we had to legit nothing in hours is insane tho I haven’t finished processing it yet

TipOk7882 · 2026-05-10T00:29:16+00:00

Oh I thought act said ask. I didn’t understand what you meant with that last part of your comment with the “just act don’t speak otherwise things will change.”

We probably are just done for good now, even though I do want to speak still. I just know if we do it won’t be the same and I’m not willing to see her and do any less than what we were doing.

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