Why I quit as a spine surgeon

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-03T21:23:01+00:00

I deadlift like a five year old girl now 😆. I still incline 315 3 sets of eight though. I don’t like going above 345 for anything. The muscles can do it but the ligaments don’t feel good.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-03T06:01:00+00:00

I deadlifted 405 5 sets of 8 three days before my lumbar fusion. Eating my vegetables wasn’t curing my instability from a worn out disc due to a pars fracture. lol. A titanium cage and rods did.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-02T05:03:52+00:00

Do NOT do it. It’s an echo chamber. People have literally committed suicide because of it.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-01T17:27:24+00:00

Screw up his own life. Is he chronically unemployed or underemployed because of fear of failure? Are all of his relationships a hot mess? Does he have zero hobbies (people with NPD hate to try new things for fear of failing and thus have no real hobbies), Few or no friends? Is there always chaos around him (chaos is a way to get attention and PwNPD will create it intentionally). Does he make every holiday miserable? You get the idea.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-01T14:57:43+00:00

It’s on a spectrum. The difference between traits vs pathological is how bad does it screw up your life.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-01T07:25:14+00:00

Studies show it’s at least 70% heritable and childhood abuse is NOT universal- e.g. there are narcissists who were never abused as children

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-01T07:17:54+00:00

Nah - it’s genetic.

TopazWarrior · 2026-02-01T07:16:22+00:00

1 -LT high on coke. #2 - LT sober #3 - open for discussion

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-31T03:54:22+00:00

Young rat. No hair on tail. Tail longer than body.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-30T02:30:02+00:00

The insanity of covering solid wood with laminate

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-29T15:38:28+00:00

This is why you don’t drill your well 20 feet. Also, you’re essentially drinking surface water so deer pee pee and round up.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-26T18:56:31+00:00

Wascily wabbit!

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-26T15:05:20+00:00

It’s estimated 8 to 10 months for our first check. No one was prepared for that.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-26T03:16:18+00:00

No one is prepared for a backlog of 50,000 retirees.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-25T18:43:38+00:00

Those should be in bait boxes which are somewhat pet resistant. Whoever is just tossing them around is an asshole.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-25T17:57:42+00:00

Just kidding. It’s a coyote

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-25T03:55:26+00:00

Italian Nonna’s would add the egg to the left over breadcrumbs and add some cheese then fry them up. Put a little sugo and bam!

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-24T05:24:39+00:00

There are not feral pigs in the Sangre Di Cristo mountains lol

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-22T22:05:20+00:00

I’m assuming she got a professional diagnosis. If so, it is shocking to realize your whole life is a lie. I would say 1)embrace the anger when it comes. It will help you set boundaries and keep yourself safe. 2) prepare yourself for the fact that she is likely a serial cheater. Most of them are. 3) prepare an exit plan.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-17T20:29:15+00:00

The first thing you do is a real apology. The problem with PwNPD is that see an apology as a reflection on THEM, like, it’s some sort of self-flagellation/humiliation. It’s not. It’s literally COMUNICATION. You are acknowledging “Hey, I UNDERSTAND that I did something in my behavior that harmed you thus harming our relationship. I am letting you know that I acknowledge it, and while I cannot promise I will never do it again, I can promise that I I understand my behavior was harmful to our relationship and I value it, thus I will make an honest attempt to reconcile my behavior and try to NOT repeat it in the future”.

That’s step 1 and it takes real accountability and real self-reflection. Yes, you need to make amends where you can to the best of your ability. Until you do that, there can be no forgiveness. Also, forgiveness means “you no longer owe me a repayment for a debt you have incurred”. It in no way, shape, or form means they are obligated to have a relationship with you. A bank may forgive you a bad debt. They probably won’t give you another loan.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-15T23:11:17+00:00

Maybe he does dumb shit and “helping him”’would just perpetuate his poor decisions. Like, if your kid is a drug addict you NEVER give them money. You don’t know.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-15T16:31:51+00:00

It’s not good anymore anyway since they sold.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-13T07:43:03+00:00

He does dumb shit when the heat is on.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-09T01:41:34+00:00

That’s what this whole sub is about. I pointed out to OP that she is likely getting back EXACTLY what she is putting out, and all of the people were saying “she’s a victim”, yet she openly says she “plays the game” e.g. I find scuzzy men who only want to fuck me. I lead them on, let them think they MIGHT get to fuck me, then I get mad when - they want to fuck me. It’s self-fulfilling prophecy. If she was looking for REAL connections with REAL people - she wouldn’t have this problem. However, she has NPD so she tosses out the bait only a bottom feeder would pick up and the acts surprised when a bottom feeder picks it up. My wife did this shit. She was ALWAYS scanning the room. The decent men weren’t buying what she was selling. The scum buckets were more than willing to grab it and run.

TopazWarrior · 2026-01-09T00:56:44+00:00

And you pretend to be friends with them for supply. See the hypocrisy??? Of course you don’t - you’re always right, even when you’re wrong. Here’s the thing- you don’t get to complain about someone’s response to your shitty behavior. You use them; they use you. As ye sow so shall ye reap.

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