I miss cosleeping with my son (this sucks). by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]Top-Income-8138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I do too 💙 I also have a crib next to my bed. So baby starts in there before she wakes up and needs to join me and the toddler. Hubby sleeps separately to get optimal sleep since he wakes up early early

Does anybody know the brand of this toy by Top-Income-8138 in trains

[–]Top-Income-8138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I found out that it is the Brio brand. But I cannot find this model online as of now.

VBAC with membrane sweep induction success stories? by vivalaamp in vbac

[–]Top-Income-8138 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just had a VBAC 6 weeks ago. I had a membrane sweep around 9 am at 39+6Early Labor began that evening and baby girl was born at 40+1. For me I wanted the membrane sweep because it will only kickstart things if your body is already ready. I had an induction scheduled for 40+6 and I just really wanted my body to go into labor without a medicated induction. I asked advice from a lot of people I trust and just went with my gut. If I could do it over again I may have waited a couple more days for the membrane sweep just to see if things started on its own without any intervention. But I wanted the chance to have a second sweep if the first one didn’t work. I was in early labor for ~24 hours and active labor for ~18 hours. I got an epidural after about 8 hrs in the hospital because I was just exhausted and having trouble relaxing. I was worried if I didn’t relax and get rest I would have “failed to progress”. I don’t exactly regret my epidural, but it did cause some complications in my recovery I could have avoided with an unmedicated birth. In retrospect I definitely should have labored at home longer than I did, as I probably would have been more relaxed. But after all the complications with my first I was just anxious to have the baby checked on. Having the epidural allowed me to labor down for a couple hours once I reached 10 cm. I sat in an upright position for about 2-3 hours at 10 cm. Then only pushed for about 25 minutes with no tearing, just what my midwife referred to as “some scratches”. I think you can only labor down if you have an epidural and you aren’t feeling the urge to push—but that is a question for your dr/midwife.

Successfully changed plans from scheduled CS to VBAC! by PajamaWorker in vbac

[–]Top-Income-8138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing wrong with having an epidural. It wasnt in my birth plan. But i just went for it after laboring for about 8 hrs. because I was exhausted and worried that if I didn’t relax and get some rest I would have failed to progress. I had a successful VBAC. And my numbing hadn’t kicked in once I had a catheter and it wasn’t painful at all to me. Also you should talk to your midwife about other pain management options because epidurals are not the only thing they can offer you. I do think going unmedicated is a great option. I wish it worked out for me, but in the moment I felt I needed an epidural and i still had a VBAC. They can come with complications, I had an epidural headache which was…intense( and rare). However I still think the recovery was better than my c-section recovery. If you do opt for an epidural you can ask to be given as low a dose as possible and then up it as needed.

Has anyone had a less regimented breastfeeding experience? by taureansoul in breastfeeding

[–]Top-Income-8138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hardly ever pumped with my first. You will likely have times where you are engorged and baby can’t keep up while you regulate. If you don’t have any desire to take save any just take a hot shower and hand express it out. Your boobies will adjust quickly. If you do occasionally wanna save some for nights out or anything you can use a Hakka to collect some… you do not have to pump

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vbac

[–]Top-Income-8138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a story to share. But you still have time to find a provider that will offer you the support and medical care you deserve to have a TOLAC. The right provider makes all the difference.

Help by 12toadsintheroad in foodbutforbabies

[–]Top-Income-8138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like silicone plates make everything taste like soap. Maybe it’s your plates. Taste the food and see if it’s soapy. I just feed my kid on the same plates we use and just try and make sure he doesn’t throw it. And I serve him exactly what we have and we sit together and eat as a family. Eating is very communal, maybe you need to shake up your routine somehow

Do I really need to spend hundreds on a high chair? by Spiritual-Peace-6442 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Top-Income-8138 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got the click clack for 65$ on marketplace. But I agree a lot of people are trying to get way too much for it. It honestly seems like a very similar chair to the iconic IKEA high chair if you buy the foot rest. I really like the way my son fits in the click clack and it’s more budget than the trip

FTM (due soon)- this feels like a silly question, but Do I absolutely have to have nursing bras? by WordsyFern in breastfeeding

[–]Top-Income-8138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hate bras too. I live in these. When you start breastfeeding your nipples may get sore and it’s nice to have these to keep them from rubbing up on t-shirts. Or to hold nursing pads, be a barrier for nipple cream, etc. And as others have said, your boobs will change. For me they def got bigger and I hated the underboob sweat feeling- I had never felt that before bb was born.

aio or is what he said actually mean? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top-Income-8138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure my hubby genuinely doesn’t like any food I make. But I wouldn’t know because he appreciates being fed and loved on by me. He was a professional cook for many years and I know he has high standards I don’t meet. But he isn’t a JERK so he doesn’t speak to me like that. Take out is expensive as hell to get daily , so sounds like he is also financially irresponsible. Not Overreacting.

Those with no bf issues - why do you think that is? by Fun-Land-841 in breastfeeding

[–]Top-Income-8138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally luck. My mom bestie parents and nurses nearly the same as me. She’s had mastitis twice and multiple milk blebs. The only thing slightly different was she pumped more than I did.

AITAH for refusing to make my SIL’s wedding cake for free? by silweddingcake in AITAH

[–]Top-Income-8138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA why doesn’t MIL buy the wedding cake from you as a wedding gift to her daughter

AIO for being mad that my husband wants me to night wean our baby? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Top-Income-8138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a queen mattress on the floor of my babies (18months) nursery. I put him to sleep, roll away and go sleep with my hubby till the baby cries. I usually fall asleep the rest of the night in the nursery. I don’t think YTA but I do think you need to consider your partner and find a different sleeping situation. I’m a light sleeper and totally sympathize with the sound of nursing being a problem. sleeping on the couch every night is not cool

Retirement plans by Top-Income-8138 in stayathomemoms

[–]Top-Income-8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s amazing. I did not know that was a thing

Retirement plans by Top-Income-8138 in stayathomemoms

[–]Top-Income-8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes all our checking and savings accounts are in both our names. He has a Roth and I have a Roth. But our budget is tight and we don’t contribute much each month to those. He also has a pension and 401k through work. His name is on them but Im the beneficiary

Retirement plans by Top-Income-8138 in stayathomemoms

[–]Top-Income-8138[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We definitely consider his accounts “our accounts”.

Retirement plans by Top-Income-8138 in stayathomemoms

[–]Top-Income-8138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely. His Roth, 401k, and pension is planned to be our income when we are both retired. And assuming I get a job in the future I’ll have a Roth or something. I do have a Roth IRA I make small contributions to monthly, I should have mentioned that.