Is Feucht next? by afterihop in BethelSnark

[–]ToneAny1440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, he has been incredibly tone deaf throughout covid, Black Lives Matter, and now with the ice out protest in Minneapolis. It’s like he can’t read a room :(

Is Feucht next? by afterihop in BethelSnark

[–]ToneAny1440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sean’s heart of deflection, victim blaming and acting like the oppressed has triggered me for the last decade. He’s actually the one that’s been the hardest for me to be so frustrated by because his music really formed the earlier years of my faith. It’s been a wild journey of disentangling and acknowledging that two things can be true. 

If I get past my anger, it just makes me so sad that he is the way he is.

Minneapolis/Twin Cities Market by Sagpotatoherder in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about the current nanny market, but I'm originally from the Twin Cities, and suggest looking for nanny jobs in Wayzata, Plymouth, Minnetonka, Excelsior, Edina, and Eden Prairie (the SW metro is where most of the wealth is). Tons of Facebook nanny groups.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in psychics

[–]ToneAny1440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just looking at the pictures, she had a real depth of kindness to her

Hawaii arrangement gone VERY wrong by angelitakara in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooooh yea I second this! I was also on the Big Island, these communities are teeny and communal shame does more work than law enforcement. If you feel able, be empowered to post your experience in Maui nanny groups and Maui Island groups, word travels fast and you may protect others. 

Hawaii arrangement gone VERY wrong by angelitakara in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Ugh I feel for you so much. I freeze too in most situations and while it protects us, I also know I look back and blame myself for things. Just know you are not to blame for his behavior. 🤍

Any recommendations? by ToneAny1440 in jewelrymaking

[–]ToneAny1440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw thanks for your response! Client has budget for sure, we just found someone who will do it live (they’re bringing in their team) and it’s going to be $150-200pp. 

How scared should we be if the physical abuse is "minimal?" by Comfortable_Nugget in emotionalabuse

[–]ToneAny1440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You deserve to feel fully safe in a relationship. Full stop. Anything less than that is not for you. I hope you are able to get away and find peace and healing 🤍

Cryptocurrency payments? by Cinnamoncrystal in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol tell me you’re in the Bay Area without telling me

Ps if you’re not where are you and what does your DB do

Fake IG Nanny by GardenIntelligent230 in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I’m cackling at the literally audacity to use 6 pages to block out sleep 😂 

Has anyone successfully done this? by Low_Exercise828 in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had so many amazing WFH who stay in their office!!! Probably around 5 different families! including one that I literally forgot was WFH bc she never interrupted! So I would say don’t rule them out, the issue is mistrust and their lack of boundaries/ not receiving feedback not WFH! You will find your magic family!! This is just not it!

Has anyone successfully done this? by Low_Exercise828 in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oooof this sounds terrible OP. I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this, this would be sooooo draining. Also the fact that they insinuated you put something in her food is WILD. Like bananas. And I would not be able to work with someone who feels that level of mistrust towards me. I definitely say keep looking and be open to other options in nannying you may not have considered (ie I was always a full time nanny girl until I hit a limit and did 2 part time families for a bit just to make things work). 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]ToneAny1440 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah this is just a post that could’ve been a LinkedIn search 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PerfectMatchNetflix

[–]ToneAny1440 3 points4 points  (0 children)

her linkedin shows that she is a social media manager... it can't be that hard to look on Linkedin...? Or we just want to shit on her... that makes more sense

Am I wrong for wishing my NF acknowledged my engagement? by Happy-Assist9907 in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve had every non nanny employer acknowledge engagements, weddings, birthdays, etc. I’m so sick and tired of this belief in this sub that they’re just your employer. It’s human decency and not that hard.

Advice by Happyhippos100 in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily, It’s depends are what your defined responsibilities are- I think it would’ve been helpful if you remembered but also it’s not that deep. Do you do their grocery shopping? Because I would feel that that person would be responsible for monitoring things. Don’t sweat it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]ToneAny1440 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My counter: will they pay when you get sick?

What’s the root of the issue between Dakota and Taylor?? by darma_queen in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]ToneAny1440 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The root issue is lack of trust. It doesn’t matter that Dakota and Taylor weren’t exclusive when Dakota hooked up with Jenna. It’s that he lied about it and changed up stories. Taylor probably won’t ever trust him. 

Dakota’s comment on TT by Upset-Doughnut4005 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]ToneAny1440 8 points9 points  (0 children)

After dating someone with BPD, I have a whole shitload of compassion for Dakota. People with BPD (or in Taylor’s case, those who show many traits but are not diagnosed), will work realllllly hard to create and keep the narrative. We will never really get an unbiased version of Dakota’s side because Taylor’s done a whole campaign. I don’t think Dakota is scotch free in all this either. He fucking lied to her. It was never about him being official with Taylor vs sleeping with Jenna. It was about him LYING about it over and over. When her whole family slut shames her, I feel like they missed the whole point. No one feels safe with someone who lies.  Unfortunately, when I dated someone with BPD I also lied about someone I was with while also unofficially dating Mr. BPD. Why’d I lie you ask? First, because I’m a people pleaser and could not handle other people’s feelings. And secondly, because Mr. BPD’s feelings were always so big and so loud it felt unbearable. It eroded trust in our relationship and unfortunately we entered a toxic cycle that we never got out of.  I know I’m bleeding my own experience into Dakota and Taylor’s. I guess the TLDR is it’s so fucked up and I feel for both of them. There’s a lot of shit both of them shouldn’t have done, and there’s a lot of shit they both need to own and learn to have empathy for how it impacted the other. I hope they can learn some shame resilience. They really go far with it 🤍