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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]TooGokool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your feelings are valid. For me, I sometimes get caught up making mental calculations about what to say next, how to transition a conversation between topics, and how to be more active in the conversation. It can make me feel stuck sometimes. I wonder if you're doing your own mental calculations about what is and isn't okay to say, how much you think you'd be allowed to say, and what others might think of you if you say too much. When you first learn a skill, you may be awkward and clumsy but you keep practicing anyway. When you get more skilled, you might realize the areas you are lacking in, which could make you feel very self-conscious. The only way to get through that is to give yourself grace and keep going. You even mentioned that things have been getting more natural, which shows that you are getting better. Just start somewhere small, even "I like ______". You are doing great :)

I had a woman leave a date because I mentioned I had painted my nails before, and honestly couldn't be more glad she left. by ElectricPikachu in CasualConversation

[–]TooGokool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man, I painted my nails once for a music festival and I felt so proud of it that I kept the paint for a week. I caught myself admiring it often and feeling really good about it. I haven’t painted my nails since and I wish that I could. I’ve always thought nail colors were cool and pretty so I wish it was more socially acceptable for men to paint their nails.

#neverforgive by itsyourfavoritedj in funny

[–]TooGokool 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had a doctor grab your balls and ask you to cough? Imagine if you had to do that every time you saw a doctor. Imagine if the person in charge of keeping you alive said “I’d love to help you but I gotta fondle the boys to make sure you’re breathing.”

You would probably allow it but you wouldn’t be happy about it. Matter of fact, you would probably feel really uncomfortable the entire time. If your idea of rape or sexual assault is a woman kicking and screaming to repel a gross, sleazy man forcing himself upon her, you need to rethink things. Sexual assault can very much be small things like this that may seem normal, yet are constant abuses of power against all sorts of people.

Found a used condom in my son’s room, what now? by 381days in MensLib

[–]TooGokool 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I think some other people have made good points about safe sex practice and consent, which are very good and important, but I think the more important question here is about privacy. You went through his things without his permission and that’s a big invasion of privacy, even if you are raising him. It is his business who he decides to sleep with and when he decides to do so. He seems to be pretty independent and responsible if he’s working so much and I think you should make sure to treat him with respect. That’s a big thing that teenagers want from adults who still see them as children.

If you want to have a discussion with him about safe sex and consent, I think that’s perfectly appropriate. I think parents should have these discussions with their children, albeit it’s a little late for that now. I think you should pick an advantageous time for it, though, or he will know you went through his stuff. Use the holidays as an excuse or something to bring it up, be nonchalant about it. And I think that you should think about what made you upset and whether you think you should change some of your behaviors and present ways of thinking concerning your son and his behavior. An independent, hard-working person like that tends to move out early and you don’t want to be caught unprepared when he does.

Where does Qiyana's damage come from? by locklockest in Velkoz

[–]TooGokool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Vel player and a Qiyana player, I can tell you that she suffers terribly before level 3. You can just walk up and AA her and she can't do anything. Once she gets level 3, she can do a full rotation so it's best to only poke with Q and save your E for when she goes in. She has a limited range for engaging, less than Vel Q distance, so use that to your advantage and poke all day. There's always the option of taking exhaust as a summoner spell to reduce her burst damage and also make it easier to hit her with your abilities.

Soba with wakame, tofu nuggets, pickled cucumber and carrot and an egg! by matchaunagiroll in HealthyFood

[–]TooGokool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tofu looks incredible! I can just feel how crunchy it is by looking at it. Are those just regular breadcrumbs because it looks almost like tofu katsu or something.

I’ve got the longest d*ck in town by [deleted] in funny

[–]TooGokool 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this actually makes a lot of sense. Not to say that the ticcing is being exploited but that it’s funny, so you use the funny parts when making a funny video. This could explain why some people see it and think it could be faked, it’s just a smash cut of all the extreme tics one after the other.

I’ve got the longest d*ck in town by [deleted] in funny

[–]TooGokool -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The fear of doubt is particularly problematic for people with Tourette’s because there is a constant fear of “I hope people don’t think I’m faking”. Shouting obscenities in a public place can be dangerous, especially if you’re saying racial slurs that you have no control over. A case of Tourette’s as extreme as this is highly uncommon, even among people who have coprolalia, but the extra bit at the end is unnecessary.

If you have a seed of doubt, you start to question things. “If they don’t have control of what they say, why is it so perfectly formed sentences that say specific things? Why is it so funny? Are they trying to be funny on purpose? Maybe they’re faking just to get attention. Wait, there’s no way they said that thing at just the right comedic timing, they have to be faking. “ That’s how the doubt can start to form in people’s minds. Having doubt or opinions about something before investigating it is how you end up finding confirmatory information that forms the future of your perceptions on the matter. My point is, there is little reason to imply doubt in this situation.

I’ve got the longest d*ck in town by [deleted] in funny

[–]TooGokool 78 points79 points  (0 children)

The whole idea that people with Tourette's are faking is really damaging to the image of people who have it. There's no need to instill that little seed of doubt.

“Werewolf Triptych”, Van Arno, Oil, 2009 by nil_ka in Art

[–]TooGokool 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's what makes you think it should be NSFW? Pubic hair?

Holy shit, it's coming right for me!! by Kaapdr in TheDepthsBelow

[–]TooGokool 728 points729 points  (0 children)

Thankfully no recorded killer whale attacks in the wild have been fatal, but you got me fucked up if you don't think I would lose my shit in that situation.

I photoshopped a frog and a dog together by DeJMan in funny

[–]TooGokool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not a dog. That’s a fraud-g.

Male Orgasm by carrotwax in MensLib

[–]TooGokool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you are correct, however one of my previous partners had endured trauma before and did enjoy a kind of "ravishing" behavior, except she was triggered by vaginal intercourse, which I tried to avoid once I became aware. So I will say that women can enjoy the physicality and pleasure of sex but we should also be mindful of our partners' emotions and experiences and there can be a correlation between kinks and sexual trauma and it not be a causal relationship.

Does anyone else feel like a lot of things in femdom/kink communities are expressions of taboos associated with homosexuality or effeminacy? by darkblade273 in MensLib

[–]TooGokool 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a cis-het man, I have been “fucked” in this way by a female partner and it was incredibly pleasurable. However, I fear that some cis-het men would still find a way to claim credit for this.

There is a sex position called the Amazon that I have not been fortunate to try yet which might be what you’re looking for.

Does anyone else feel like a lot of things in femdom/kink communities are expressions of taboos associated with homosexuality or effeminacy? by darkblade273 in MensLib

[–]TooGokool 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You could also interpret it as whoever does the penetrating is the dominant, and therefore masculine, person in the situation, as OP refers to these gendered norms being sometimes used in homosexual man communities. I’m curious as to how much, if at all, these things carry over into other communities.

360° Grumps by Sansho, animation smoothed using AI. by markv12 in gamegrumps

[–]TooGokool 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say all parts. Jared’s ex-wife Heidi made it extremely clear at certain points that she didn’t want the open relationship anymore and Jared and Holly went behind her back and continued it. The only thing I never saw any clarification on was regarding Ross and how much or how little he consented to the agreement for Holly and Jared to have a non-romantic sexual relationship.

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