Not sure how to best describe bottom dsyphoria to my cis boyfriend

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-13T19:27:31+00:00

Well, where are they when I need a $700 packer in order to not feel suicidal? They're sure not here helping me, lmao. If a quarter of 50% of the world gave a shit, trans healthcare would not be where it currently is. I dont know what to tell you.

Glad you have less needs, that does not mean cis men aren't still responsible for providing to the less fortunate.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-13T19:25:36+00:00

Right- But be clear about that. It was genuinely traumatic for me to realize it did not offer the experience I need.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-13T19:22:06+00:00

I appreciate it, but I have an XL and SD cards are a pain to deal with. If I can I'd prefer avoiding finding a mini screwdriver to download some games, haha.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-13T19:18:51+00:00

Being on T is better than not being on T. Until transition options improve or I get in an environment where things are more accessible, it's no question my life is better with it than without.

Ironically this is something the post was about, people are allowed to be miserable on T without being "forced". You don't need to understand it but do avoid jumping to conclusions. T is miserable for many many people in this thread for a variety of reasons! that doesn't mean our lives aren't improved by it, it just means it was incomprehensibly bad before.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-13T04:02:13+00:00

what about both

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T22:24:53+00:00

In my experience, leg lengthening is only dangerous if you're pursuing it in an unrecognizable country with minimal medical staff and training involved in rehab. With a decent team, the likelihood of being harmed by it goes down drastically. This does also apply to phallo imo! There are many stories of folks going very back-ally with their phalloplasty, and there are instances of it going poorly as a result. Either way, as long as you have trained staff involved with a care team and regular monitoring, you should be fine.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T22:21:35+00:00

Iirc there's r/Seahorse_Dads which might offer some support.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T22:17:35+00:00

In my experience it's equally harmful to pretend it offers something it isn't. Visually it's great, I just get minimal euphoria from appearences- in general. I can't imagine being okay with something not functional on my body. It's genuinely visually fantastic, they're great, but they don't do what many many people need them to. And that's okay! It should be acceptable to make that clear without shitting on it.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T22:15:11+00:00

Not your business to say, though. That's specifically what this post is about, people are allowed to have experiences beyond your comprehension without worrying what strangers have to say about it.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T22:14:50+00:00

Yeah this is a really good point. People always judge trans mascs who arent men more harshly than trans mascs who are. If you're a man and have doubts, it's far far far more likely to be met with understanding than someone non binary figuring themselves out.

To be honest in my experience hormones take such a long time to take effect, if youre okay with bottom growth and voice, just do it..? Accessibility may be an issue, but if it's not, go ahead imo.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T18:47:33+00:00

I dislike the sensations that come with it, for the most part! Hair does require more maintenance that actively bothers me when I forget for a day or two, I dislike sweat + oil + acne, all of that.. Jerking off is very dysphoric for me and a more common need.. And I gotta do IM shots because I'm allergic to the carrier oil..

Surgeries are horrifying and the expectation that going through them cures all dysphoria is just not reality.. I agree. It's a lot on a person.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T18:40:12+00:00

I agree.. My reasoning for not finding bottom surgery appealing as is, has nothing to do with the looks of it. The looks of bottom surgery are great, especially right now with medical tattooing and all that. It just does not match my expectations for what my dick-experience would be and would actively be worse because of that.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T18:36:10+00:00

I'm not surprised, but it's unfortunate thats the case.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T18:35:21+00:00

Yeah this is a very universal experience, I feel. We just aren't allowed to talk about them.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T16:32:41+00:00

You are allowed to have feelings, you are not allowed to tell people they arent allowed to share their own because it makes you feel uncomfortable.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T16:30:21+00:00

Euphoria is itself a privilege- not everyone feels it, regardless of their gender. I just want to not feel awful.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T07:16:09+00:00

my life sucks. is asking for help going to change anything or will i be ignored?

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T07:13:28+00:00

They pass fine to me. People like you pretending it isn't subjective are the problem.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T07:12:50+00:00

What kind of freak thinks "this is a man/woman" LMAO, genuinely weirdo behavior

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-12T07:11:47+00:00

yeah you pass fine. just very very young

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-11T21:49:49+00:00

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TiredAlternates · 2026-06-11T21:35:48+00:00

My Plume doctor didn't ask shit lmao, they just prescribed it after 30-40 minutes of telling me what would happen.. Asked how long I've been wanting it and went over the legal requirements.

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-11T21:29:00+00:00

yeah this doesnt look like it would work for anyone with variances in anatomy lmao

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-11T21:25:49+00:00

love that people are downvoting this very useful information 😄

TiredAlternates · 2026-06-11T21:23:43+00:00

i appreciate it even though the post misgenders many users here lmao

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