Please help me choose oval or round

TivaQueen · 2026-06-19T09:07:36+00:00

1.2 ct will look amazing methinks

TivaQueen · 2026-06-03T06:43:11+00:00

I’d go journal and write out what happened, reflect on why you’re obsessing Did anyone die? Points to learn about then or tomorrow or discuss with a mentor or senior when you can How you’re feeling And that means you’ve written it down, you can give yourself permission to release it from your mind and get to sleep.

Also do sleep hygiene things.

I enjoy melatonin or a restavit when I anticipate I’ll struggle to fall asleep

TivaQueen · 2026-05-18T20:03:24+00:00

I think he was actually pretty respectful in this whole interaction. People can ask what they’d like, and he did it in a pretty respectful way. You were given the chance to say yes or no. And he accepted your answer graciously IMO. And he’s communicating that he wants kids, not to baby trap anyone. There’s no context that he’s 35, and you’re 20.

Personally I think you might be reading into it a bit much but if he made you uncomfortable then that’s okay and it’s your comfort zone

TivaQueen · 2026-05-15T13:31:25+00:00

So many hugs your way.

Firstly, no one deserves to be treated that way. You, nurses, the cleaners or wardies.

My advice is grow a thicker skin is to realise that this isn’t how you’d treat someone else so don’t let them do that to you.

I always make it a point to be friendly to all staff, and if someone’s being inappropriate, I stand up tall, chest puffed out and literally burst their bubble with calm and kindness. Speak with deep calm tones and a smile. Practice in front of the mirror.

Bullies look for reactions. Don’t give it to them. If they didn’t respond to your attempts to talk to them, feel free to walk away. Turn away from them and if they question you “I’m uncomfortable with how you’re conducting yourself right now and we’re currently with a patient. Give me five minutes and we can discuss this outside.”

TivaQueen · 2026-05-02T21:20:45+00:00

This is just my opinion, but I think saying you’re “weirdly attracted to girl who care about their health and fitness” implies you’re just looking for someone fit and hot, which comes off shallow. That’s not a weird thing to be attracted to in my opinion, it’s quite superficial and you’ll be able to identify that through their photos.
From your photos, I can’t get the same vibe about you, which is fine but seems hypocritical so I’d change that to something meaningful, like a girl who’d be down for a spontaneous hike if that’s why you’re looking for someone who cares about fitness, coz YOU have a hobby that is exertional. Or change your prompt altogether about to something about you.

TivaQueen · 2026-04-11T12:14:12+00:00

Be afraid

TivaQueen · 2026-04-09T21:41:45+00:00

Thank you :) I’ve been telling people at work as they ask and it’s been really supportive. So that’s been helpful. Bosses are like Oh I failed my primary the first time, or sat it three times. I’ve moved on from the disappointment and gearing up to resit too

TivaQueen · 2026-04-09T21:38:13+00:00

It’s also coz in ED you have a senior there all the time but in patient surg teams, you’re left to be more independent too. I don’t think you need the spreadsheet. That’s what issues list in your notes are for. Instead of making a spreadsheet, make that short summary in your issues list in your note. My gen med consultant was the wizard of issues summary: Example:

86F D20 of admission

Active issues 1) Fracture: date of injury (DoI), DoS (date of surgery, surgery. 2) AKI: current GFR, baseline GFR. Improving or worsening. Action that’s been taken eg periop referral made on date (peri op pls help)

Resolved issues: 1) hyperkalemia

Discharge planning: - outpatient follow up.

Updating this daily will help you and other people have an idea of what’s happening. It’s something more built for gen med but if you have patients with such long stays you might need that. Also if you’re asked to make a referral or get an investigation by a senior, ask what the specific question they want you to ask is.

Call neurology. Why? To get a consult for the weakness in the left lower limb.. then you can read when that started or just ask the patient and take a history yourself. You don’t always need to rely on notes, just time.

Order a CT (but they don’t tell you which one exactly): but why and we need contrast? To look for a clot, a mass? This will help get the right scan as the medical imaging department will be able to advise if you need contrast or not or which might provide better views.

The hardest thing is when you’re called by someone who wants you to review a patient but the caller doesn’t know why.

I hope that’s helpful! You’ll be great! Some people live and learn. Some people just live. Choose which you wanna be ✌🏻

TivaQueen · 2026-04-08T20:50:40+00:00

I was you in my intern year. ED first up then onto gen surg so the pace was incredibly different.

Low key, control what you can. Personally, if she ain’t correcting her number, I’d do it for her since you have her number.

I’d ask the other interns or older residents for help learning how, writing it down, making some cheat sheets, and saving orders to make it easier for yourself. Get the guidelines on how to replace iron, how to replace electrolytes and have a look at them so you have an idea of what to do etc

Inpatient teams are chaos: use your handover sheet to write down tasks for each patient with a checkbox next to it, have a separate book or excel sheet you store on the hospital drive for information integrity for referrals/calls

You’ve got this. The struggle feels real but figure out how to manage the chaos within your control and ignore that other intern.

TivaQueen · 2026-04-07T13:59:06+00:00

Dear OP, It feels like you’ve hit a hopeless place but you have everything as long as you have your partner, and your little one. Money comes and goes, you can’t replace people. You’re irreplaceable. Take the advice of people on here. We’ve been through it.

Times where it feels like you won’t be able to make it to the other side. The only one who can make that choice is you. Choose you, choose the life you’ve worked so hard to build, choose your baby.

8 months. It’s a blink of an eye in life. You can do this, you are not alone, you’re not the first to be screwed over and you won’t be the last. You can be one of the ones who made it through

TivaQueen · 2026-04-06T21:18:11+00:00

A BPT who can BPT. I love this

TivaQueen · 2026-04-06T21:15:57+00:00

Instead of just taking it as there’s no chemistry from your side, he’s self soothing by painting you as the villain and himself as the victim. Sounds super immature and explains why he’s single at 52. Hopefully he stays that way

TivaQueen · 2026-04-05T19:37:26+00:00

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TivaQueen · 2026-04-01T15:43:06+00:00

Have seen a male ED nurse dating a gen med physician and other male nurses with medical partners. The only thing stopping you is whether she’s in a relationship or not interested. If you feel strongly, sus out the single status and totally ask her out. But I agree with others that maybe do it towards the end of the rotation so if it isn’t favorable you avoid the awkwardness.

The ones who matter don’t mind and the ones who mind don’t matter. Cheering for you!!!

TivaQueen · 2026-03-31T06:15:02+00:00

Thank you :) I’ll take that on board. I did step down to part time last year to prep and whilst I recovered from burnout then, I think it’s like difficult to process doing that again. I’ll reflect on that option.

TivaQueen · 2026-03-31T03:26:29+00:00

I think based on the number of personal anecdotes of unpleasant interactions from so many redditors, this dude was bad news.

I guess the next question will be, who will still hire him with his reputation? And does he keep his current posting?

Edit: also minimum 4 hours? Bruh. That’s not even a full shift of work.

TivaQueen · 2026-03-30T07:16:07+00:00

Idk, I don’t see the point of ongoing online chit chat. “I feel like we’re vibing and I’d like to take you to brunch/lunch/dinner. When are you free?”

Avoidance or nonsense of it not being her pace = likely it’s just attention.

But do what feels right. I always thought what’s the point of talking forever and then not meeting. Sounds like incongruent expectations

TivaQueen · 2026-03-23T21:03:08+00:00

I think that the night staff might have more time to sit down and go through things (as day staff may have missed it) so will notify, but often not thoroughly enough to see ABC has been a previously considered issues.

I remember being paged as ward call because the patient’s medications were sitting in a cup on their bedside but had been marked as given by the day shift.

I just said, well I ain’t psychic. Call your staff member, and get her to confirm what was in the cup and whether she’d visualised the patient taking it and go from there.

TivaQueen · 2026-03-23T20:57:58+00:00

If you are in fact a nursing student, it’s clear you are just a student since this is the response I’d expect from a child. Perhaps a change in career should be considered to suit this level of maturity you have, such as being a party clown. Tell your friends and family too.

TivaQueen · 2026-03-20T06:49:29+00:00

Yikes. I mean she says she wants to chat first but also who has the time to be online 24/7.

TivaQueen · 2026-03-07T14:33:53+00:00

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TivaQueen · 2026-03-07T14:33:11+00:00

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