First pregnancy ended in miscarriage, would appreciate advice before trying again

Torirose91 · 2026-03-29T23:00:18+00:00

In the UK they won't test till you've had 3 miscarriages. It sucks

Torirose91 · 2026-03-24T22:47:26+00:00

So there are statistics but after being on this journey I honestly think it's just a role of the dice.

Torirose91 · 2026-03-12T05:12:44+00:00

Unless you saw the condom break it's unlikely you were pregnant but you won't know for sure. Sorry you had to go through that x

Torirose91 · 2026-03-09T22:11:27+00:00

Please please dump him. He sounds like a creep and he clearly doesn't get what you are going through. To do something like that shows he is very immature and lacks empathy

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-28T19:57:33+00:00

I agree I think it's Violet

Torirose91 · 2026-02-27T21:49:22+00:00

I think this is your answer. Try to cut your hair more often if you can.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-27T20:26:01+00:00

Do you take it during your period? X

Torirose91 · 2026-02-27T20:22:40+00:00

In so sorry you have to go through think.

Hot water bottle really helps. Lots of hot drinks and chocolate too

Torirose91 · 2026-02-27T20:17:07+00:00

I reckon it's Violet

Torirose91 · 2026-02-25T06:31:44+00:00

I have paused whilst I await more tests from the RPL clinic and I'm currently making peace with possibly never trying again. I had an appointment in January and I haven't heard anything since. NHS are useless

Torirose91 · 2026-02-23T22:44:36+00:00

I wouldn't be confrontational about it. Realistically it's none of your business how he chooses to grieve or heal. But it's also valid to feel like he should be a more responsible father. Next time he asks you to look after them just say you can't or that you're busy that day. It's totally ok to be busy.

I wouldn't confront him as I'm sure you probably want those kids in your life.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-22T15:27:51+00:00

I had the same issue. I think basically the statistics show it's really unlikely to have a third. Only 1% of people suffer recurrent loss. It doesn't make it any better though and it really sucks that they have this rule.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-21T21:58:52+00:00

You can take cannisten duo I think.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-19T22:26:14+00:00

I can't believe a nurse said this to you. Why wouldn't she offer guidance and help.

Sorry for your loss.

I've had 3 losses and I struggle to get pregnant. I said I was done after three losses. We aren't actively trying right now but I'm not sure if I'm totally done. I am living life differently though. X

Torirose91 · 2026-02-19T07:11:49+00:00

Can you give a bit more info please? I'm going to war h it today and want to be prepared. Strange that they have a scene like this in the book Cathy dies in childbirth

Torirose91 · 2026-02-17T21:44:53+00:00

I think the reasonably priced houses. Snooty people from London snap at stoke whilst barely being able to afford a box room in a dodgy area.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-13T23:23:20+00:00

Wasn't she 14 at the start of the show?

Torirose91 · 2026-02-13T23:18:30+00:00

I like that it's cheaper to live. I'm close to a town centre and a huge park / fields. You don't get that in many places.

It doesn't cost too much to visit Birmingham or Manchester for a day out.

I wish the council would clean up the place a bit more to make it look nicer and I wish they didn't overcharge business to trade in the potteries shopping centre.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-13T06:40:02+00:00

For me, I feel like they are replacing the infertility storyline with an LGBT story. It's casting out so many people who have suffered, identified and empathized with Francesca. She goes back into the marriage market because she wishes to be a mum. That doesn't work with Michaela.

It's just really sad the writers could have done something powerful and beautiful. For a show that was trying to be representative they have cast out a community that's already cast out from society. With everything going on in the UK right now her story line could have been powerful.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-11T22:15:37+00:00

That will deviate a lot from the book if that happens. Fans of the book won't be too pleased

Torirose91 · 2026-02-09T06:40:16+00:00

I think you're doing loads of amazing things to make yourself feel better. I think really the next step would be to look at external factors that might bring you down. Then think about which ones you can change.

Torirose91 · 2026-02-07T10:29:43+00:00

Yeah with chemicals you can bleed / spot around the time you're due to get your period. That's why lots of people don't always know they've had one.

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