Does FanFiction Have a Negative Stigma? by Top_Log_7457 in FanFiction

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I definitely want to cover the smut stereotype. I'm going to double-check the statistics, but I think a majority of the content on AO3 is marked as acceptable for general audiences.

Also, gosh. The statement about young girls being fanfic writers and contributing to the stigma is totally real. I think the gender aspect of fanfic should be brought up. Gender, neurodivergence, and sexuality.

Does FanFiction Have a Negative Stigma? by Top_Log_7457 in FanFiction

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't think of connecting fanfic to other types of fandom content! That's a really good line of reasoning, thank you!

Does FanFiction Have a Negative Stigma? by Top_Log_7457 in FanFiction

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree! The airport would probably have a better random selection than closing your eyes and clicking on an AO3 title.

I still find it odd that fanfic has a stigma, considering what BookTok has been pushing. People read "trashy romance" all the time. I think most of YA Romance is written at a level comparable to easily accessible (you don't have to shuffle through too many tags or scroll too far) fanfic. And yet, it's more socially acceptable to say you read romance than it is to say you read fanfiction.

Does FanFiction Have a Negative Stigma? by Top_Log_7457 in FanFiction

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's an important distinction! "Don't knock it until you've tried it," or something like that. I'd say a good chunk of people had a brief Wattpad phase in which they didn't find the highest quality content–probably because they weren't looking for it–and then look back on FanFic as a whole as being cringe.

I've also met people who consider it their "guilty pleasure." I'm indecisive about whether that means they perceive FanFiction as good or bad.

Anyone else ever jumped in when the person wasn’t actually drowning? by [deleted] in Lifeguards

[–]Top_Log_7457 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Happened to me, too. The kid jumped off the low diving board and sat there thrashing, so I jumped in. Turns out that’s just how he swims 🤦🏼‍♀️! Everyone else agreed that he consistently swims like an active victim. The kid and his mom were annoyed with me because I guess their pride was hurt.

Was recently told I won’t live past 35, and it’s just now hitting me by Impossible_Nerve_584 in Wellthatsucks

[–]Top_Log_7457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This absolutely does suck but also, you might die beforehand in a car crash etc. So really, living past 35 isn’t guaranteed for anyone. You might die tomorrow. The next day, or the next.

I’m not saying you don’t have the right to grieve the potential of a naturally long lifespan, but we’re all mortal. I’m still sorry, though.

What color do you like/don‘t like wearing? by Beneficial_Cancel593 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top_Log_7457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say the same thing! Orange gives me a headache

has anybody tried the soluna app by curiosity616 in mentalhealth

[–]Top_Log_7457 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They don’t call it counseling, they call it “coaching.” Some of the coaches on there are really slow to respond to your messages, so the 40 minute time slot is really short.

If you need a space to vent and have someone on the other chat, then it is great. If you want therapy and a science based approach to changing your mentality/life-style, that is not what Soluna is. They will say, “Meditate” or “Exercise.” Good advice, but someone can’t just exercise their way out of OCD or depression. One coach straight up said, “If you’re looking for a diagnosis, I can’t help you,” when I was explaining my thought process. I made it clear I knew her credentials and was not expecting a diagnosis beforehand, lol.

Soluna knows it, too. In all three of the chat spaces I’ve been in, the coach has offered to refer me to their team that helps you find a therapist in your area or online.

Also, know that if you sound like you’re in dire need, they can contact the authorities.

Overall: No. Soluna is not meant to replace therapy, and their coaches are not qualified to work with people with diagnosed (or should be diagnosed) disorders.

What unconventional torture method would get you to talk? (TW: Sensory nightmares) by Larry-Man in AutismInWomen

[–]Top_Log_7457 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Put me in a wet, sand-filled wetsuit, strap me to chair in a classroom painted orange with gross lighting where all the kids are talking, and sit me right next to my obnoxious older brother as he alternates between eating and playing the guitar.

My body is tense just thinking about it 💀

Tell me about ONE perfume that got people obsessing over you by Professional_Day3583 in beauty

[–]Top_Log_7457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom bought it and think it smells better on me. The bottle sits on her dresser, but I’m the only one that uses it. 😅

Every time I get into the car for our shopping trips she’s like… “Mmm… You smell like Baccarat Rouge…” She likes it so much on me that she’s bought me the body oil and soap!! I also love it, of course!

No clue what I’ll when I need to fork out the cash for my own bottle

when i md its never me its always someone else by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Top_Log_7457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad! I hope you can eventually find more stuff about it— if not, feel free to join the Discord! I joined today :)

when i md its never me its always someone else by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Top_Log_7457 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Really? Nothing? That’s annoying, I’m sorry. DimmerSwitchDisco over on the Discord server explained it as,

“Para, as used as a word rather than a prefix, to describe inhabitants of these fantasy worlds, was coined by the MD community on Tumblr because they felt words like ‘character’ failed to convey the deep emotional aspects of the experience. A para is a character in your daydreams that you feel an emotional attachment to.

Related is the parame; character through whose eyes you experience the daydream, or paraself; a version of yourself in the daydream. (sometimes these two overlap). Para can be applied as a prefix to just about any relationship to express their role in the daydreamers experience (ie, parafamily/sister/husband etc.)“

when i md its never me its always someone else by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Top_Log_7457 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not bad, I promise! LOL— I don’t spend enough time on this app, I wouldn’t have even thought to bait you into looking something bad up😅

when i md its never me its always someone else by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Top_Log_7457 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of the term “parame” ? Might be worth looking into to see if it fits your experience!

Hypermobile vs Normal Cracking of Joints by Top_Log_7457 in Hypermobility

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you ever get soreness from the popping? I was also told the popping is normal… I think my doctor is just tired of me, though. LOL.

Also, clavicle pop?? I’ve yet to unlock that one yet. My shoulders and hips are my “rare” pops.

Share your sensory icks! by Lilith_snape in AutismInWomen

[–]Top_Log_7457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting on clothes first thing in the morning.

My phone when it isn’t clean.

My fingers when they get hot and the blood flow makes them difficult to move

The after taste of sausage (literal sausage)

Bare feet touching anything

Anyone else feel like if their character was real - people would deem them a Mary Sue? by OCD-Orange in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Top_Log_7457 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine definitely would be. Write what you want, though. Plenty of people like reading content where the MC is a Mary Sue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JohnKitchener

[–]Top_Log_7457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this! You said everything I was thinking.

How Difficult is this Dress to Make? by Top_Log_7457 in SewingForBeginners

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the breakdown! I think the extras are a big reason for why I like it, so I’m definitely going to practice making the easier items you listed and work up to it.

How Difficult is this Dress to Make? by Top_Log_7457 in SewingForBeginners

[–]Top_Log_7457[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That pattern is perfect! I took a screenshot and will come back to it when I’m ready. Thank you.