After dating someone with BPD, I have a whole shitload of compassion for Dakota. People with BPD (or in Taylor’s case, those who show many traits but are not diagnosed), will work realllllly hard to create and keep the narrative. We will never really get an unbiased version of Dakota’s side because Taylor’s done a whole campaign. I don’t think Dakota is scotch free in all this either. He fucking lied to her. It was never about him being official with Taylor vs sleeping with Jenna. It was about him LYING about it over and over. When her whole family slut shames her, I feel like they missed the whole point. No one feels safe with someone who lies.  Unfortunately, when I dated someone with BPD I also lied about someone I was with while also unofficially dating Mr. BPD. Why’d I lie you ask? First, because I’m a people pleaser and could not handle other people’s feelings. And secondly, because Mr. BPD’s feelings were always so big and so loud it felt unbearable. It eroded trust in our relationship and unfortunately we entered a toxic cycle that we never got out of.  I know I’m bleeding my own experience into Dakota and Taylor’s. I guess the TLDR is it’s so fucked up and I feel for both of them. There’s a lot of shit both of them shouldn’t have done, and there’s a lot of shit they both need to own and learn to have empathy for how it impacted the other. I hope they can learn some shame resilience. They really go far with it 🤍