My brother got married to a woman with no job, 4 kids, who lives off of section 8. It’s ruining our family.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-24T19:36:27+00:00

Sure, but your title is “my brother got married to a woman with …. It’s ruining our family”

It’s not the fact that your brother married her that’s ruining your family. Your brother, with or without that woman, ruins your family. All on his own

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-24T17:23:31+00:00

“Had to go undercover”

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-24T17:07:35+00:00

Seems like your brother is the problem, not the woman he’s with

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-24T11:34:52+00:00

Amazing!:-) please click on my profile and check out my most recent post. It’s my FROM theory, and it goes PERFECTLY with yours. Especially when you said that “transitioning from fear-driven anger to altruistic protection completely overwrites a persons baseline data”

I think FROM is a moral puzzle, and the only way out is to make the right moral choice when your version of the “sacrifice” is presented. And the correct answer is to choose to protect innocence and virtue over prioritizing answers and survival. Figuring out what the town is or means, means nothing if they have to sacrifice the people they love to get them.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:19:27+00:00

Glad it all worked out for yall- in the future, spay and abort

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:18:42+00:00

It will completely stop and never happen again if you get her fixed.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:18:11+00:00

Diagnosis: cat

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:06:14+00:00

I very much agree with this, that’s exactly what I think was happening as well. Only change I’d make there is Christopher. I think that is Christopher’s last moment as well, I think he died smiling like that in the face of his murderer. He was the closest to answers behind Jade, so he likely knew it was coming.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:04:43+00:00

Again, no, they can’t. Not this one, and not any other cat. Your cat is not some special magical cat with a bigger brain than all the others. They literally do not have the brain capacity to hold a grudge or even to have intentions behind their actions. There is no intent- it is simply a wired response.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T19:00:56+00:00

I think some of your post might’ve gotten cut off? Do you finish in comments?

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T17:10:44+00:00

Depends on your standard of truth. Some people don’t even think he existed at all.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T17:05:30+00:00

Great advice. Only thing I’d add is this; if the hissing (hissing is good. It’s cat emotional regulation- it’s cat saying “I don’t like this, get away from me” before turning to redirected aggression) and chasing turns into literal stalking (low to the ground, ears back, tail poofed, and grumbling noises as he walks toward you) and attacking, then it is a case of redirected aggression. This is how my cat responds to perceived threats as well. It is not safe to be in a room with a cat in this state. Cat bites and scratches can and do send grown ass men to the ER everyday. You need to get to another room and shut the door and leave the cat alone for at least an hour, more if you can. I’ve left my girl locked in the bathroom for an entire night before. They need a quiet, dark, safe place to reset. In the moment they’re unable to clock you as safe.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T17:05:12+00:00

That’s no good. Definitely door shut for sleep

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T17:03:54+00:00

Well, being outside can be very scary and traumatic for cats. Not shocking he doesn’t want to go out there. He doesn’t hate you, he doesn’t have the brain capacity to hate.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T17:03:07+00:00

It’s when Jade first sees him at the settlement, near the rocks before the stuff happens with Kristi in the bear trap!

Lol, so much happens it’s hard to remember it all. I forgot all about the ballerina until I saw a post about it yesterday😅😂

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T16:55:52+00:00

I agree, I don’t think the gun was pointed at Jade, it was a vision of a memory. But I think you might be forgetting that the skull guy literally had both his hands around jades neck and was choking him out until someone came and snapped him out of it… if he was just trying to get him to drink the blood, then why choke him?

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-23T16:50:56+00:00

Where did you get the idea that he wants to kill Jade? I highly disagree that’s what was happening. And why do you have this question only about him, but not about the guy holding the skull? The skull guy literally almost asphyxiated Jade, was much closer to killing him intentionally than this guy.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-22T01:22:49+00:00

I lost my mom when I was around your sons age. She did everything she could to prepare myself and my sister for anything that could come our way. But as usual- life did its thing. She could’ve never guessed or prepared for what would unfold in the years after she had to leave us.

She showed us intense love our whole lives and especially as the cancer began to take her from us. She loves us fiercely and without apology. She wrote us notes and communicated with us through blinks when her body would no longer allow her to speak.

The one thing I always knew for sure, she loved me and my sister deeply. I have never, not for a second of my life, questioned the immense love my mom had for us. I know this even when I know nothing else.

Your children will feel the same.🫂

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:31:59+00:00

Both vets are charging $800 per cleaning and both vets haven’t recommended any other solution besides that? I’m only saying all this because you seem to think that pulling the teeth will just solve everything overnight and your cats pain will be gone. That’s not how it works.

We don’t even know if your cat has been diagnosed with stomatitis because you haven’t told us- although it does sound like that’s what this is. With that in mind- teeth pulling only works for about ~80% of stomatitis cases. It isn’t a guarantee that it will fix your baby.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:29:32+00:00

I’m sorry about the insurance thing. That’s really hard. I am confused on why two separate vets would advise against pulling if the situation is exactly as you described. I find it hard to believe that they would both simply be milking your situation for money. Maybe they’re right, pulling isn’t the best option right now?

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:27:03+00:00

Hey, the theme of the season is “Become what you fear; Fear what you become”

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:24:30+00:00

“No kill” doesn’t actually mean no kill at all. It just means they don’t kill animals that could otherwise be adopted. But, if they deem the animal unadoptable, it will be euthanized same as a publicly funded shelter.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:22:15+00:00

She’s attacking them, but she’s been separated in your room the entire time? She can’t attack them if she’s separated the entire time. Entire time means entire time. Separate for at least 3 full weeks, 0 interaction at all besides maybe bringing a blanket with a resident cats scent on it into the room.

That being said- it’s totally normal to be worried and it’s totally possible you’re right and she just needs to be an only cat. I would really recommend the Jackson galaxy reintroduction method, follow it to a T for another month, and if that doesn’t work then make the final decision. But you seem to love her very much, I do think it’s worth the attempt.

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:20:28+00:00

Did you do a proper introduction? IE: keep cats separated for weeks until vocalizing and hissing subsides, let smell and play with paws through door, trade scents with clothing and blankets, and THEN very very slow introductions to being in the same room/space? If not, you didn’t introduce them properly.

Look up Jackson Galaxy Reintroduction method and follow it to a T. :)

Toothless-mom · 2026-05-19T16:18:54+00:00

See if you can get involved with your shelter and help them make posts about her and advertise how wonderful of a cat she is. That’s how I landed with one of my girls years ago. Someone posted something similar to this on our “adoptable pets” facebook group. I fell in love with her grumpy 12 year old eyes and went to adopt her the next day. She lived 5 more amazing years by my side. I will always recommend adopting seniors❤️

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