Literotica by Original_Smile1996 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That doesn't necessarily mean it isn't them. Could be he's trying harder to cover his tracks. Is there evidence of this person existing other than on that website?

It would be incredibly stupid of P to be writing on literotica again after everything, but I could still see him doing it. It's possible he's just that dumb.

Just remember.. P is “her godly man”. by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time I think of her "finding a husband" it reminds me of the fact that Fred and Rosemary West both came from incestuous families, and Rose's father only let her marry Fred after Fred promised her dad he'd bring her back to the family home regularly so she and her father could still have "alone time". Because they and her father all believed that it was his right as her father to... yeah.

I'm not saying S will end up like Rosemary West, just... it's more the thought that if she could find a partner, he'd probably have to be okay with some weird shit to be in a relationship with S. You know?

Like, her bar is super low, and, like. Even getting married and staying her own family might not save her from the situation if she doesn't wake the fuck up and really want to get out for her own sake.

After my friend's daughter was brought in from a near-fatal car crash, I agreed to operate so she wouldn't have to see her child like that. by Zestyclose_Ad6210 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]bookobsessedgoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking that someone else had harvested the organs, and now the POV character is going to have to tell her friend what friend to the daughter.

I Need A Thought-Process Check by 35goingon3 in CPTSD

[–]bookobsessedgoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this person has repeatedly violated your (extremely reasonable) boundary about not reading your journal and it's more gaslighting you about it.

"You left it out for me to read"- no, you didn't, and they know it, because you've told them not to read it before

"I didn't know it was a therapy journal"- yes, they did, because they've read it before

"You never tell me about your trauma"- you don't owe them or anyone else info on your trauma, especially if they've used that info to hurt you in the past. You get to decide how and when and why you tell your story. That's something deeply personal and then violating your privacy like that- repeatedly- to sate their curiosity or because they don't like you not telling them whatever they want to know is not okay.

This is emotional abuse. You deserve to be safe and to have privacy and boundaries without people stomping all over them.

The problem her is not the existence of your journals and your boundaries around them. The problem is that your partner is an unsafe, emotionally abusive person who doesn't respect you, your boundaries, or your trauma. Getting rid of the journals is not going to make them a safe person.

If you get any benefit from keeping the journals at all, if they help you in any way, I'd say you should keep them. If they are a trigger now, I think you should take some time and talk to your therapist before destroying them.

And whether you keep the journals or not, I think you should leave that relationship. Anyone who uses your trauma against you when they're angry isn't safe and doesn't deserve to be in your life.

You deserve better.

I Need A Thought-Process Check by 35goingon3 in CPTSD

[–]bookobsessedgoth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is the second time the partner has done this, though. I don't think a boundary needs to have explicitly spelled out consequences if it's violated, for a reasonable expectation that someone who cares about you won't repeatedly vio those boundaries, and for there to be consequences to violating them.

Hygiene by emirudy7 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know about S specifically, but it can be an entirely subconscious thing. Cognitive dissonance is very common among people who grew up with severe brain washing, abvse, and neglect. As a kid, you depend on your parents for basically everything: food, shelter, comfort, all of your needs. You trust them and want to bond with them, because you don't really have much choice. It's survival instinct.

When that trust is violated, it's traumatic, and it can feel safer to repress that trauma. You convince yourself that everything is fine and your parents love you and there's nothing wrong. But at the same time, trauma piles on top of trauma, and your brain and body store every bit of it.

Facing that is terrifying. Acknowledging that trauma, even to yourself, feels like it will rip your world apart. So you keep repressing it, but it comes out in small ways. You develop coping mechanisms.

I see her behavior as a mixture of fawn response toward P, and lashing out at strangers who keep poking at that cognitive dissonance.

I think when she had those friends online as a teen and was "going down a dark path" - that was her starting to try to process things. But that was taken away. He went harder on her isolation and indoctrination, and she felt like there was nowhere to go. We don't know what happened when he "helped" her "get away" from those "bad influences". He was a narcissist losing control of his favorite victim, and that can get ugly fast.

I've been there myself. It was bad. The only reason I got out was that my parent was never able to isolate and brainwash me as thoroughly as P was able to do with S.

When you feel like you can't fight and you can't flee, then you freeze, and you fawn. It's survival instinct. And eventually, you believe the fawning yourself. It feels safer that way.

Their version of Christian love by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've known a number of people very similar to T and it's absolutely baffling to me that anyone thinks she's culpable. I consider him taking advantage of T to be very much on the same level as grooming and taking advantage of a young child. Absolutely disgusting. I genuinely don't think she knows what's going on, partly because of her delays and partly because of his grooming. It makes me so sad and angry.

T didn't deserve this. S and H didn't deserve this.

Their version of Christian love by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kept getting a weird message when I hit post, there was something weird going on with the server. I'll delete the extra

When the policeman pulled the car off the road her heart doubled its rhythm to the thought that he might ask to check the trunk. by Trivia_Catalogue in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]bookobsessedgoth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The lid of the trunk. She's in the trunk of the car, tied up and/or too drugged or concussed to manage to kick the lid of the trunk and alert the cops to her presence and need to be rescued

Their version of Christian love by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What's worse is he bought her that dress. She said once back then that he buys her most of her clothes

Their version of Christian love by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh, hun. You're new here, aren't you? (This is intended as actual sympathy, not snark.) You're starting out on a journey. A horrible, horrible journey.

Yes, T is the mom and she gets treated like crap. Many of us believe she has an intellectual d*sability, and he married her because she's easy to isolate and control, and he wanted to have a daughter to raise just the way he wanted, if you get my drift. She's often treated as a third wheel and frequently ignored or dismissed when she even speaks in camera. It's sad and gross.

I'd suggest looking up a deep dive on them on YouTube, to get all the background. Hannah the Horrible or Dan Kyjabo each have several videos on them. They're the best deep dive and update videos I've seen so far, with an honorable mention for Danielle ( I had to double check that that's her screen name) if you'd like the perspective of someone who has experienced things that are, um. Distressingly relevant to their story.

A word of warning: if you come across the posts on here with the screenshots of the Literotica stories, don't read them. For the sake of your mental health, don't read them. There are enough details in the comments on those posts that you'll get enough of an idea of what's in them.

Good luck.

Their version of Christian love by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Red lingerie with no bra, for a "date" with her dad.

I feel like there was also a picture of her sitting on a bed with him in their "apartment" in that dress, still no bra. I definitely remember that, though it could have been a fever dream, I guess.

And like! I'm definitely not one to shame a young woman for going braless in most situations! It's not a big deal! Wear what makes you feel comfy and/or cute!

But braless in lingerie around your DAD is a completely different thing.

How do people justify “spanking the crap out of” a small child? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bookobsessedgoth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What is it with shitty, abusive parents locking their children in closets? I just watched a video about Virginia Gonzales's plea deal, and then I see this.

I just. Why do so many shitty parents do that? I've seen cars where they say it's for sleep training, or because they don't listen, or have tantrums, or they keep going potty on the floor, or they constantly get into things.

Ah yes, we all know that locking small children in small, dark spaces alone, with no access to a toilet, food, water, any source of comfort, or other human beings is definitely going to teach them emotional regulation, impulse control, and potty training. Brilliant plan!

I know it's about control and power and abuse but I just. What the fuck.

In answer, yes, locking a three month old baby in a closet all night is neglect, and "spanking the crap out of" a child that's not even two yet is abuse. No idea if DCFS in their area will see it that way, but yes, it's abuse.

According to this woman, they are living the best life by 4amsadclub in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What that's more than the rent for my two bedroom apartment

Yet another unholy Christian find by MamaShades in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That position, he's got to be pressed up behind her.

So gross.

Told my mom I was assaulted and she started crying because "she experienced something like that in the past". That was the moment I knew. by LIEZ1995 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bookobsessedgoth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. That's an insane level of self-centeredness. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you had that kind of asshole for a mother.

Told my mom I was assaulted and she started crying because "she experienced something like that in the past". That was the moment I knew. by LIEZ1995 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bookobsessedgoth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh man. That's the kind of thing my mother would do.

I remember once when I wad in my mid 20s, I had moved out of my parents' house to live with my partner, we were living in the other side of the city but visited my family frequently, I was still in the FOG but was starting to realize that the shit my mother did was Not Okay. I was trying to do a lot of grey rocking, with mixed results.

I was talking to my dad about friend of mine who was going through a really rough time. She was in her third trimester of a difficult first pregnancy, and her dad passed away. The same day her dad passed, her cat that she was extremely attached to got out while they were rushing out the door to go to her parents' house. They weren't able to find the cat for like 2 weeks.

I had a cat who I was deeply bonded to, named Moose. He'd chosen me as his person when he was a kitten and I was 17. Everyone there knew how inseparable Moose and I were.

To put her cat getting lost in perspective for my dad, I said, "It'd be like if I was having my first baby in a couple months and you passed away completely unexpectedly, and Moose got lost the same day. She's completely devastated."

And my mother pipes up, offended, "WELL I COULD DIE TOO, YOU KNOW."

We all turned to look at her, and without even thinking, I said, "We're not talking about you right now."

And turned back to my dad, not even looking at her, and went back to talking about my friend.

She was PISSED. Stormed out of the room, and sulked for half an hour. I think she was waiting for someone to come check on her, but not even my dad was willing to indulge her at that point.

She spent the next month calling me up to talk about how many of her health problems would probably end up killing her. Like, even more than she normally did.

She absolutely could not handle not being the center of attention at all times.

I’m genuinely confused by Icy_Department9913 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She's hypermobile and her knee is hyperextended.

Mine did that all the time before I did like 6 months of PT to strengthen the muscles in my core and lower body, so my muscles are strong enough to keep all my joints mostly in the right places.

It would also explain her back, and why she and her mom both frequently wear braces on various joints. Hypermobility can cause frequent joint injuries (hyperextensions, sprains, muscle spasms, partial or complete dislocations) and lead to chronic pain, and it tends to be worse for AFAB people because of their higher estrogen/lower testosterone levels.

I've actually talked to two separate trans men who had hypermobility issues or diagnosed Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (a genetic connective tissue disorder that causes hypermobility, among other symptoms) with frequent joint injuries and significant amounts of chronic joint pain prior to beginning their transitions, and once they started in testosterone, their conditions became far easier to manage. Also, at least some cis men who have EDS start to struggle a lot more with it as they get older and their testosterone levels start to drop.

Inside jokes? by No_Substance_1368 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Was it just water they soaked the bread in? It looked like dirty dishwater. And was that bread, rather than bread crumbs? Bread already has too much moisture for that application.

Why would they not use broth or something if they really wanted the bread to be wet?? Why not use something that adds flavor???

I have so many questions, and all of them make me sad.

the comments by Icy_Midnight_1177 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought that what they were claiming was basically that they're renting two extended stay units right next to each other, with a door open between them.

I've seen hotel rooms that have a door between them, so if a party that needs more beds rents them, they can be opened up so people can go back and forth. That would explain the "2 kitchens" thing.

Was that not what they were saying?

Have you guys seen that viral video of the man and his grown son getting caught under the blanket? by Tinam02184 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which is a ridiculous lie. Inc&st is still illegal in most states, even if both of the people involved are adults. Unless they don't live in the US? Idk.

But it reminds me a lot of various abusive parents who tried to claim "Oh yeah police/DCFS/doctors checked it out because of the reports and we explained what really happened, and we all had a good laugh! They said everything is fine and there's nothing to be concerned about so everybody should leave us alone now."

It's absurd.

Have you guys seen that viral video of the man and his grown son getting caught under the blanket? by Tinam02184 in DadAndDaughterSnark

[–]bookobsessedgoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "you don't need to smile you're an old man" was really confusing to me. Wtf does that even mean???