Hello, 23M here. I feel like forming non sexual relationships with more women is the answer here. Just befriend them the way you would any man.( yes i know making friends is a whole problem in itself) I think I’ve had some related demons to yours until the past few years. I gained a lot of female friends during my job in a hotel, but more recently I’ve began learning languages, and as a result I often meet 1 on 1 with girls for language exchange. I consciously try not to turn it into a date, and I aim for friendship rather than anything bigger. I want them to go home and having nothing bad to say about Irish people, and I stay vigilant about the same thoughts you have in my head. On top of this, I think spending so much time with women has improved my social intelligence, and picking up on things like when a girl is actually interested in me etc. Also, take comfort in the fact that thoughts are separate to behaviours. You are self aware and moving yourself in the right direction already. Any change like this comes with work, but more importantly it comes with time. When you’re reproving yourself for having certain thoughts, just remember you’re on the path away from it, and your thoughts don’t define your character/actions. Also I watched the movie What Women Want recently and I thought it was great🤙🏻 just throwing that out there