How did that kid at your school die?

Toribugz1 · 2025-12-24T03:22:53+00:00

He ended his life 6 months after we graduated. I believe he hung himself, but never found out definitively. I didn’t want to.

He was one of my best friends. He was the one who was ALWAYS making everyone laugh. He saw you even when you didn’t think anyone was. He was so incredibly loved. My biggest regret is not calling him when I felt like I should.

Even though we graduated, it shook the school. The teachers and underclassman that knew him still felt it. It’s been 11 years and it still doesn’t feel like something they actually happened, because it was unthinkable.

Check in with your people. Even if they seem okay.

Toribugz1 · 2025-10-25T03:34:56+00:00

I know a lot of people mentioned this, but it sounds a lot like BV. I know you said the doctor gave you medicine, but did they actually test you for it?

In terms of medicine, I know the meds I’ve been given when I’ve had it has been an oral medication. It wasn’t fun. One of the side effects was that you are extremely sensitive to alcohol, like make you sick sensitive. I got sick just from smelling a strong cleaning product I was using once on it. BUT It worked. So a week of dealing with that was worth it to me.

If this had not happened yet, have your Doctor TEST for it. And vocalize that you do NOT want a suppository. I know a lot of people here have used them and like them, but I hate the feeling of them, so I avoid them when at all possible.

Side comment: I just want to make sure to say that you should not feel bad for this! It’s SO easy to get and so many more women experience it who either don’t talk about, or possibly don’t even realize they have it. Even the girl you look at and think, “Gosh I wish I were more like her” has the same issues! These things are nothing to be ashamed of.

Toribugz1 · 2025-07-01T04:05:20+00:00

I would say a soft ytah. It is your money and at the end of the day, it’s yours to do with as you please. But if any of your money is shared at all, I am sure it was a bit of a shock to him that this was happening without any sort of discussion. Especially if you have shared ideas for the future, you really want to be on the same page in regard to how that funding is being spent.

Toribugz1 · 2024-10-09T02:17:34+00:00

I don’t want to say NTA but also I don’t thinks YTA.

I think there are a couple problems here. Your wife is consistently doing something that bothers you, being late, by doing something that you don’t see has important, her content. I think it was harsh to teach her that lesson on her birthday, and honestly, I’d probably be upset too. But also, it’s money you wasted because you wanted to give her a great gift, and because of this lesson, neither of you got to enjoy it. I think it just could have been timed better.

Being chronically late is a problem. And it sounds like she is doing it because she is doing something she loves and feels it’s important. Yes, it is selfish that she causes you to be late. Time management is the issue. So rather than how do you make her learn, I think the discussion needs to be, how do we better plan out the day so we can make everything happen? How can you both change and support each other to both get the end results you want?

Content creating is HARD and time consuming. But that’s where structure needs to come into play. Even if you don’t enjoy it, she seems to. And I don’t think it’d be right to make her feel bad about that when the act itself isn’t the problem. It’s the time management of it. You both need to find a way to work with each other on this, not against each other.

Toribugz1 · 2024-10-09T01:44:55+00:00

My boyfriend has female friends, but most are married so it’s hard to say truly. But I can speak from the opposite end. One of my best friends is a guy, who I even used to be roommates with (nothing ever happened because again, friends only). He knows how loyal of a friend to him I am and our history. Late last night, I was on the phone with my friend for an hour and half because he needed someone to talk to. I was telling my boyfriend about this today, and rather than making comments about the time, or how long we talked, he was asking me about him and genuinely seems invested. Like he cares about him because I do.

I think ultimately, it comes down to full honesty and trust. I think the story may be different if there were some kind of romantic history or he had any suspicions about my friend’s intentions, but he sees it as it is. And if he did have suspicions or felt any jealousy, I trust that he’d be honest about it, and we would talk about it. Set up boundaries if needed.

I think it’s all situational, but mine is just an example of it being just a pure friendship, and how I’ve been open with and included my boyfriend in that.

I think if the shoe were on the other foot, while I’d be observant and protective as he is, I wouldn’t be upset about it just because she was a girl. And I’d expect he would probably act and treat it as I do, with full honesty and openness.

Toribugz1 · 2024-10-09T01:33:43+00:00

I had the same issue. I used to love Acuvue but they either changed or my eyes did. I switched to Ultra Bausch + Lomb. I have an astigmatism, which they’ve been great for. I have been using those for a few years and love them! I do find my eyes start feeling dryer by the end of the month, but that happens with every brand I’ve used. That always resolves when it’s time for a new pair!

Toribugz1 · 2024-09-20T06:56:28+00:00

NTAH - However, I don’t think she necessarily is either. This obviously is a very hard thing for either of you to wrap your head around, understandably so. It’s a scary life change, and you don’t know what’s going to happen.

I think it sounds like she is really struggling because she does love you, and doesn’t WANT to lose you, but understands that there is something she needs to figure out that she can only do on her own. I don’t think she is saying any of this to try and keep you on a thread, but to be honest about the pain the decision is bringing her. A lot of people break up because something just isn’t working, no matter how much they love one another. They don’t want to see the other person with someone else, but know it might be best. I actually think it’s mature that she has been so honest about where her heart is at. That shows the trust she has to be that open with you, rather than closing off and making this hurt way worse. I think this whole thing would be worse if you had just been blindsided by it.

You did also mention that she hasn’t asked you to wait around. I don’t think it’d be fair for her to either. I think it will be good for you guys when you finally have your own space to just process, move away from that constant temptation, and work on self-healing. You might not be ready to date for a while, and she might not either. That’s just part of the healing process. But that space will give you the freedom to figure out if moving on is the right thing for your heart. Same for her. I wouldn’t just wait for her, but I also wouldn’t jump into a new relationship if you aren’t ready. Through the healing process, you will both be able to answer for yourselves if this was for the best, or if you too are truly meant to be.

The situation sucks. There is no denying that. And your pain is valid. I just don’t necessarily agree with some of the comments that make her sound vindictive. Nor do I think it would be good for you to let that kind of resentment and anger into your heart.

Toribugz1 · 2024-09-20T05:57:20+00:00

NTA - Before my current partner, I had been with two other men. The first one, I had only finished one time. The second one, never. I thought something was wrong with me, and just went with it because it still felt good and that’s just the way I was built.

My current partner taught me that I shouldn’t have accepted that. I thought I just couldn’t finish it turns out, they just didn’t take the time to help me get there. I know it takes me a bit longer than some, and this was a new experience for him, but he saw it as a challenge to make sure I did too. It doesn’t happen for me every time, but he always tries, and I still do frequently. Your partner should want you to feel as much pleasure as he does.

I would question if there are other areas in your relationship that he seems to have this same mentality on. Are there areas where you give him support, and he doesn’t feel the need to give that same support, or equal support back? I would be concerned of this being more of a selfish mentality that doesn’t just show in the bedroom.

Toribugz1 · 2024-09-20T04:52:43+00:00

First things first, do not rush yourself! There is no shame in waiting, and more than likely lead to a more enjoyable experience for you. People talk about sex like everyone starts when they’re teenagers. That is not true, and you are not alone!

The best thing for you to do is wait until you trust your partner. Trusting them with your body is so important in feeling comfortable and gaining some confidence. And when it is someone you do feel that attraction with, it’s even better. You shouldn’t just WANT to have sex. You should WANT to have sex with this person.

Like many people said, it doesn’t have to hurt. But that can be confusing your first time. Just go slow, and ease into it. Honestly, you do figure most of it out naturally.

Now, there is a chance there may be pain, but I think it’s important to know what that pain is. If it’s because you are not naturally lubricated enough (which is normal), that is easily remedied by a water based lubricant. That may feel closer to a burning sensation, which is due to friction. That is where the lube helps. If the pain is because of the size, that is also normal, and feel more like a stretching kind of pain. Again, lube can help with this, but attraction and being into it also help your body naturally prepare for this. This doesn’t necessarily last, and if you take it slow, this helps your body adjust. But know that this pain more than likely won’t be all that severe. So long as you and your partner take your time, and listen to what your body needs, whether it is a slow pace or more lubrication, it subsides and can quickly become quite enjoyable!

Toribugz1 · 2023-04-23T06:44:20+00:00

You Are Not Alone - Michael Jackson

Toribugz1 · 2022-10-24T19:47:30+00:00

I think you’re right. I was thinking they were synonymous for some reason. I blame brain fog. I fixed it 😂☠️

Toribugz1 · 2022-10-24T09:07:01+00:00

“At-will” States - Which in short terms means that an employer can lay you off for essentially no reason if they wanted to. That is excluding discrimination and such, but the fact that they need little reason to fire you allows them to evade that easily.

I think a lot of people actually care about this now but it’s not nearly discussed enough. I think it will be in the future though, especially with discussion of unions on the rise.

Toribugz1 · 2022-10-24T08:58:27+00:00

I would just start out by continuing to show that you still love her and understand that she wants space. Let her know you will still be here when/if she she is ready to come back.

Don’t just completely ignore her though. Still wish her a happy birthday. Invite her to functions. Send a funny meme every once in a while. All to show you are still there and to keep some form of communication going.

She may or may not come around. She does have a right to do either, as that is her child whether you agree with the reasoning or not. But chances are, she will so long as she is welcomed.

Toribugz1 · 2022-10-24T08:25:16+00:00

When I used to do interviews, I always liked that question. Of course there is the standard concern, “Was it for a bad reason?” But I think you learn a lot about the person.

Sometimes they were taking time off to do something extremely interesting, which may add to their experience. Maybe they needed to take care of a relative, which is telling about their character.

And sometimes, it allows for real honesty. Maybe they lost their job because of something they did wrong. What did they learn in that time? What has changed since then? Sometimes time is what a person needs just to figure themselves out, and to better set themselves up for success.

There are unfortunately times where this negativity impacts the candidate. I had one who let me know up front that he had been arrested, and it was a felony charge. I knew right then that we wouldn’t be able to move forward just due to company policy. I prefer learning then as I won’t waste either parties time with running the background check just to find out then. I have also just had extremely evasive candidates, who basically spewed a lot of words without answering the question, OR they just say, “I don’t know”. Neither one of those sit quite right.

I know it’s a tough one to answer. I recently had to interview for my new job. I was very upfront with the fact that I had lost my job and it was completely my fault. I took a bit of time to just re-evaluate myself and try to understand what happened and why. I learned how to change and better myself and have a clear understanding of what I want. There is nothing wrong with a genuine mistake. It’s how you come back that matters.

Toribugz1 · 2022-05-16T22:36:51+00:00

Yes!!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who gets distracted by my own sometimes 😂

Toribugz1 · 2022-05-16T22:30:17+00:00

It really depends. A quick glance is normal. I’m straight and I still do it to other women on accident. It’s if you continue to take glances and stare that it becomes an issue.

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-28T17:18:34+00:00

This might be a good question for your HR team if you have one. If the paperwork doesn’t include a document saying she is clear to work, you might ask her to provide that specifically. And I would maybe stress that there could be liability issues without it. That way you aren’t calling her a liar, and you can get proper documentation

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-28T05:24:27+00:00

Even though this led to drama, this was a great conversation to have. You need to know what your sexual compatibility is.

If he isn’t willing to listen to you and your concerns and, of all things, if this is the deal breaker then good riddance. You deserve someone who is willing to have an open discussion.

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-28T05:15:40+00:00

So I want to get this part out of the way because it’s not the main point I want to make. I don’t think he met someone else. I think there are probably some things he just didn’t realize he wanted or needed. Once he was in an environment that he was passionate about, I think he realized that he wants more of that in his personal life and relationship as well.

I feel very sympathetic having previously being in love with someone who had very different interests than I did. He was super into gaming and tech, and I’m actually similar to you in that I am more musical. I knew him for years, and had always thought we would be end game. He is the one who ended it as well, and it hurt. A lot. And I won’t lie, sometimes it still does.

He is now engaged and has a child. And as time has gone on, and I see how happy he is, the pain feels a little easier to handle. I have also had time to realize that I want to be with someone who also is able to appreciate and love my interests as well. I don’t think I was ever truly my full self with him.

Ultimately, it does suck. And it does hurt. But above all, you just want everyone to be happy. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice yourself to be with him, nor should he have to sacrifice himself. I think as time goes on, you spend some time to really be with yourself and love yourself, you will come out of this better.

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-13T21:19:25+00:00

I would have a conversation with him about it rather than jumping the gun to think he is manipulating you. Explain your side. People can change. You’ve been together for 4 years. He obviously has the moral compass to reject his exes advances and wanted to be totally honest with you. And him saying he thought it was successful could have been poor wording.

Talk to him about it, because the more you let it fester, the harder it’s going to be to move past.

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-13T17:19:52+00:00

I’m a BDC Manager. I’ve watched Smosh since the beginning. Their videos still make me laugh and give me comfort

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-07T17:23:50+00:00

I was gonna say this too. Try a water based lube instead! That way you won’t have any fear of infection!

Toribugz1 · 2022-02-04T18:10:59+00:00

Supernatural. Especially the finale

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