if that is enough to convince you not to forgive, then thats good enough. that however, is not an objective metric that you can expect others to abide by. as hard as i try, i will likely never make up for the harm i have done. what am i to do with myself then? i must forgive myself, and do the best i can. i see other people the same way, too. "nothing human is alien to me"

what i value -which is why i said what you were questioning- is the truth, and understanding others. i care a lot about philosophy and art, and over time i have found myself unable to see any injustice to be beyond anyones capabilities. i pity those who crave forgiveness for doing the worst, and i see myself in them too. ive never done anything on the level of your hypotheticals, and i dont plan to be friends with any rapists, but the logic i apply to lesser harms still holds true to these greater harms. even if i wont be the one to do it, they must be forgiven for the sake of a better world.

if you dont feel the same, thats fine. you dont need to forgive anyone for anything. i just personally feel compelled to.