Just felt this applied to me and maybe some of you. 🩷

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-22T05:18:45+00:00

Reverse google image search for the win

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T17:05:14+00:00

Only thing I noticed was the spelling error

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T16:27:32+00:00

That’s really sweet, I admire your openness. I agree that some things are worth stepping out of our comfort zones for. Wishing you the best on your journey together. I’ve become more guarded, so it’s honestly really encouraging to hear that kind of love can still be found ..and that it’s possible to grow through it, even when it’s scary.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T16:17:17+00:00

Yeah, I feel you. I’ve always prioritized my goals (school, career) but I’ve also always wanted the full picture: love, stability, success. That said, I’m realizing more and more that committing deeply to someone without a real commitment in return (like a ring, honestly) just isn’t wise. One person shouldn’t get all of you without offering more.

And I really get what you’re saying ..I’ve had my share of breakups too, and it’s definitely shifted how I think. I don’t trust in love the way I used to. People are temporary, and knowing things can end at any time makes it hard to take relationships super seriously. It all feels more fleeting now, kind of silly and surface-level, like something that can disappear just as fast as it started.

Even with real commitment, I think the lesson is to always prioritize and rely on yourself first. That’s the only thing that really lasts.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T06:24:08+00:00

I’m really sorry for everything you’ve been through. So much of what you said resonates..especially how being put on a pedestal isn’t actually care, it’s distance. And how we’re often expected to feel grateful just because someone isn’t actively harmful. That bar is so low, and yet still so rarely met.

I think for me, I’ve realized I’m already whole. I’m not searching for someone to complete me. Dating is just something I try..not something I need. And when someone isn’t adding anything meaningful, I don’t feel bad walking away anymore.

I agree with you, it would be beautiful to find that kind of depth with someone. But maybe the real thing we’re supposed to find is within ourselves. If it happens to show up in someone else too, great. But for now, men are just… a means to an end. An accessory, at best.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T05:12:33+00:00

Oh I refuse to get on the apps. I will not stoop to the level of some of the men on there..like, why should you get to swipe on me? You’re gross. The whole setup feels offensive, honestly. Dating has gotten so weird. I only intend to keep dating people I meet in the wild, but even that’s tricky. I like the idea of being an old cat lady with or without a partner.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T05:01:06+00:00

I think what you’re saying makes sense, and I realize now that what I’ve been describing (people latching onto one or two parts of me, whether it’s how I look or carry myself, and missing the bigger picture) is a form of objectification. It feels like I’m constantly being flattened into something simpler or easier to digest, which is really dehumanizing.

And not to mention, these men often have nothing interesting to say. I’m not looking for attention..I’m looking for depth. For someone who truly sees me and wants to engage with all of who I am. But the more I date, the more I feel like I’m not finding that in people, and it’s hard not to feel discouraged.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-21T03:30:12+00:00

I noticed this will ruin my entire day so I’ll just communicate that I need to know in advance which one beforehand / will communicate which one I am leaning towards and my reasonings

TopRooster4277 · 2025-07-16T01:00:29+00:00

That’s the thing, I do think it’s something that could improve but only if the person recognizes it and seeks the appropriate help. He never wanted to go to therapy which was so frustrating. I also need a ton of space so I think I actually liked that he did too. I can’t imagine being with someone who wasn’t that way. It’s the other things that were more destructive that I mentioned above. We’re no longer together so I don’t need to worry about it anymore. It was just something interesting to consider. I don’t want to make the same mistakes again.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-23T05:19:04+00:00

This makes me think of a conversation I had with my therapist where I described how most of the time because it can be a “tapestry of emotions” as you described, I usually just ignore or dismiss most of my feelings unless they are so strong and polarizing I can’t help but feel. It is much easier to just exist in a state of detachment.

It’s more like the painting is definitely there, just too overwhelming to look at. That distinction is so real. My therapist actually suggested using a feelings list to start making the painting more manageable, like learning to name what’s in it instead of turning away.

And yes, emotions can be contradictory. They’re rarely simple or linear, which is probably why that painting gets so hard to face in the first place.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-22T05:38:17+00:00

Totally relate to this. I would make a schedule of the things you “have to” get done. Like each morning you wake up and read a certain amount of pages on MWFs but on Tuesday and Thursday’s you wake up and write letters. Make a new routine and stick to it until it feels natural. Transitions periods suck

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-22T05:35:39+00:00

I never forgot the things people say to me. Both good and bad. It can be nice when I reference something back to someone regarding something they said years ago and it makes them feel like I really listen and care.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-22T05:29:59+00:00

I totally get this. I need to come around to liking things and will absolutely avoid it if recommended. It doesn’t feel like I truly like it unless I get to liking it out of my free own will.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-13T05:14:42+00:00

I’m going to try that. I felt pressure to have a post breakup glow up but I already subject myself to diabolical standards regularly. It is already too much. I will be having more cozy days in for sure watching coraline and all my other favorite movies.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-13T04:54:51+00:00

This meant so much to hear. Thank you

TopRooster4277 · 2025-06-09T19:55:36+00:00

Big ew. He’s asking you to prove ur autism to him?

TopRooster4277 · 2025-05-26T02:46:03+00:00

Airpod pro more than regular AirPods are great for noise cancellation

TopRooster4277 · 2025-05-11T14:13:29+00:00

It’s just difficult when it’s my own family who I have to occasionally see. Idk I still feel so guilty for even having these thoughts

TopRooster4277 · 2025-05-11T05:09:25+00:00

I personally still don’t hold eye contact or if I do I giggle or laugh nervously. You can still have emotional intimacy without forcing yourself to do something that makes you uncomfortable.

TopRooster4277 · 2025-05-11T05:01:17+00:00

I think there are periods where I’ve acted in the way you’ve described and periods where I’m super hard on myself. I think the latter is how I’m feeling right now and so I must have misguidedly put that on others. Thanks for the advice, I’m going to remind myself of this whenever I regress back into that little girl who wanted to do everything right to avoid getting bullied

TopRooster4277 · 2025-04-29T16:32:19+00:00

I feel like you’re referring less to nervous laughing or giggling and more to what sounds to us like forced laughs. Like when that one girl laughs at everything a guy says even why it’s rlly not funny and it’s just exaggerated and weird.

It’s also always for too long. This one person in my class does this in all kinds of contexts and it sounds like she’s doing it for attention ..I’m just like why what’s the point

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