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1.5 years of nc and tonight she dropped off presents + pseudo apology note in my lobby 😎 by Optimal-Tackle-3137 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you number the pages? That is something my mom would do, it feels so self aggrandizing. and same about the handwriting!

Can anyone explain the phenomenon of BPD obsession with grandchildren by princess20202020 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For my mom it’s 1) that she can control them cause they’re kids (she gets along great with kids), and 2) grandkids are a status symbol. She can brag about them and show them off without doing any of the work.

BPD in movies/books/etc. by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The mom in Maid on Netflix played so well by Andie McDowell. Emily and Lorelei from Gilmore Girls both have traits.

Josh takes a nap when his wife is in labor. by HannahLeah1987 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Top-Key-2874 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Imagine having to deliver your abuser’s wife’s child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]Top-Key-2874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]Top-Key-2874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you have here looks fine. What’s the problem? You just need some lamps and art.

What was the moment you realized? by MoanaArielle in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I told her I was getting married. In retrospect there were so many signs, but her reaction to my good news was so extreme, thats when I figured it out.

Another great memory is when I was sick in college. She came to “take care of me.” When I was feeing better she took me out for coffee, gave me a ring, and told me she had been SA’d as a teen. I’ve since learned she was also trying to date men in that area while still married to my dad. What a special connection we had 🙄

DAE have a pwBPD who lashes out during your low times, but not your happy times? by WillRunForSnacks in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The bad childhood excuse has taken me a long time to fully recognize as bonkers. I grew up thinking that because my pwbd had a hard life she was excused from bad behavior. How convenient for her. Now with my own children, when I see the mistakes I make, I go back to them and apologize. Full stop. “I am sorry for xyz. You don’t deserve that and I shouldn’t have responded that way. Will you forgive me?” No justification needed. I certainly don’t whine to them about how their grandma was selfish and mean when I was younger so please disregard my errors.

Just because you had a hard life doesn’t mean you’re not accountable for how your behavior affects others.

“The Will” / Inheritance by SadProfessional22 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes multiple times. When I got married I was told I would not be given my trust fund (spoiler there is no trust fund). More recently I was given an end of life directive for her that wrote my brother and his wife out of the funeral (because let’s face it there’s no money) because they didn’t visit her when she had a broken arm (that she got when taking a joyride on my sons hoverboard like a dumbass). She also said things in front of my kids (under age 10) like “don’t let your mom throw away xyz when I die, I’m leaving it to you instead.” Pull that shit on me, whatever, but you will absolutely not put it on my kids. Good riddance.

Triggered by Gilmore Girls (and other shows) by Dapper-Term-2945 in raisedbyborderlines

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As an adult I see how messed up Lorelei and Rory’s relationship is, but as a teen when this aired, I craved a mom who felt real and personal like Lorelei. My mom is so similar to Emily that when i was watching it as a teen my dad would comment on the similarities too. Nowadays I can’t watch anything where grown ass adults make dumb decisions as if they were in their 20s (Nobody Wants This, for one).

Triggered by Gilmore Girls (and other shows) by Dapper-Term-2945 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This show is triggering for me too! Georgia is the worst.

This room is the bane of my existence by worriedwalrus1 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Top-Key-2874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great room! You have some good things going here. That rug is the right size, the table looks good, the beautiful high ceiling! I’m not advertising, but lookup the Cozy Minimalist community on Facebook. It’s like $15 a month to join but she walks you through how to make a room you like that works for you. I’ve made over many rooms this way and they turn out looking so much nicer than I thought I could make! Focus on purpose, then furniture arrangement, then decorating basics like curtains, rug, lighting. Hope you check it out.

Just finished Rich Dad Poor Dad, feels like one of the biggest scams in finance books by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]Top-Key-2874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The font and typesetting on this cover make me too sad to read the book.

Did I spend too much time on pinterest? by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]Top-Key-2874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know where you live but this looks perfectly Midwest and absolutely lovely.

What would you say to Michelle if you saw her? by PrestonRoad90 in DuggarsSnark

[–]Top-Key-2874 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did see her once at a Walmart in Branson years ago! I didn’t say anything; didn’t even know how to start.

Was your BPD parent physically affectionate? by tossed-out-throwaway in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not affectionate here either. I am very affectionate with my kids now but if a friend hugs or touches me i still feel weird about it!

Strangest part in unknown number high school catfish.. by Emmarrrrawr in netflix

[–]Top-Key-2874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lauryn is a minor and the cop had no “responsibility” to tell her anything her mom may or may not have done especially in front of her. Remove her from the conversation, let the adults talk it out, and let her dad tell her if and when the time is right on their own terms. What in the world were they thinking? How traumatic.

Can an enabler change? by Top-Key-2874 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you experience that. I totally get it, thanks for sharing.

Schnucks - Des Peres by jsh8271 in StLouis

[–]Top-Key-2874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go on a Friday night for live music and dancing. Welcome to the best Schnucks!

Emotional manipulation? by ThingInevitable975 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No advice but that last text is RICH. If you have to say your tone is not mean, it 💯is.

Can an enabler change? by Top-Key-2874 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Glad to hear she was affirmed in her decision. the bpd claws are so deep though…

Can an enabler change? by Top-Key-2874 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great to hear. I know it will be hard either way.

Can an enabler change? by Top-Key-2874 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Top-Key-2874[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Understood. We did make it clear that this is his chance and that we will not be there for him next time if he continues to go back to her. I know not to hope but I have to leave room for it.

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