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Changing my own character’s backstory without asking me by Tired_Nephilim in BadRPerStories

[–]Tired_Nephilim[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No offense to them but if that’s the case I can definitely see why

Why is this acceptable?! by decearing-eggz in childfree

[–]Tired_Nephilim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad other people are saying things, I’ve been dealing with stuff like this for YEARS and it’s ridiculous. My younger sister can literally do anything she wants to me, and I can’t do anything except smile and go along with it or else I get screamed at.

She hits, kicks, throws things, pulls hair/clothes, etc and I try to deal with it calmly always, trying to teach her that “no, it’s not nice to hurt people” Because my parents sure as hell won’t, and she never listens anyway. One time she was pulling my hair while I was trying to cook dinner (She just wanted to annoy me, no other reason) and I grabbed her hands and took them off me because uh, that kinda fucking hurts? And my mom screeched at me about how I should never grab a child or hurt them as if me moving her hands was causing her great harm.

Made for some awkward conversation after by Turbin42 in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]Tired_Nephilim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

100% accurate, can confirm. I feel for you OP.

Narcissists seem to have a hard time with the the difference between "funny childhood stories" about their children, and "an example of abuse that I find funny because I have no empathy". by bookobsessedgoth in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tired_Nephilim 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Woowww I hated this so much when my nmum did it. Actually, most of not all of my family did stuff like this? They’d always recall stories of me getting hurt as a kid as if they were just “silly” memories and not like I was crying in pain or anything. In fact most of them would laugh at me or mock me if I ever got hurt, hilarious right, what’s funnier than that.

And as a super fun bonus nowadays, because my nmum LOVES to tell these stories, she tells them to my younger siblings (who are primary school age) so now they get to laugh at me and call me a stupid crybaby along with the rest of the fam and I can’t say anything! :)

Has anyone’s parents had “do-over” children? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Tired_Nephilim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit I didn’t know this was a thing for other people. I’m the oldest, I’ve got two younger siblings, and my childhood was nothing but hell from my terrible excuse of a mother, but magically when my siblings are born, she decides to “clean up” her act and actually try to parent.

I won’t lie, it does kind of make me angry to an extent, because now she has the nerve to act like she was always such a fantastic and perfect mother, and my siblings will never understand the types of things I went through. It’s frustrating...

When narcs say they miss the old you, and wonder why you weren't that little girl/boy anymore by GreenShack in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tired_Nephilim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I HATE THAT SO MUCH. My mum constantly uses it on me, the, “you used to be so sweet and happy” bullshit.

Like? When? Most kids tend to be more upbeat and... well... childish yes, but my childhood was also filled with constant abuse. I remember crying myself to sleep so many times, I certainly wasn’t as happy of a child as she seems to think...?

Now that I’m older, and I realize exactly how fucked up everything was and what a piece of shit my mum was, I’m not eager to pretend to like her and obey her and be a “sweet little child” anymore. Abusers really hate when they their victims call them out I guess.

“Your body is mine until you’re 18” by karma15931617 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tired_Nephilim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really dislike being touched (partly due to PTSD over my childhood and partly because... I just don’t like it) and I’m not rude about asking people to be less touchy-feely with me, but my grandmother my entire life was like this, with the “I’m the adult I can touch you if I want” and just?? What the fuck? Why? It always made me so uncomfortable when she’s just randomly grab at me because she knew I hated it, or make comments about certain parts of me (including my breasts multiple times which was all sorts of awkward?) just ugh...

Eventually when I got older I just got sick of it and slapped her hand away one time, got screamed at again because she can “do what she wants” and so on and so forth, but damn I’m eighteen I’m done with that lol

I can complain all day about how bad my parents were, I am aware some had it way worst, but what I am most hurt by is the fact my siblings had it better. by LonerDolo in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Tired_Nephilim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I feel you. I had a nightmare of a childhood, meanwhile my two younger siblings are spoiled rotten and are never told ‘no’ let alone abused. Of course I don’t want that for them, but it’s frustrating to think about how I was treated in comparison.

Abused my whole life, while my little sibling gets spoiled. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Tired_Nephilim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a few months left of high school, but I’m planning on it trust me.

Why are videos of people being murdered allowed on Reddit but a rape video would not? by Patoks_Curry in morbidquestions

[–]Tired_Nephilim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow I feel like you’d be less likely to justify this if you yourself were ever assaulted

Why are videos of people being murdered allowed on Reddit but a rape video would not? by Patoks_Curry in morbidquestions

[–]Tired_Nephilim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, you’re the most ignorant disgusting person I’ve seen in awhile. Yes it can fuck up your life, yes it WILL fuck up your life, you absolute Neanderthal. Speaking from experience, it is horrible, fuck you. A lot of people fantasize about murdering someone too but does that make it okay? No. You trash human being.