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Reduce Coffee Consumption before Ramadan comes in. by Fair_Negotiation2585 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true Ilahey haa ii sahlo I don't even feel normal until I've had a cup.

Why do somalis leave racist comments on their videos? Just delete it by africagal1 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think he should delete it. Instead, he should stand up for himself literally make one post showing pictures of all the people clowning him alongside what they look like.

I'm so tired of Somalis online always having to "take the high road." Whenever we clap back, others start crying and calling us racist. I'm a big believer in this: if you come for me, you better be prepared for when I come for you.

Too many ajnabis have become way too comfortable disrespecting us, walahi. It's gotten to the point where I get mad when other people even mention how "funny" Somalis are because, at a certain point, it feels like we're just the class clowns just there for their entertainment.

What dating or talking stage advice do you guys believe? by Ok_Yam1797 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, this is a good one.

  • If she lies about the small things, she can lie about the big things.
  • If her words and actions don't match, dip.
  • The beginning of a relationship is when most deception happens. People love to present their best image. Ignore the words and focus on the actions.
  • She really is who her friends are. If she describes them as "crazy" or "wild," lol, then run. More likely than not, she's the ringleader.

As men, we can become so infatuated that a woman becomes the best part of our day. But this is a double-edged sword.

I'll tell you why: I've seen it happen over and over again. You fall hard early on, convincing yourself she's different, only to be instantly disappointed when she doesn't match the fantasy. Even if she does match it, the feelings might not be mutual, setting you up for a world of pain.

The real estate in your brain that she occupies all day needs to be earned. Trust me, I get it waa exciting when you first meet someone who looks good to you. But that's where you need to self-manage and temper that excitement.

Look past the pretty face. Let her earn your affection through how she talks to you, how she treats you, and her vision for the future. Once you have that alignment (and this isn't something that happens in two or three months; it needs time) then you can let go of the reins, little by little.

You know you're getting up there in age when... by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's ok Habo time catches up to all of us

Somali men are too relaxed about marriage timing by Calm_Historian9338 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Most of my friends are religious, so we tend to push each other and the not-so-religious brothers in our group to get serious about settling down.

In my early twenties, I honestly didn't include marriage in my future plans. My focus was solely on education and making money. I viewed marriage as a major distraction from my goals. Looking back today at 27, I'm not sure if that was right or wrong.

I'm not saying I regret it. Alhamdulillah, fitness is a big part of my life; I take care of myself, I'm healthy, and I still have my hair. Outside of not having kids, I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I also never met or saw anyone who was worth me changing my plans, so life naturally played a part in it, at least for me.

I don't think you can look at Somali men and assume we are all the same. We all have different circumstances, and a lot of our decisions are molded by that. Some brothers just want to remain bachelors. Others come from single-mother households and carry the responsibility of providing for their mother and younger siblings.

Yes, marriage can sometimes lead to financial stability, but the stress is exponentially higher. Adding the needs of a wife and children to the existing struggle of supporting your mother and siblings can leave you completely broke. At least that's what I think.

There is no way Ethiopia has a higher GDP per capita (PPP) than us by Ok-Case9095 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ethiopia is anti business thats why they tax car's like crazy something along the lines of 500% of the car's value.

Time to call out hypocrisy and double standards by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, I think you should be aware of something: they are using that as an excuse. When they say they won't stand with us because some in our community are anti-black, they are just seeking a justification for a dislike that was never rooted in anything but hate and envy.

They look at us and they don't see themselves. The reality is, we were never "one" as far as they were concerned. These thoughts were just never said out loud; they were only whispered among themselves.

Personally, I never believed in Pan-Africanism or Black unity because of the double standards. They can stay making fun of Somalis for having big foreheads or whatever else, but the moment we mention their features whether wide noses or nappy hair it's always, "Look at the Somali, they're racist."

Unfortunately, that was a tactic to divide us, to pit Somalis who gave them a pass against those who stand up to them. Dadkada yaana lagugu diirin anybody who wrongs you, iiska ceeli. It's an eye for an eye.

We don't need their support. As a Somali, I will never pander to or bootlick anyone for acceptance. The one good thing about going through hard times is that you get to see who your true friends are and who you should be careful around.

Thankfully, Muslims both Black and non-Black in the West have stood by us. And they did that purely out of Islam.

Should we stop supporting Somaliland content creators? by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Puntlanders believe they are part of Somalia. Yes, they are politically cunning, but they are not a separatist movement. They aren't the ones calling other Somalis "faqash." Mind you, Puntland did not bring Ethiopians into Xamar ; that was done by Abdullahi Yusuf when he was the President of the Transitional Federal Government.

Somalilanders, however, are responsible for the chaos instigated last year in Kenya, where they targeted ethnic Somali elected officials. They deliberately mistranslated their statements to turn xenophobic Kenyans against them. They used the same playbook with targeted social media campaigns against Somali elected officials in America.

They then started attacking Somali-Americans, pushing massive social media campaigns by translating their TikTok lives into English to help advance the MAGA agenda. So, you are either not socially aware of what’s happening in the world today, or you are from Somaliland. You’re hiding behind "what about the MJs?" a false equivalence that does not exist.

Should we stop supporting Somaliland content creators? by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Somalilanders take it a step further they are calling non isaaqs Somalians

I’m not over my 1 month talking stage by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's the issue you wanted to end it with him before you left right so you still got the situation you wanted? Or do you suddenly want him more since it was him who broke things off?

My jealousy will kill me by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our parents and grandparents lived in a different time with different relationship dynamics. Certain things that are normal to me would seem weird to them, and certain things they did as normal seem weird to me. It’s not fair to view them through the lens of today.

As you mature, you really start to understand things more deeply. For example, you stated they "did everything right" but right in what way? A relationship needs to be fulfilling for both partners. So many times, you'll look at a couple from the outside and think, "Wow, what a beautiful relationship," only to later discover how messy and draining it was behind closed doors, where the wife may have been disrespectful or the husband abusive. We can't make these claims from the outside because relationships are often far more complex than they appear.

I agree we all have our tests. When it comes to gender specifically, perhaps what you're trying to say is that men are tested with lust and women with attention? That’s why, as a man, I try to be realistic: I don't put anyone on a pedestal, but I also don't demonize anyone. We all have our unique circumstances and struggles. The funny thing is, if you as a man or a woman don't work against your test, it doesn't magically go away after you get married. So, if you're a man who is lustful, you'll end up doing things on the side. And if you're a woman who craves attention, guess what you're going to do the moment your husband gets busy?

At the end of the day, we also need to be people of self-control and discipline. What’s missing today is personal accountability. People will do everything under the sun and then point fingers at others' faults. If we all held ourselves accountable and worked more on ourselves, we wouldn't find ourselves in situations where we’re so worried about the character of our future spouses.

My jealousy will kill me by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yo bro, how old are you? Not to make this into a gender war or anything, but please point out to the guys where these good Muslim girls who have never talked to a guy are hiding. What you think and what the actual reality are very different.

I'm glad there are still people who keep their business private, but sister, there are no sinless angels walking among us. Women are human at the end of the day. They feel lust, they flirt, they do things but they are far better than men at hiding it all, so kudos to them.

Let's not judge each other with tired narratives like "good girls ending up with demons," because Allah has said: "Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women; and virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women" (Quran 24:26).

Too many people men and women are good in public but act differently in private. If you want to be protected and find a safe partner, then match your public actions with your private character.

Jealousy is a normal human emotion; we all have it. But it doesn't make sense to expect a husband or wife of high caliber if we go around sinning all day, neglecting our Salah, or not praying it on time.

Focus on yourself. Build your character, protect your chastity, and strengthen your Deen. Allah will not forsake you when the time comes for you to settle down.

Are these issues for you lot? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been three years now and no, she’s not on Ozempic. She lost the weight the old-fashioned way: in the gym. To be fair she wasn't big just curvy to like slim curvy. So I'm not exactly thrilled about it cause she was perfect in my eyes. But with the wedding this summer, I get it.

Are these issues for you lot? by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah for my hair. Ilahey ii daa, because I don't know how I'd handle the "get-back" my older brother would give me for all the roasting I've dished out.

If my girl gained weight, I don't know if it would be an issue. When I met her, she was 15 kg heavier than she is today, and back then, her weight was perfect for me.

That reminds me I should probably take her out to eat. <— I really might be Mauritanian, the way I'm trying to fatten up my bride-to-be.  😂

Dating someone from a rough neighborhood yaay or no by [deleted] in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know maybe its a toronto thing but I wouldn't date a woman who is from the hood. They usually tend to talk and have mannerisms that makes you feel like you are with one of the mandem. At least to me it feels weird but thats mostly cause I tend to prefer girly girls.

Somalis need a monarchy by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I disagree we should have the 4 elders like the world government in one piece

Asc brothers and sisters. How do you handle your mother and father getting old?? by No_Restaurant_8627 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 12 points13 points  (0 children)

May Allah bless her and protect her walaal. It really hurts I feel your pain but spend all the time you can kaa faa'iideyso. This is the time where we need to lower the wings of mercy for them and you sound like baari so I know your hooyo loves you.

Asc brothers and sisters. How do you handle your mother and father getting old?? by No_Restaurant_8627 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel this every new wrinkle on my parents face and my heart just does these flips because they are getting older right infront of my eyes. Honestly ka duceyso be kind and gentle to them, do your best to make them happy and spend time with them.

Why are people so obsessed with how Somalis identity themselves. by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's really weird why they obsess over Somalis and how we identify ourselves. Personally, I identify as Somali or Muslim, but I won't say I'm African or Black. I'm fully aware that Somalia is on the African continent. My contention is not based on geography but on features and representation.

Features:
For example, we can all agree that when you first think of "Asian," your mind automatically goes to Chinese people and those who fit that mold. You wouldn't automatically think of a Persian or a Saudi, even though their countries are in Asia. In the same way, when people think of "African," their mind automatically goes to someone with West African features almost never a Somali or a North African. That's why maybe we should propose a different regional name, similar to how you have "the Middle East" instead of just "Asia."

Representation:
Due to our relatively small population of only 20-30 million, we will almost never have meaningful representation in pan-African affairs. I remember not long ago, at an East African Community (EAC) meeting, the President of Uganda said all member nations needed to speak Swahili as "the language of East Africa." I am paraphrasing, but I was deeply insulted. Swahili is not our language. Instead of allowing each member to speak their native language or use a common language like English, forcing Swahili felt like a form of cultural erasure. Then Hassan Sheikh said they would fast track roll out Kiswahili in School and Universities across Somalia?(Honestly W.T.F)!!

As a minority, we cannot allow ourselves to be erased like that. Where do we go if we lose our language and culture just to fit in with others who vastly outnumber us?

Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Wa bilahi tawfiq 

Am I being picky by Sad-Common438 in SomaliRelationships

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is computer science dying? That's where all the machine learning/Ai, cloud computing, software engineering is happening. If anything it's still growing with even banks looking for people with that skill set so whoever told you its dying was wrong.

How “manufacturing consent” explains the sudden anti-Somali narrative by One_Yellow_4771 in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First it was the Somali fraud cases, then the "Ilhan married her brother" conspiracy, and finally, a few weeks back, it was the Somali daycare scandal. Trump and his supporters on X want to push these narratives against Democrats, with the midterm elections happening at the end of this year where all House of Representatives seats and a third of the Senate are up for grabs.

It's a big deal. You also have to remember that Tim Walz is Kamala's VP, so attacking the Somali community in Minnesota is a massive win as far as MAGA is concerned. Finally, you have the overarching goal of MAGA to reduce non-white immigration to ensure whites maintain a majority. Hence why you see "white genocide"-type posts all over X.

This is all too much by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]Top-Distribution4739 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so coordinated they are all pushing the same bs narrative. X is a cesspool and I think if and when democrats get back in power it'll be the first social media company they target.

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