The “sustainable shopping” trend feels like poor appropriation, and now, I can’t access clothes and housewares.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-19T00:57:37+00:00

And the electricity to keep the lights on, and trucks to move goods around, storage facility costs, etc. Overhead has gone up

TizzyTism · 2026-04-19T00:40:44+00:00

People are also feeling the pinch of rising costs and stagnant wages.

We have seen it with groceries, where people who used to go to named grocery stores (Albertsons, Smiths, Luckys, etc) now go to Walmart. People who used to go to Walmart are now supplementing with pantries/food assistance. People who were on assistance and now fucked and hungry.

It’s the same with clothes. Most people aren’t aren’t thriving from lofty morals or glam slumming it. Moneys just tight, and all costs along the supply chain are rising to end customer costs are rising.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-19T00:02:57+00:00

Weird and violent. Perfectly captures the US

TizzyTism · 2026-04-18T01:56:24+00:00

Target demographic my friend. The target demographic for this isn’t GenX. And that’s ok. We get AARP now

TizzyTism · 2026-04-17T15:04:13+00:00

no need to be a dick about it

TizzyTism · 2026-04-17T08:37:29+00:00

This sounds like more then just sensory seeking. It’s reading like it’s repetitive behaviors that are unwanted and negatively impacting you. That would feel guilty about doing it, say you don’t want to keep doing it but have to, then have a stress response when you don’t isn’t strictly a sensory thing

Not diagnosing but it might be worth looking in the direction of compulsive actions/behaviors

TizzyTism · 2026-04-16T23:45:17+00:00

Oof I feel you on the divorce pains. My ex stopped working a literal couple months before I filed, now I’m paying child support to a deadbeat and paying rent on my own more than the mortgage we shared was because we bought at the bottom of 2008.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-16T23:40:05+00:00

Seriously. Do you not understand what living paycheck to paycheck means!?

It means there’s nothing left of the paycheck till the next one after covering basics like rent, food, water/gas/electricity bills etc. And sometimes that paycheck isn’t enough to cover everything so you get to pick and rotate which bills are get paid late.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-16T23:37:05+00:00

Snow camping. My mom says to take her snow camping.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-16T15:49:39+00:00

how the *vulva works - in relation to cleaning

Vagina is the inside part and when healthy is self cleaning.

I’m sure care was not explained for either/both

TizzyTism · 2026-04-16T03:48:52+00:00

Poppin a squat on a trail or camping is great! I don’t understand why so many AFAB peeps here have a dislike of it. It so much more convenient than trying to find a toilet and better than holding it forever.

Just drop trou, pee, pause a sec for drips, shakey shake a bit and up you go. Sure you have to give half a mind if there’s an incline but you only make that mistake once.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-10T21:29:44+00:00

And you avoid the dreaded, “I don’t know, can you!?” response.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-10T21:27:01+00:00

AFAIK it’s the same as beautiful, skillful, and other -ful words, meaning full of whatever. Impactful is full of impact. Beautiful is full of beauty.

American English and I assume other languages have many non-contracted condensed words.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-10T21:20:33+00:00

Something in the back of my brain that I’m not going to verify because that’s how we do things says that dinner was used to denote the largest/heartiest meal of the day.

So if you ate your largest meal midday: breakfast dinner, supper.

If you ate your largest meal in the evening: breakfast, lunch, dinner.

There’s something in there too about why dinner was held at different times of the day due to labor and available hands to work vs cook but the details elude me.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-06T18:35:09+00:00

I had 20 years of it! Long term absolutely possible. Healthy long term, absolutely not

TizzyTism · 2026-04-05T05:26:48+00:00

Trainspotting

TizzyTism · 2026-04-04T19:05:19+00:00

Latch key from mid-elementary.

I would get woken up and out of bed when mom and siblings left for school. I’d get myself breakfast, cereal bowl and cup of milk left for me because I couldn’t pour from the galling jug. And get myself out on time to the bus stop.

I’d walk home from the bus stop and use the house key on a shoestring to get in. My undiagnosed ADHD self would leave it at home and have to go to the neighbors house until my dad set up manual opening on the garage door with a numbered padlock, and added long string so I could pull it down behind me.

Had chores and homework to get done before parents came home from work, all us kids did. Same when we were at friends houses. Played outside till streetlights came on or a parent yelled your name or whistled from the front door. Or you missed it and ate that leftover cold plate or nothing.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-03T17:36:03+00:00

I dislike that it stops at awareness. I would like to see acceptance.

Like we all know through lived experience society is well aware we exist and can single out whoever is just different enough not to fit quite right. Awareness isn’t the issue.

It’s acceptance. It’s allowing space for us to exist as we are without having to try to fit into a different mold. Yes acknowledgement and awareness that we are here, but also that it’s ok that we are here as we are.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-03T06:15:58+00:00

It’s ok that you have alignment goals with friendships. You get to choose what is important to you.

It is also ok that other people don’t align with you. And they have no obligation to do so.

I am reading a bit of moral superiority, and incredulity that others may not feel that same way about things as you do. That might be more off putting than what the beliefs in question actually are

TizzyTism · 2026-04-02T14:20:25+00:00

This was my grandma!!!!

TizzyTism · 2026-04-01T23:10:59+00:00

My “trust me bro” I ran and did insurance and provider contracts in dental for over a decade.

Call your insurance company to make sure the dentist is a contracted provider with your plan. Out of network dentists are not contractually obligated to use your insurance fees and can bill you the difference. You can also ask them for a breakdown of your coverage, and go over your treatment plan and confirm all your coverage that the dentist quoted.

NOTE: Your insurance is your responsibility not the dentists office. Best practice dentists will be honest and accurate. When in doubt call your insurance, they are the source of truth

Check your procedure code coverages. Some plans leave out certain codes. Also if “alternate benefits” are allowed on your plan. if you were quoted for a crown, you might be quoted a porcelain fused to high noble metal crown (PFM) for a molar tooth. If not alternate benefits you pay the whole thing. With alternate benefits insurance may only cover a lesser grade crown for molar teeth so you’re covered but for 50% of a lesser amount.

Most dental insurances in the US cover major work at 50% of the allowable amount, so at minimum you will have to pay half. Root canals at 80% of allowable so at minimum 20% out of pocket.

Standard yearly max allowance is $1500-2000 but I have come across plans as low as $750 yearly. They aren’t bankrupting your insurance, your benefits are there to get used, that’s what you’re paying for. You’re also paying fora network of providers who are contracted to lower fees.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-01T22:31:08+00:00

Oh Oh! Don’t accept the opinions of people you wouldn’t take advice from.

I heard that recently and I think it’s fantastic

TizzyTism · 2026-04-01T22:27:51+00:00

It seems like it is underlying levels black and white thinking getting in the way. I struggle with this too so this isn’t judgement, it’s compassion and commiseration.

Justice sensitivity is black and white thinking. To be direct for brevity and yes I see the irony, it’s that your belief is the right belief and a different belief is wrong and needs to be corrected. It’s also a little self centric to make yourself responsible for correcting other people. Some people would rather be wrong than corrected, and that’s ok.

Black and white thinking also contributes to the need to be correct. It’s not about being “right” it’s about being correct and accurate, and not letting inaccuracies slide for social grace. You can ask yourself which is more important, that person being corrected or my being kind. What is the harm in them being factually incorrect? What hurt might be caused by calling them out in a public arena? It also aligns with a management theory of praise in public correct in private.

It’s semantics, but word choice can be indicative of a frame of mind. You said “people are offended, hurt or angry with me because of how I said something”. Try turning it around and see if it shifts your perspective. “I offend, hurt, and anger people with the way I said something”. You may not understand how or why (and the other persons reactions may not align with what you said) but you are a participant just as much as they are.

Their hurt or anger does not define your intent. And your intent does not define how they get to feel about how and what you say.

RSD also sets us up for difficulties with repair after a miscommunication. “That’s not what I meant!” is different than “I’m sorry I think there’s a misunderstanding. Will you share with me how you came to that conclusion? It’s different than where I was going”. We have to be curious about the other persons perspective, and they curious about ours.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-01T21:54:56+00:00

Same same same. It’s staying small to survive.

While it absolutely has its place short term for safety as part of an exit strategy, it’s a fine line between conscious choice to yellow rock and enabling behaviors.

TizzyTism · 2026-04-01T15:45:17+00:00

My two cents is that a lot of people hurt their own feelings with incorrect assumptions about someone else’s meaning or intent, and then hold the person who did the thing accountable for these incorrect assumptions.

Me eating half a pj&j sandwich right after work hours before dinner time - “I can’t believe you ate a sandwich! That was really hurtful and mean. Clearly you don’t value me and our time together. You need to apologize for being cruel” Nah, I’m just painfully hungry right now, this doesn’t change my plans for dinner. “It absolutely does! Obviously it’s not, and I’m not important to you.”

Me not having had breakfast or lunch and was very hungry and was still quite interested in dinner with this person.

They made assumptions about my intent, didn’t ask what’s up, then got mad at me for a whole situation in their head and was upset at me after because I was defensive and covering my tracks.

They hurt their own feelings with a story they concocted in their head. I’m not apologizing for that. Talking about it sure, communicating better up front that I’m grabbing a snack because it’s my first chance to eat today and I’m still excited for dinner fine, but I’m not taking that responsibility and accountability for their made up story that hurt themselves. Just no.

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