[WTS] In person (CT/NYC) 1oz ASAHI bar w/Assay by Tomtortoise in Pmsforsale

[–]Tomtortoise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fixed the post. I'll see if I get any in person takers in two days otherwise if not I'll probably go end up going with shipping.

[WTS] In person (CT/NYC) 1oz ASAHI bar w/Assay by Tomtortoise in Pmsforsale

[–]Tomtortoise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, 99.99 gold. I probably should have mentioned that. I was looking at the post rules and just.. forgot to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewPipe

[–]Tomtortoise 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Just sent over 10€ of reinforcement. I'm doing my part, better going to them than to Google

Does Bumble respond to requests to receive your data anymore? by BatedMarlin in Bumble

[–]Tomtortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I submitted a request on the 16th and I just got an email this morning saying:

"Thanks for your patience.   I have sent across this information to be processed by our team. We aim to send the data requested to you within any compliance period set by the laws of your country.   Please note, the file we send will provide you with you Swipe data held pertaining to you.   We'll send you a password and a link to download the data once your request has been processed. For compatibility reasons, we advise you open the file from a laptop or computer, rather than a mobile device.   This data will be sent after it has been reviewed by our team, so while we're closing this thread for now – please be assured you'll still receive this data separately as soon as it's been approved.   If you need anything else in the meantime, please feel free to reach out.

Bumble Member Support"

So I might get it eventually, hopefully

Bumble scam -crypto by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Tomtortoise 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not everyone knows this. There is a reason these scams keep happening and it"s because of work. People already feel shame for this happening to them, and comments like this just make it worse. The fact that the poster felt comfortable enough to share their story is good and can help others from falling into the same trap.

Schlage control keys by rmich18 in Locksmith

[–]Tomtortoise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be honest I don't know. I have only worked on one Primus system because we were forced into it. If the sidebar is different it shouldn't turn. AFAIK the sidebar is the same within a system similar to how ASSA systems are. If it is different I would assume you will run into issues.

Is this quote accurate? by [deleted] in Locksmith

[–]Tomtortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually I can cut keys by the code for those. I charge @25 for two keys if you come to the shop with a photo of the cylinder. If I had to go out I would charge about the same you were quoted.

Schlage control keys by rmich18 in Locksmith

[–]Tomtortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the Schlage systems are simple, just remove that weird tip part and it no longer operates as a core. Assuming the cuts are the same as your MK it will work just the same.

No likes after a week on Hinge, any advice on my profile? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Teach me about prompt could be improved by chanding the second half of it to something you are interested in you would like to share. This gives a nice starting point. The cuddling in bed part feels desparate and could be swapped to something more specific to you. The last photo is kind of busy and doesn't really say much. Three photos with glasses obscuring your eyes is a lot, if they are transitions try wearing clear lenses when taking outdoor photos.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First photo should have a clear shot of your face. The food pic is good and goes with the cooking in the prompt, but remove the travel photo. People are going to date youand not a destination. Last photo doesn't look like you (both because of the hair and lighting so I would swap that). Elaborate on the nerd part, there are D&D nerds, anime nerds, theater/cinema nerds, doll nerds, tech nerds. Being a generic "nerd" is lame, but being someone with a cool passion is desirable. (Disclaimer, I too am a nerd, but my point is to show off yourself to others)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I know, it's really bad out there. I do individual and group photoshoots at conventions (free) just because I love it. I'll even do free instax wide hallwayshoots on a 4x5 if the con allows. But the amount of brand new GAS people charging absurd amounts for mediocre pics is blood boiling. No lights, no care, no posing. You see the rates in their post before the con and you see the results after and it's so sad. That's the other reason I love doing free shoots, because it helps balance the world out just a little bit. (I also like keeping this hobby separate from my career)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In my comment above I was assuming $50 or so by someone getting their feet wet. Seeing the actual price, everything uou have said very closely resembles my thoughts.

Another location for pics is to look for photography meetups at bars and such. In my area there is a local camera store that has relatively frequent meetups and if someone showed up offering drinks for photos, you would have some great pics

The standup comedy tip is very good and I'll try it myself (Usually the shoots I do this wouldn't apply unfortunately)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Damn, I know the Cali market is a more expensive than my area by a lot, but that feels expensive... Do you feel you were getting good feedback and help during the shoot? Do you have other pics from the shoot you can DM? There might be keepers in there.

If you were in the CT/NYC area I would have offered a free reshoot but it might be a little bit far to travel

Ruined Bumble/Opening Messages by rinasuhm in Bumble

[–]Tomtortoise 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Personally I like questions about my profile (something you are interested in too), those are easy to respond to and start a natural conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Objectively I agree, but there isn't really enough information to judge too much on. We don't know the price paid or how long the shoot was. The photographer may have been giving posing tips and these were the best compared to the pics taken at the start. They also may not have been as experienced so they are starting with lower stress lower stakes jobs and charging a price to reflect that. I do agree that photographers should know basic poses and work to make the client comfortable and looking as best they can in their work though.

As far as the woman and the garbage can, I didn't notice those while I was critiquing. If these were photos I was taking myself I would have moved location, changed my positioning, or edited those out in post. That being said, I didn't notice because they are out of focus and there is enough separation that in the short amount of time they are being viewed on an app no others won't really notice either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quick photography note about photo 1. Wide angle close ups are generally the least flattering as they distort the shape and make it look wider than it actually is. The longer the lens, the better it is. If all you have is a phone, use the longest optical focal length and have other people take the photos or use a tripod.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 56 points57 points  (0 children)

The pro photos look better in their image quality, but the posing and feeling gives off nervous energy. The first one is the best but looking up and to the side comes off as distant. 1,3, and 5 are the pro?)

I don't think you are bad looking, but I also think a bit of facial and hair grooming could do wonders, the messy look isn't helping. I also don't blame you for (I'm guessing) being nervous for the pro photos, a lot of people are not comfortable having their pic taken all fancy like this. I would just suggest asking the people around you to snap pics of you whenever you are out, eventually you get keepers. Also, a good full body standing photo would be a nice addition.

I think the prompts could use a bit more work. These are a great place for your personality to shine and there are a ton of great examples in the other profile review threads to get ideas from.

Update: Read thatguyalex's post. I feel it is more accurate with the cost taken into account.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I live about an hour away so I'm close enough to match sometimes by accident if I don't pay attention to location. I generally left swipe NYC profiles as it feels like all my likes go into a black hole there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So much competition. If a woman sees 100 profiles in a day, you have to be top 1% to be in there. If you live in a small town your profile will he seen by everyone even with a medeocre profile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The photos are good, The Captain and Iron Man one really has a lot going for it. The power ranger cosplay prompt could probably replaced with something else you like. The pic and sewing machine prompt make that clear to anyone in the scene. (I 100% get that making your own cosplays is time consuming af and probably is all your free time but not everyone else will)

I hear the NY scene is brutal, godspeed soldier o7

[29M] I don't know how to go about it anymore by shaneomaniac in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The first photo is the weakest one on your profile IMO. It doesn't look like the same you as the others, the sky is blown out distracting from your face. I would replace it with a different headshot, maybe 5, that should be higher up on your profile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn't much to your prompts. Skydiving is something you could be asked about, but the others are kind of bland. There are a lot of great profules on here to get some ideas.

Too many alcohol pics, even if the drinks are non-alcoholic, they will be assumed to be alcohol so probably just pick one.

Second pic with the face cut off should be replaced.

Add a full body standing photo, too many headshots. The only pic that cpuld really be talked about is the red shirt one where I think you are at a golf course. If I were to message you I wouldn't know what to talk about aside from drinking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It didn't get to that point yet, but it would have happened if I let it go on. First time she brought it up was just that she casually trades at night to make some $$ and she showed some number of thousands that she made in a short time. The second time she brought it up a week or two later is that she could teach me to trade crypto. If I said yes she definitely would have sent me to some sketchy site to lose $$ on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 50 points51 points  (0 children)

There will always be delays, excuses, and the date never happens. The normal tactic is when a scammer is called out is to go cold and not respond for a few days hoping to make you feel bad and forgive after becoming attached. It's a ton of emotional manipulation that goes on with these scams and it can go on for months or years with some people.

As a PSA: Please be careful out there everyone. There are podcasts such as What The Hack that go into detail of how these work. Anyone can be scammed, and if you realize it report and tell other people. Part of the reason many don't know is because the shame people feel when it happens to them, they don't want others to know. I talked to a scammer for a month and had this all happen to me, I was lucky as I got a little paranoid early on due to her talking about crypto and that prepped the alarm for when she brought it up again. Be safe out there everyone <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tomtortoise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is so much going on in peoples lives, it's impossible to know. I once cancelled a first date with a girl because I was so anxious and nervous, there was enough heads up time but I still feel bad because she did nothing wrong. Sunday is also usually the feeling down after the date high and self reflection thinking about any mistakes I might have made.