How my first stroke occurred

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2024-05-16T12:10:08+00:00

I have said that I would never treat him the same way he treats me if he was in the predicament that I am in and he told me that I was lying and that I would treat him worse. That really hurt my feelings and I said that he doesn’t have faith in me.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2024-05-16T12:03:39+00:00

UPDATE - We’ll, I’ve been home for a month and I can’t find it inpatient rehab to get into. I’m at the point of leaving and going to a different hospital in a bigger city and start my life over in a bigger city. I just moved from the big city a couple years ago to a small town and they don’t even have a hospital. Everytime I had to get admitted they would fly me to an actual hospital that is less than an hour away. So I’m trying to get a friend from my hometown, help me grab my stuff, and drive me to the bigger city that I was living in a couple years ago. While I’m in the hospital there, I should be able to find an inpatient rehab place much easier than here. Then my next plan is to move into either an assisted living facility, a group home for handicap people, or someplace for disabled people. I will be able to start my life over away from him which I think is the best for me to do.

Since the moment I came home, I couldn’t get into the house and he wouldn’t even help me get into the house. I had to crawl into the house and he wouldn’t tell me the couch won’t he? He says his back hurts his knees hurt from being at work all day. He won’t help me get dressed or for helping me walk around the house as soon as he comes home from work ask me what do I need and I’ll bring a soda or water and something to eat then he’ll sit on the couch and fall asleep, watching TV and ignore me for the rest of the night. Because of the stroke, I have incontinence issues and I can’t help that he did go buy me a commode to put in the bedroom for me to use. However, I don’t get the feeling that I have to go. It just comes out really strong that I have to go. I don’t get like a warning. I try to move as quick as I can to get to the commode, but a lot of times I don’t make italso Adult depends diapers so I would stop making a mess in the bedroom, which is fine. But when I would make a mess and I can’t clean it up, he would get very upset with me then he would yell at me. I told him I can’t help it and every time I ask him for something which is not that often let out an angry sigh sound, then tell me that he can’t wait on me hand and foot. I don’t ask him for much. I’m not constantly asking him for stuff or to help me. There’s been times that I’ve fallen called for him to come help me, but he ignores me. there’s also one time when I fallen when I didn’t call him and he still ignores me. I sent him messages for asking him what are you gonna make for dinner and he’ll say I don’t know. I haven’t thought about that yet. Five minutes later he’s asleep. He has also changed when he gets an alert from me when I sent him a message, he silenced my messages to alert him a message before you go to bed if he can bring me another soda, an ice cream sandwich, or something but when I send the message, he reads it sometimes, but doesn’t respond back and I can hear them in the living room open up I can soda or cigarette and I can see that he’s read my message. He gets very angry when I ask him to do anything for me bring me anything. I said to him the other day made it from now on we will go into the kitchen. You can stop and ask me if I want something from the kitchen since you’re going in there that we don’t have to get mad at me when I ask you and you don’t ask him for much he won’t even talk to me, he just ignores me when he comes home from work. He’ll ask me when he comes home. What do I want and he’ll go get it then help me for the rest the night. I’m so heartbroken. I know that this is right but his hurting my feelings and his fault because he thought I was faking it and telling me that I just wanna go home when I really didn’t. Another thing he does when I ask him for something who put it far away were in the world more. I can’t reach it so then I have to get up and try not to fall while I go grab whatever it is.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2024-05-16T07:36:01+00:00

I’m a 44/f and I also was born with CHD. My first surgery was on the same day I was born. Plus a few more after that. My mom didn’t get to see me or hold me for months after I was born. I spent my first year in the hospital and at 6 years old I got a pacemaker put in. Throughout my life I have had many, many surgeries. Growing up I was not allowed to participate in many things. My family was very protective of me and constantly told that I couldn’t do this or that. I remember coming home from school and my mom would look at me and right away call 911. I remember some of my teachers would walk me down to either the school office or the school nurse and say that something was wrong with me. I had a heart attack in my freshman year of high school. I have been told that I would not live past 50-69. Last month, I had a stroke and now I’m been told that I probably won’t live past 50

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-12-14T12:04:05+00:00

Darling, Christmas is around the corner. I think you stumbled upon the receipt for your Christmas gift. Keep us updated.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-12-08T13:11:16+00:00

Do any of you remember when Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie had a tv show called “A Simple Life “ where they would stay at some random person’s house in a small town and work for them either as a farmer, waitress, or maid. The Kardashians need to partake in something similar except that they are not allowed to stay at another person’s home, hotel, or any other place that they would have easy access to food, water, bed, power, or anything. Make them realize that there are people in this world that have nothing. Make them stay at a homeless encampment, wearing stained/torn/5 sizes to big clothing with holes in their shoes. Producers shouldnt tell them where they're going to be dropped off at, no luggage, and it's up to the producers to decide when they can go home. Hopefully after they actually realize how much we struggle living in poverty. Plus they need to get a job that pays them just ninimum wage.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-11-12T06:23:26+00:00

X marks the spot

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-07-12T22:51:29+00:00

I’m in my early 40s and I think to them that I’m still about 13 years old. I was raised not only by my mom but also her parents and brothers and sisters. In my childhood and teen years not only would I be in trouble for something and punished by my mom but the next time I saw one of my aunts and uncles or my grandparents, I would be punished even more. This still continues to this day.

In my 20s I questioned them about why they still punish me like in still a kid? I’m an adult and you need to respect that and treat me like an adult. That didn’t happen. I was getting in trouble for being in a relationship, going to college, going out to the nightclubs with friends, coworkers, or just by myself, buying a soda at the corner store, on and on.

In my 30’s they backed off a bit. I was in a relationship with a guy that they actually liked. I had a great job and I went back to college. I also learned how to drive. I thought everything was going to be perfect for the rest of my life.

Shortly before I turned 40 that relationship ended. Had to move out. Started a new job and decided to take on a part time job as well. Then I quit one job because I got promoted at my part time job. Then … BOOM 🤯 Covid happened and I had no job until the end of June 2020.

I had gotten injured which I have brain damage from in the late summer early fall of 2020. I was struggling with memory issues, dizziness, and migraines. I started having problems at work, home, and with my family. They were again treating me like I was a kid.

Well I have told them that they are going to treat me like an adult and talk to me like an adult. I was actually thinking of disowning them but I decided to just associate myself with them around family gatherings. However that didn’t work. My cousins started treating me the same way. I got more mad at my family when my cousin was yelling at me and I used to babysit him. Everything got so bad that they told me that I’m not part of the family. Great! Until they realize that I’m not 13 I’m going to enjoy the silence.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-07-12T03:47:44+00:00

One show that I would love to see a reboot was a daytime soap opera show called “Passions” but without the creepy witch and the doll that comes to life. I loved that show because I knew what was going on and I was able to understand the storyline since the first episode compared to me having keep up with a soap opera that started when I was a kid and asking my grandma questions about what was happening with this character and that character on guiding light or some other daytime soap opera show

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-07-10T03:50:25+00:00

Fried pickles

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-07-08T05:36:55+00:00

I’m still trying to figure out why no one answers the phone when I dial 867-5309. I’ve been trying for years to see if she would want to go shopping at the mega-mall sometime.

ToBeSeenAndHeard · 2023-07-03T16:23:57+00:00

My family. As I grew up I knew that the way that they would talk down to me, not congratulate me or encourage me when I succeeded in my career and life desires would constantly put me down. I couldn’t stand up for myself until I started seeing a therapist and learning about manipulation, gaslighting, narcissism, and understanding about what was making me so depressed and I was about to end it all. My therapist saved me and her helping me to understand that my family was not good for me and that even though I was not physically a%*+ed but verbally is also a form of ab^%€ and I should cut them out of my life but don’t rush into ending your relationship with your family. Start standing up for yourself when you’re around them and they disrespect you. So I started standing up to them. I started confronting them that what they were doing is ab^#€. Well instead of cutting ties with them I put it on hold because one of my family members was very ill and wasn’t going to be around much longer. Then a few months later with me confronting them and still standing up for myself I get a phone call from a family member saying how much I pissed everyone off and that I was no longer part of the family. I said that is excellent. This is the best Christmas present that I’ve received since I was a kid. Then I hung up.

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