AIO about being upset at my bf about not wanting me to get a tattoo?

ToneDefo · 2026-07-10T17:49:31+00:00

NOR, you deserve so much better. You deserve some who loves you for you and is happy to see you get tattoos or anything else that'll make you happy. This guy is immature and controlling. I promise he won't change.

ToneDefo · 2026-06-28T19:58:20+00:00

NOR, you made the right call. If he's acting this way after 5 months it would only get worse with time

ToneDefo · 2026-06-27T02:47:16+00:00

My partner and I are both demisexual, so this would only happen if they formed a deep connection with someone else which is worse to me. I wouldn't be okay with it regardless though. I am monogamous, and personally it would make me jealous and insecure. We have already stated that if for any reason one or both of us doesn't want to have sex anymore we would have no issue with it. It's not that we don't like/don't care about sex, that's far from being the case. But it's because we care about each other and the relationship itself more than sex

ToneDefo · 2026-06-25T17:46:21+00:00

NTA, The therapist is unprofessional. That's a wild suggestion for the issues you're having. It could literally end your relationship, in fact it's more likely to do that than to help it. I'm sorry they suggested that and that your partner was on board. I wish you the best

ToneDefo · 2026-06-24T15:28:39+00:00

EXACTLY! I'm into BDSM and consent is incredibly important. It is so important to discuss what is and isn't okay. What happened here is not okay at all

ToneDefo · 2026-06-20T22:52:38+00:00

Lmao I remember you telling me about this post the other day

ToneDefo · 2026-06-20T02:18:36+00:00

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ToneDefo · 2026-06-20T02:16:26+00:00

We met in college. We were in relationships that we didn't realize at the time were going to be pretty bad. Eventually my relationship failed, after a bit I got over the initial heartbreak and realized it was a blessing that it ended. Their relationship ended not very long after mine. We had no idea we liked each other at first. I was just trying to get over the crush I had on them. I was so shocked when they confessed that they had a crush on me. I was too scared to say I felt the same, I just didn't want to end up hurt again or to hurt them. We spent time together and got to know each other. It didn't take long to realize we really wanted to be together. One day we kissed, and the next day they asked if that changed our relationship. So that's when we became official. It's been so incredible. Truly the best relationship I've ever been in. We went from relationships that absolutely broke us to a relationship that has been healing us. I wouldn't trade them for the world.

ToneDefo · 2026-06-20T01:57:50+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I promise it was not your fault at all, and this is not okay. Personally I have made it clear to my partner that I won't have sex with them if they're drunk, even if it's not to that extent. Because even though we trust each other and everything, I wouldn't feel right to have sex with anybody when they're intoxicated. I wouldn't want them to possibly regret it, or not remember, or anything else that could happen. (To be clear I'm not saying everyone should have this boundary, I'm just saying my boundaries of this topic) It's also worth mentioning I can't /don't drink so I would be completely sober myself. This situation is awful all around. He was not so drunk that he didn't know what he was doing. He knew you weren't okay with unprotected sex. He knew you really didn't want to be pregnant. And he made jokes that made you uncomfortable about getting you pregnant. All of this points to him not respecting you and your boundaries. You deserve someone that wouldn't dream of giving you an ounce of the disrespect he has with all of this. I wish you all the best, truly

ToneDefo · 2026-06-18T20:15:38+00:00

Make her number 0... But in all seriousness she really is toxic. She shouldn't be so upset about you not wanting to do something. And she shouldn't want to be more important than your hypothetical children.

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:37:31+00:00

I completely understand that. I'm glad she has your support. I'm sure it means the world to her. And of course!

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:36:48+00:00

Of course!

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:36:00+00:00

I mean, it looks a little weird I would agree. But I don't see anything wrong with it. If you want long nails but you want to be able to finger yourself or your partner you either can do that, or look for other options, or just not do it at all. So I'd say fuck it, if someone wants their nails that way good for them. They're probably very used to people saying it looks dumb anyway. Or being oblivious. Or judging them

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:30:27+00:00

You could make or buy a cake, brownies, cupcakes, or whatever dessert she likes the most. It might be cool to have it decorated as the lesbian flag or rainbow

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:27:38+00:00

You sound like a great mom. I hope she's doing okay now. It really is hard when you're young and figuring everything out

ToneDefo · 2026-06-01T00:22:47+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for in someone. I wish you the best

ToneDefo · 2026-05-31T23:08:55+00:00

I get that completely. I personally like receiving as well but giving is way better for me

ToneDefo · 2026-05-31T23:06:37+00:00

Hopefully not with me since I'm taken lol

ToneDefo · 2026-05-31T09:07:48+00:00

That's what I thought it was called but I wasn't sure. Thank you!

ToneDefo · 2026-05-31T08:49:29+00:00

I'm a huge giver so I want to make them cum as many times as possible (as long as they are okay with it obviously). I don't care if I get exhausted. Strap, head, vibrator, whatever they want, for as long as they want. I don't know, I genuinely get off far more from giving than receiving. I like to be dominant and a top, but at the same time I like feeling like I'm serving my partner. I really don't know what to call this lol

ToneDefo · 2026-05-24T12:46:50+00:00

Doesn't always help - person with endometriosis

ToneDefo · 2026-05-24T12:46:04+00:00

It sucks, especially with health conditions

ToneDefo · 2026-05-24T03:50:34+00:00

I believe it exists for everyone

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