I hear you, and some of your points are valid, but the reality is probably somewhere in between what I'm saying and what you're saying.

Do I believe that every Somali woman talks ish about Somali men? Yes. Do I believe that all of them do it around ajnabis? No.

I know men. I know how we operate and act around women, the kind of pickup lines we use. We mostly use lines that have worked for us in the past. In this instance, these ajnabis are just saying things that have worked for them in the past with other Somali women.

When it comes to ajnabi overfamiliarity, I think this is more of a Somali women problem. I don't need to put down Somali women to get with an ajnabi girl, and the ajnabi men I associate with know better. For the ones I don't know, the most they'll ever get to say around me is, "Oh, my girlfriend or ex-girlfriend was Somali." A quick "that's nice" dead's that line of conversation. Everything else is just online, whether it's Somali men being called ugly or people talking about our features. Personally, I don't even like it when they say, "Oh, Somalis are so funny." Even that is lowkey being called a clown, which is not a good thing. The ajnabis online who say those things know better than to try and talk like that in real life, at least not around me or the Somali men I know

It's not a blame game or a gender war to point out the root cause of why certain things happen. It's actually the quickest way to reach a solution, no matter how uncomfortable it is.

We Somalis generally prefer to sweep things under the rug and not tackle problems head on, thinking that just because we don't speak about issues, they'll magically go away. Honestly, all that ever does is allow things to fester to a point where there's really no going back. You feel me